confused83 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 This girl is really confusing me, we're adults not kids so I cannot understand why these sort of games are being played. I cannot tell if she does like me or is just playing hard to get so here goes. We've been dating around 3 months now and evertyhing is nice when we're together but twice now when we've been apart shes made out shes not that into me and says things like 'something isnt clicking for me' so i be nice and say thats fine if thats how you feel type thing. I don't really bug her or anything and never once had a go at her for it as I know some people would ive just been nice about it all, anyway twice now she has come back ringing me asking to go out for a drink and see where things go. Trouble is now this second time we're meant to be meeting for a drink but i feel i dont want to be messed about anymore, if i like her and she likes me it should be easy. If she is playing games then I ask why would she be doing this? and if you think she just doesnt like me that much then ill have to move on. Just really confusing me as when we're together she will say the nicest things and I do the same but apart she can be a nightmare. I dont want to get into something at my age now where its on and off every week i want something easy and stable. I do trust her 100% so thatts not an issue
Philosoraptor Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Sounds like someone that's dating others, but when that doesn't work out you're there as a backup option so she doesn't have to be alone. Sorry you've wasted 3 months on her, don't waste anymore. 1
LifeIsGreat Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 Doesn't sound like a game to me. She was very straightforward: "Something isn't clicking for me". Doesn't mean she's playing you, she may just like your company. I have several women I hang out with (even go away for the weekend with) that don't "click" with me for a relationship but I enjoy their company---and do so without leading them on. If you're OK just being friends with her, then do what you're doing with no pressure on her. If you are starting to have real feelings for her you should be honest and tell her you're interested in more and for that reason think it's best if you don't see each other.
Author confused83 Posted November 7, 2013 Author Posted November 7, 2013 Basically long story short we planned to meet Friday (this was Sunday at the time) but Monday I was getting some terrible advice saying I should message her to say 'no we need to meet earlier if you want to give it a second go I can't wait' to which I said so many times its a stupid idea, then after half an hour of a friend saying 'she's with someone else' 'she doesn't care about you' etc etc I ended up getting that annoyed I asked to meet earlier to which she replied basically if I couldn't wait till Friday we should just leave us now. I do really want her back so should I see tomorrow if she fancies meeting or just leave it as I'm guessing she will be expecting me to ask anyway so don't want to put her off. Really don't no whether to ask or leave it or ask Sunday if she hasn't messaged me. So hard to not come of needy when i just want to see her, really wish id not sent that text asking to meet earlier, a knew it was a bad idea. Confused
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