Bella1985 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Hi, I split up with my boyfriend of 4 months about a month ago now and I can honestly say I miss him all the time. I think about him in the morning, in the evening, and when I try to turn my focus onto something else I dream about him at night. The start of the relationship was fantastic, but I found that he was not totally honest with me with a situation which was close to my heart, when I found out he told me the truth but that sent me on a massive wobble and I started to question everything in the relationship. I made the desiscion to end things but instantly regretted things. He said that he wanted space he wanted to be left on his own to get to be himself again. He said her may miss me he may not but I need to move on. When we initially split up I thought that we had a chance of getting back together. He would send the odd text and email, but the more I said hat I wanted to get back together the more he pulled away. He dropped off the rest of my stuff a couple of weeks ago and he spoke to my family to say that he doesn't hate me or anything he just needed space and I would y give it to him. I decided that there was no point anymore I was going round in circles but the I decided to look at him on Facebook. I saw that he'd been tagged with a mother girl and I messaged him to see if he was seeing her. I asked him to be honest as I would find it easier I think if he was just seeing someone else? I guess I know then that he doesn't miss me and he doesn't care. He said that he wasn't seeing anyone and he wasn't going to tell me he was just so I can move on. I just feel frustrated. I would love nothing more than for us to get back together but I feel like he hates me and he has no love or feelings and he's just cut me out of his life. I sit at home crying and he's seeing someone else and isn't hurting at all. It's so hard I just kinda want to know if anyone has any advice on how I should move on or if you think there is a chance of getting back together? Hope you can help x
headinthecloud Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I'm sorry you're going through this but you really need to accept that he is gone and is not coming back. Go full NC (no contact) and do not look at Facebook or any social media nor google search or ask friends. Delete all emails, photos, and memorabilia from your life. It's time to only think of you. There will be good and bad days. On the bad days, post here. I also found the breakuprecoveryguide.com site helped me too (Topics of Breakup Recovery Guide). In a few months time of NC you will start to feel much better. This will pass, it just takes time. Work on healing yourself on the meantime.
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