Mkdons4eva Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Hi guys, Downloaded that weird Tinder app thing and some girl started chatting to me on there. Most people I have spoken to online, the conversation is so dull and boring, but with her it is completely different. She has great chat and there is a lot of banter between us. It turns out she works a 30 second walk from me. We have been texting very consistently for 2 and half weeks now. During the first week, I asked her when she was free to meet up and she said she'd let me know. The following week, she was working during the week as opposed to the weekend. So I said I'd come down and see her as she works in a store. She was happy about this. So I overcame my nerves and went down to see her. All was good and we got on well. After I left, I replied to her previous text and said 'So, when are you going to let me take you out for a drink'. Her reply was 'Erm I dunno, we'll sort something ok ' As of yet, we are still yet to sort anything and since I have already asked twice im reluctant to ask another time! I hinted at something last night by saying I'd take her to the fireworks on Tuesday my bit was 'Id take you to the fireworks on tuesday, although you'll probably be on the double vodka and apple at ministry! Her response to that bit was 'Im not an alcoholic thank you haha!' Anyway, there is only so much more texting I can do before boredom sinks in..
d0nnivain Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 She may be shy or not who she says she is. Tell her that you need to move this to IRL or end it b/c text alone is not enough for you. This is why you shouldn't get emotionally invested in people until you meet them
Mascara Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I always just stop replying if they haven't asked me out in a couple of weeks (or in your case, after you ask her once more and she blows you off again) I don't even explain why I've gone, because I don't want them to feel like they HAVE to, or explain or whatever. If they want to flake but are too polite to say so, it gives them the opportunity to move on. If they keen but just shy - it makes them decide to s*it or get off the pot.
MidwestUSA Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 You haven't officially asked her out by stating a specific date, place and time. Either stop hinting around and ask her out, or move on. I'd say move on, she's probably bored now too. I don't understand the double vodka and apple bit, but maybe you insulted her? Such things are better left for after you've gotten to know someone.
ray.alb Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Ah yeah, it sounds like she isn't too into it. Are you sure she doesn't have a boyfriend you don't know about? Even if she doesn't, I was actually reading that more and more Americans enjoy being single: • U.S. Singles - Statistics & Facts | Statista I'd ask her a second time and if she rejects it, I wouldn't waste my time. Go and search for someone else! It really sucks to be the one doing all the work. There should also be something from her side.
scorpiogirl Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 She may not be interested. But it could also be that you "hint" and do "bits". I find constant texting annoying and guys that merely hint don't get anywhere. I don't want a man in my life who cannot be straightforward so if he doesn't outright ask me out for a particular date and time, I'm not going to take his hint and run with it. Start as you mean to go on. You can say (not in a text!) "I'd like to take you to see the fireworks on Tuesday. Are you free?" If she wants to she will say yes if she's free. If she likes you but is not free, she should suggest an alternative day/ activity. If she doesn't like you, she will pussyfoot around and ho and hum. In this case, don't keep in touch hoping she will throw you a bone. When a man asks when I am going to let him take me out, I let him know once he needs to ask properly. I do my equal share (more sometimes) of date planning and suggesting but in the beginning if you want me, come and get me. So if he's a guy that wants to be chased down he's not my type and we establish that early on.
Author Mkdons4eva Posted November 4, 2013 Author Posted November 4, 2013 She may be shy or not who she says she is. Tell her that you need to move this to IRL or end it b/c text alone is not enough for you. This is why you shouldn't get emotionally invested in people until you meet them She is who she says she is as I met her last week at her work place.
Author Mkdons4eva Posted November 4, 2013 Author Posted November 4, 2013 Thanks for the replies guys. We were talking about fireworks in central london, found a place and my last text said: 'Yeah its pretty central, fancy it?' No reply from her. Met in person and 2 weeks of solid texting, then boom shes gone. Not even strong enough to give me an explanation. Haha Onto the next one.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 She isn't interested. If she were, she'd already have responded or at the very least hinted that she might take you up on that drink. She could be dating other guys, too. As you said OP, on to the next one.
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