30andsad Posted November 4, 2013 Share Posted November 4, 2013 So today is my birthday. What should be a happy and seminal year in my life just feels lonely and miserable today. Took day off work as usual for it but here up before 7 am feeling down. Just missing her so bad, first time in 4 years she hasn't been with me. She comes to get her things from our house next week. I stay active and busy which keeps my mind at bay pretty well, but the second I stop doing something I start feeling terrible again and I feel the activities are more full mental relief than actual enjoyment. Things were doing better I thought but my birthday party with family last night without her and this morning alone have just been a painful reminder and I feel terrible. Link to post Share on other sites
ponchsox Posted November 4, 2013 Share Posted November 4, 2013 Happy birthday! Today is your day to make you happy. An ex isn't going to do that. Do something for yourself like get a massage or buy yourself something nice. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Fufu Posted November 4, 2013 Share Posted November 4, 2013 Happy Birthday Do something to let your yourself be happy ^^ Link to post Share on other sites
xUnknown Posted November 4, 2013 Share Posted November 4, 2013 Happy Birthday to ya. I know exactly how you feel. I feel the same way about mine. almost 4weeks since BU, I still have the feelings you do. Do this right now. Its your birthday, you shoudn't feel sad anymore on your b-day. Go cry. Let it out brotha. After 10, 15, 30, however long it takes, you'll be glad its out of your system. I was feeling ****ty for 3-4 days on Saturday and decided I just wanted to let it out to be over with. 15 mins later, OK, I feel better now. Let out your emotions, then move on with your day. Don't let them get you down and bring down your entire day (or week in my case). Link to post Share on other sites
KCCK Posted November 4, 2013 Share Posted November 4, 2013 I understand how you feel, I spend the past 2 birthday with my ex and later this month, I will be spending it alone... Anyway, I just want to say something... The only person(s) you should think and thank on your birthday is definitely NOT your ex... It is your parents.. Think about them and Go thank them for making you and raising you and taking care of you all this while.. Be happy and be glad that you are alive and healthy... Dont be sad anymore and your parents will feel sad if they were to see you in this condition on your birthday... Be happy ,be merry and enjoy life... Things will get better... It always does... Link to post Share on other sites
aloneinaz Posted November 4, 2013 Share Posted November 4, 2013 Happy Birthday, Understand what you're feeling is absolutely normal. Everyone would feel that way. You're on the right tract in keeping yourself busy. Time heals all wounds and you will feel better in the future. As others have said, she didn't make you happy. YOUR thoughts about her did. Your thoughts can make you happy in your situation now as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Never Again Posted November 4, 2013 Share Posted November 4, 2013 I understand how you feel. My job made me miserable. My misery made me unattractive. My ex refused to stay with me when she was no longer attracted. I quit my job because it had taken too much from me. 2 months later, I turned 30. 30 years old, unemployed and single. My birthday made me feel like I wasn't going anywhere with my life. It was awful. Then I got breadcrumbs 38 minutes after my birthday ended. From someone that was feeling like absolute sh*t, I can tell you that it gets better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 30andsad Posted November 4, 2013 Author Share Posted November 4, 2013 Thanks so much for your encouragement, everyone! This morning was terrible, but after a good cry and listening to some music, I'm coming out of this funk a little. Going to try to play some golf with a buddy of mine and then visit my dad later this evening. Not going to be quite the 30th I expected, but I don't want it to be a complete bust either. Also, thanks so much for the birthday wishes!! Link to post Share on other sites
headinthecloud Posted November 4, 2013 Share Posted November 4, 2013 Happy Birthday! Be happy. If you can't, do as Dr. Phil says, "fake it 'til you make it!" Celebrate!! 30's are the best decade of your life. Enjoy. Link to post Share on other sites
aybc123 Posted November 4, 2013 Share Posted November 4, 2013 It's bound to make you feel like this so dont beat yourself up about it, birthdays and holidays make us reminisce and reassess anyway so its especially going to happen after a breakup. Maybe you can look at it from the other way though, you probably had a good 20's and have lots of happy memories, but now at 30 this can be a turning point, a new chapter and a time to get your life where you want it to be with things only improving again from here. Link to post Share on other sites
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