jba10582 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Went on a couple dates that went well. During one of the dates she had mentioned something about going out with her friend and getting guys to buy them drinks one night and mentioned her “wing woman”. So I texted her a curiosity text. "I was curious about something you said earlier” she immediately responded, then Texted asking her if girls did that mostly to get guys to just buy them drinks or to try and meet guys? I figured it was stupid a text to ask but was genuinely interested in hearing her answer…plus I figured girls s**t test guys like this, so what the hell. As expected, she did not text back (haha). She knew I was going to be away out of town that next week and I had not received any response or anything for about a week. So after that time I sent her one more text I asking if she still wanted to hang out. I deleted her number after one day with no response. She responded the day after I deleted her number giving some excuse about her friend in town and then asked how I was doing (I still recognized it was her). I did not respond, should I? Should I have even gone that route I took on the initial text? I kind of don’t care really and not too emotionally invested in her at this point. What do you love shack experts think?
d0nnivain Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I think you need to pick up the phone & call the woman. Texting is the world's worst form of communication & should be reserved for things like : Good Morning; please pick up milk & I'm running late. 1
greenfairie Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I'm a girl, and I honestly don't feel texting is the way to go. I'm the worst with texting. Sometimes I would get texts from guys I'd be interested in but wouldn't even read the texts for days because I'm not a phone person. I'm pretty good at replying back to e-mails though, so I respond almost daily to e-mails. Some people respond to texts daily or almost daily…. Everyone's different with technology. Just because we all have cell phones… that doesn't mean we have the motivation to text. We wanna be able to hear your voice or see your face, that SHOWS us ladies that you're actually interested.
MrCastle Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I drop people who don't have the same communication style I do. Texting is a form of communication but it's so impersonal people deem it acceptable to ignore texts and not respond to them until days later, if at all. That doesn't work for me. Communication is a major part of how much chemistry two people have and if you guys have different communication styles, it usually makes things harder.
Author jba10582 Posted November 4, 2013 Author Posted November 4, 2013 I generally text near the beginning of a relationship because it’s more informal purposefully and allows the person to respond on their own leisure and being courteous to them. It would also make sense in my case during these past weeks in work related instances. I.e. When my ex and I were together, she would know to text me especially during business hours rather than call because of this very reason that a lot can go on in a busy day, so I would prefer this line of communication in this regard. I think the point of the matter I was trying to ask and the point is not so much the line of communication but rather the LACK of response and delayed response time. I have decided I am not going to pursue this and I agree with someone on having a total chemistry which is not there.
MrCastle Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I generally text near the beginning of a relationship because it’s more informal purposefully and allows the person to respond on their own leisure and being courteous to them. It would also make sense in my case during these past weeks in work related instances. I.e. When my ex and I were together, she would know to text me especially during business hours rather than call because of this very reason that a lot can go on in a busy day, so I would prefer this line of communication in this regard. [/Quote] You don't have to defend your reasoning. We all have our preferences when it comes to communication. I value texting more than anything else. I'm young and there's a lot of upside to texting in my opinion. I have tried to be with people who see texting as useless banter in which rules of courtesy and consideration are non existent and it just doesn't work. What works for me are people who understand even though they are just words on a screen, they are coming from a human being, and deserve to be recognized as such. That includes being timely in responses, or explaining why they were not timely, as opposed to just ignoring the message altogether, along with a few other rules. And people who value phone calls over texting, too, should seek people who feel the same. Communication is communication no matter what the medium. It's better when you're with someone who shares the same beliefs/rules of communication that you do I think the point of the matter I was trying to ask and the point is not so much the line of communication but rather the LACK of response and delayed response time. I have decided I am not going to pursue this and I agree with someone on having a total chemistry which is not there. Exactly.
odin673 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I'd move on. Why date someone who goes out with her wing woman with the intention of using guys for free drinks. 2
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