lewisburn Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 so she dumped me in june on the11th. she screwed around with some guy for two weeks after we broke up. It was a rough break up. When if found out she was with someone else i got pretty nasty. Well three weeks after the break up i started to communicate. this went on for 4 months until i dramatically decided to cease all contact and told i would. so its been a month and she just contacted me. she said " i just saw you driving. Been thinking of you. Hope you're well." then she texted again and said " sorry to interfere in your life. I've been wanting to text you but i haven't. Then i saw you and took it as a sign." The problem is i still really love this girl and i still feel emotionally distraught over the breakup. I would really like to make this workout with her but im not sure what to say because im afraid i may mess things up. Any advice on what I should do would be great.
ponchsox Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Do you want to set yourself back a month again and go through this all over again? It sounds like your in a bad cycle, rinse and repeat. Do what you have to do to end this. Get pissed off at her, throw darts at a voo doo doll, just don't do it!!
Mariposa10 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I just read your other thread really quick. She sounds like she's waiting for something "better" to come along. Do not respond to that text. She needs to feel what it's like to not have you around. How she would warn you not to talk about you two getting back together every time you two would hook up was DISGUSTING. I hate when people are so selfish. Do not waste your time with this woman. Even if you two were to give it a second a second chance, you both have to be really sure. Right now everybody is so emotional. If I were you, I would just delete the messages and her # and keep healing. Good luck and don't forget you can always come here and vent!
Chi townD Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 Took it as a sign? A sign for what? Her texts have no context to it. Saw you driving....hope you're well....blah...blah.... Not worth your time. 2
Frank13 Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 This is one if those deals where as soon as you reply, she will get her ego stroke and disappear. You went NC so now she wants what she can't have. The instant you reply, she sees she still has you on a string so will stop texting and disappear. 2
BottleofHope Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 (edited) This is one if those deals where as soon as you reply, she will get her ego stroke and disappear. You went NC so now she wants what she can't have. The instant you reply, she sees she still has you on a string so will stop texting and disappear. EXACTLY! She just wants her ego stroked, then as soon as you reply, she'll be gone again. She just wants something to confirm herself that you are still there and will always be there. Remember this. Think of the all the effort you did when you wanted her. All the calls, pleading, text, emails, etc. All the time spent thinking over how to win her back and all the lonely nights alone while she was having the time of her life with someone else. What she did was just a simple text, it doesn't mean anything. If she really wants to reach out to you she would have to do more than that! The possibility to track down a person isn't as limited as before, we've got emails, Facebook, mobile phones, heck, if she really wants to meet you or know that you are okay she could easily drive by and see you! I'm in the same position as you man and I always remind myself that if she really REALLY wants to get feedback or contact me, she'll have to do better than a simple text to get my attention. Stay strong with NC, if you're worth it, she'll reach out for more. Edited November 5, 2013 by BottleofHope 3
rec88 Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 I've seen stuff like this from my ex. I'm really curious to know what reason they have for sending it. I decided that they just don't put anywhere near the effort we do into thinking through our actions. So don't bother putting the same effort into deciphering theirs. Standard breadcrumbs. Ignore.
Fufu Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 so she dumped me in june on the11th. she screwed around with some guy for two weeks after we broke up. It was a rough break up. When if found out she was with someone else i got pretty nasty. Well three weeks after the break up i started to communicate. this went on for 4 months until i dramatically decided to cease all contact and told i would. so its been a month and she just contacted me. she said " i just saw you driving. Been thinking of you. Hope you're well." then she texted again and said " sorry to interfere in your life. I've been wanting to text you but i haven't. Then i saw you and took it as a sign." The problem is i still really love this girl and i still feel emotionally distraught over the breakup. I would really like to make this workout with her but im not sure what to say because im afraid i may mess things up. Any advice on what I should do would be great. Breadcrumbs.... leftover breadcrumbs. There is a possibility her new relationship with the other guy didn't work out and here she is coming back for you.......
Author lewisburn Posted November 17, 2013 Author Posted November 17, 2013 well before i decided to check back in with you guys i went ahead and contacted her. wow i really wish i would have checked back here for you advice. Well i ended up sleeping with her three times last week and now im full up on shame. I'm completely embarrassed at myself for the way iv'e acted during this whole ordeal. I found out that she was secretly pining over this other guy and was just using me as a safety net. She still has my dog and i want it back and tried to text her today but she wouldn't respond. we had a pretty huge blow out the other day. Well at least now i know there no possible chance at ever reconciling with her. I'm almost considering letting her keep the dog so i don't have to face her again. I really wish i would have just ignored her text. I know no contact is the way to go but we really don't have any mutual friends. She really doesn't have any friends so i'm not sure what to do.
chris21422 Posted November 17, 2013 Posted November 17, 2013 That's ok bro.. Now you learn and next time you know what to do.. Cheer up and go back NC well before i decided to check back in with you guys i went ahead and contacted her. wow i really wish i would have checked back here for you advice. Well i ended up sleeping with her three times last week and now im full up on shame. I'm completely embarrassed at myself for the way iv'e acted during this whole ordeal. I found out that she was secretly pining over this other guy and was just using me as a safety net. She still has my dog and i want it back and tried to text her today but she wouldn't respond. we had a pretty huge blow out the other day. Well at least now i know there no possible chance at ever reconciling with her. I'm almost considering letting her keep the dog so i don't have to face her again. I really wish i would have just ignored her text. I know no contact is the way to go but we really don't have any mutual friends. She really doesn't have any friends so i'm not sure what to do.
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