rikki10 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 (edited) Hi! This is my first thread here... Me and my ex broke up around 2 weeks ago, the 19th October. We ended it mutually, mostly because he said things weren't the same anymore for him (when we weren't together). The weekend before we broke up, I had been visiting him where he lived, around 1 hour away from me. It's not such a big distance, but it's long enough in the sense where we can't see eachother whenever we want to, or every weekend. When I was at his place that weekend, we were on the verge of breaking up, but we came through it and tried to fix things. After we talked, he was completely normal with me - kissing me on the cheek, hugging me all the time, kissing me, telling me he loved me, and so on. There was nothing weird about us, not like it wasn't the same for him anymore. But after I went home, it seems like he looses interest in me, and is not good at maintaining contact. We've been together for 1 year and some months, and he's 18 and I'm 17, turning 18 in one month. We're still very young, but we talked about marriage and me moving there when I was done with school. We loved eachother deeply. He's a quite stubborn guy, and he's always thought that I would be better off without him. I've always held on to him, and through the bad times in our relationship, I've always managed to fix things and get us back on track. The thing is though.. We ended us over some texts. He was on a weekend trip with his cousin, and it just seemed like there wasn't any hope left, so for both of us, it was okay to end it over texts. We ended it on a saturday, and I changed my relationship status and removed my picture on facebook right after. When he came home on sunday night, he changed his status, but not the picture. The day after, on monday, he removed the picture of us and deleted me from skype. On tuesday, he deleted me from facebook after I liked some guy's picture. Some days later I changed my profile picture on facebook, and many of our mutual friends liked this, so I'm guessing that he saw my picture popping up all the time, and that was the reason that he blocked me the day after. We had no contact for 2 weeks. This saturday he took away the blocking from facebook, and wrote me a text on my phone. It was on the lines of: "Hey "my name" I just wanted to wish you good luck in life, and thanks for everything. I also want to say that there's a great deal of things I wish I did differently, but that doesn't help much now. I've learned very much from the time I had with you, and I will, of course, never forget that time. I hope you find someone more suiting for you than I was, that I am sure you will. And I wanted to make sure that you won't hold on to what I said so long ago, because that probably takes a lot unfortunately (I think he meant a conversation on skype, where he asked if we could try again in the future, if we ever went our seperate ways). Goodbye, and seeya later sometime." BUT! I didn't recieve this text. He sent it 09:14 pm (I got it today, a really late message.. probably something wrong with the phone company), and when he didn't get a response, he wrote "Sorry for sending that message to you. I had no right to do that, and I won't bother you again, now that I've realized what I lost." This text, he sent 02:41 am. The day after, when I woke up I wrote "What text?" Which he replied to some hours later, saying "Don't think about it. It's probably better this way anyways." I didn't answer this text, so around half an hour later, he wrote "You don't care anymore, do you?" I didn't reply straight away to this text either. 30 minutes after that message, he wrote "I'm happy for you, for feeling that way. Hope you get a good life "my name", and hope you find someone fitting for you." Ten minutes after recieving this text, I wrote "Yes "His name", I do care, a lot." And it's now been one day with no more answer from him. Through the relationship, I was always the one who acted a bit desperate, and he would be the one that would wait a long time till texting back. And now the tables have turned. I still love him, and I know that if he grows up, and gets more mature, that he would be a good boyfriend. He's treated me extremely good, and wrote nice, cute, romantic letters to me, and he's showed how much he loves me. But, the immature part comes in sometimes, and then he turns into a boy, who can only care for himself and can't handle my needs. But... What I was wondering, was what does the texts means? He acted a bit desperate, and wrote text after text after text.. He probably figured I would be answering straight away and begging him to get our relationship back, but I didn't.. I left him with saying that I cared deeply, which for me, shows that there's still hope, and a quite open text, which he can respond to if he wants. Does it seem like he's done with me, based on the messages where he wrote that he hoped I found someone better and so on.. Or do you think he will respond? I know that nobody knows how his mind works, but I would really like to hear from a guy's perspective, how this looks.. Note: I was quite surprised that he wrote to me after only two weeks, considering how stubborn he is. English isn't my first language, so sorry if it's hard to understand.. Edited November 4, 2013 by rikki10
TylerDurdenn Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 You speak better English than me! Very similar to what my ex did to me, give me a glimmer of hope through text but when I said fine let's meet and sort it out she declined saying she couldn't be with me. Take it how you like, it's a difficult one.
Author rikki10 Posted November 4, 2013 Author Posted November 4, 2013 (edited) You speak better English than me! Very similar to what my ex did to me, give me a glimmer of hope through text but when I said fine let's meet and sort it out she declined saying she couldn't be with me. Take it how you like, it's a difficult one. Thank you for answering! Yeah, it's a difficult one.. I wouldn't go as far with my ex for asking us to fix things, cause I've always been the one.. It's his choice. Too bad about your ex Wondering if that's what my ex would do too... But should I write him any more texts, or just wait, and be patient? Is that my smartest move? From the looks of it, to get a reaction from him, I have to show no reaction.. And if I'm completely gone, it'll be easier for him to miss me.. I hope. I'm not trying to play a game with him, I'm only trying to play my cards right, with him coming back if that's what he wants. Don't know if this adds anything to it, but he was my first boyfriend and I was his first girlfriend. Edited November 4, 2013 by rikki10
Author rikki10 Posted November 4, 2013 Author Posted November 4, 2013 I'm feeling really angry right now... I want to write something in the lines of "But I see you don't.. Well, I hope the best for you too, and that you'll find a girl who's enough for you, and means everything for you".. The "I see you don't" was for the last message I wrote, where I said I care a lot... Does this just seem silly? I'm really mad atm, and I'm dissappointed, cause I just feel like he never cared enough, even though I think he did sometimes... I don't know what to do
ThisGal Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 This is a ridiculously long post. People need to learn to summarize.
ThisGal Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 We've been together for 1 year and some months, and he's 18 and I'm 17, turning 18 in one month. Honestly this is all I read, my eyes went directly to your age. You both are way too young...for whatever the issue may be. Wait until you're older to start thinking about serious relationships. Worry about school. I guess I should actually read the thread first
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