ponchsox Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I felt like a big weight was lifted off my shoulders today. I feel like I can finally move on and my ex is no longer controlling my mind. What a great feeling! 2
mendsley Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Thats awesome, thats a great feeling! Keep up the good work and keep your mind busy!
Frank13 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I felt like a big weight was lifted off my shoulders today. I feel like I can finally move on and my ex is no longer controlling my mind. What a great feeling! What caused it?
Mariposa10 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 What caused it? Yeah, I want to know. I also had sort of an "aha" moment myself the other day. I started thinking how he had a new distraction and I was suffering all the time, so I decided to start being happy or try as hard as I can. So every time I start feeling sad, I tell myself I can't allow to do that (I already did that during July and August) especially since my ex is not suffering as much as I am.
Author ponchsox Posted November 4, 2013 Author Posted November 4, 2013 What caused it? It took me 6 weeks to get over the loss of a companion, and sex. Once I cleared my mind of what was possessing me, I realized how toxic the relationship was and how I had blinders on the entire time. Perhaps this was her method to keep me around. I made a list of things I liked about her vs what I didn't like and the cons almost ran off the page while the pros only had a couple of things. 1
AnyaNova Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 Can you give me one of those? I think I need one. 1
Author ponchsox Posted November 5, 2013 Author Posted November 5, 2013 Can you give me one of those? I think I need one. It will come. Something will come up in your life that will allow you to move on. Good things can come at unexpected times in your life.
AnyaNova Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 It will come. Something will come up in your life that will allow you to move on. Good things can come at unexpected times in your life. Can't be soon enough in my book. I mean, up there in heaven, someone must be having a great laugh. Hey, let's give S., (the first letter of my real name) a really f-ed up relationship end at the beginning of the semester immediately following the semester where her friend died in one of those ways that you see on the news and think "that will never happen to me or anyone I know", and then, a week after that, let's give her really bad bronchitis so she has to miss 6 days of grad school. Hey, while she's on that bronchitis medication, lets give her a medication that she absolutely needs for her breathing, that is loaded with gluten, so she's sick for weeks after that while trying to get caught up. And hey, when she's nearly caught up, let's just blast her with the realization that she has a major personality disorder. cause she doesn't have enough to contend with as it is... :-p Apologies. I am really tired and I tend to get self-absorbed and petulant when tired. I am very glad for you, though! It must feel wonderful, and I hope to be back there, soon.
lindsay1990 Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 Anya, what do you mean realized have a PD? I think in very stressful time we can all fall back/develop crappy coping mechanisms or reactions, I don't know how serious you are about it but maybe don't go pointing the finger at yourself so definitely until you go to a professional, you know? Many things could be reactions to crazy sh*t that happens and overwhelms, not necessarily meaning that there is an inherent psychological defect in us that's irresistible and we can't help it. Just don't be so hard on yourself Sorry for the threadjack OP
AnyaNova Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 Anya, what do you mean realized have a PD? I think in very stressful time we can all fall back/develop crappy coping mechanisms or reactions, I don't know how serious you are about it but maybe don't go pointing the finger at yourself so definitely until you go to a professional, you know? Many things could be reactions to crazy sh*t that happens and overwhelms, not necessarily meaning that there is an inherent psychological defect in us that's irresistible and we can't help it. Just don't be so hard on yourself Sorry for the threadjack OP I am talking about a very pervasive pattern of avoiding and having extreme difficulty with social interaction unless I am extremely sure of not being rejected that impairs functioning. It really fits. I have my appointment with my therapist tomorrow, but I am certain the diagnosis will stick. Reading descriptions, it is very, very me.
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