OCCDAVE Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Been talking to this girl for about a week and half and so far good.She even surprised me at work last week which made my day.Well today she text me there was a death in her family .I call her up make sure shes ok but you can tell she had been crying .I then say lets just cancel our Monday plans cause I didn't wanna come off as selfish .We then text and convos going good till this Me-hey are you trying to get to know me more Her-what ? Now I feel uneasy about this I then tried to back track and say this Me-can I call Her-no you have something to say tell me here Me -it was taken the wrong way meant to say I enjoy talking to you and hope feelings the same .But I won't lie I'd like to get to know you more . Convo ended there I didn't wanna dig my hole anymore then I had .Guess I'm confused if you are enjoying hanging with me and talking why are you uneasy .
Author OCCDAVE Posted November 4, 2013 Author Posted November 4, 2013 So I should have kept our plans for Monday after all ?I thought I was being a nice guy and respecting her .As for my confident ya I think got a lot to learn seems I can't keep my foot out my mouth
Purepony Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 If she wanted to cancel she would have cancelled herself next time let them make the move
Author OCCDAVE Posted November 4, 2013 Author Posted November 4, 2013 I see well hopefully there's still a small chance but I don't see how .Kinda sucks cause I'm not gonna be free till Thursday then my weekends are booked unless we grab a break fest on the weekend .Dunno maybe at this point call her about Thursday set something up but avoid contact . Btw after reading what your saying skid I could now see why she said that.I also got other girls number while I was at work Saturday .I left a voicemail Sunday afternoon as of now no reply what now
mammasita Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Thats one of the things that always rubs me wrong when someone asks me questions like that: Me-hey are you trying to get to know me more I think you kinda blew it there with that question and shouldn't have cancelled either - you should have left that on her. You're coming across as very timid and insecure IMO. 3
tlegend Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Honestly? The texts you sent kind of make you seem like an insecure idiot. And if after reading what Skid Mark told you, your first thought was to get someone else's number, then you are even worse off than I originally thought. You aren't into this girl. You're just wondering why she isn't into you. My 2 cents. 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted November 4, 2013 Author Posted November 4, 2013 Tbh with you that girl Saturday came up to so we exchanged numbers .In fact I am into this girl but I've always heard don't put all your eggs in one basket so I didn't seem any harm esp since were not a couple .Anyway to recover or just cut contact and if she comes back good if not lesson learned ?Guess I'm embaressed to even contact as everyone said I came off as a insecure wuss.
Author OCCDAVE Posted November 6, 2013 Author Posted November 6, 2013 Another day almost gone and no word from her.sigh should I call of so what I say
tlegend Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 Another day almost gone and no word from her.sigh should I call of so what I say You should probably call the girl you pulled while asking us about the other girl.
Author OCCDAVE Posted November 6, 2013 Author Posted November 6, 2013 You should probably call the girl you pulled while asking us about the other girl.I called her Sunday no answer
CptSaveAho Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 stop putting women on a pedastal ask out another girl and move on
Phantom888 Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 I don't know how she would be in the mood to date when someone in her family just died. It may take a while to get over, and things will just be completely dark for a while. Do you want to be with her during this time? It's not your problem so you have the choice to walk if you want to. Looks like she is not thinking about dating right now, so I think you should let this one go.
heartshaped Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 My advice- do not call her. She's had a death in her family and the last thing she wants/needs right now is to be focusing on you. She knows how you feel and if she wants to she knows how to contact you. If you insist on contacting her, ask her how she's doing etc. with the loss in her family and tell her she's been in your thoughts. Nothing heavy and I wouldn't ask her out again at this point.
Author OCCDAVE Posted November 6, 2013 Author Posted November 6, 2013 I think it sucks but ill just stop contact .Not only did she have a death but last time we talked I came off as a creep .Like you said she knows how to contact me hell she knows where I work so if she wanted to pop in like last week I'm sure she will .sigh
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