That_girl Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 Hey, I posted on here a while ago about this friend of mine that turned into more a boyfriend during the summer. Well we cared about each other, or at least I thought he did, untill out of nowhere he just stops calling me. I figured he had just met someone else and wanted to put me on hold for a while without ever officially ending it, so that he could just come running back when his new fling was over. (Of course this is what overthinking does to a person, but it may be true nonetheless) After almost 4 months of no contact, except the occasional phonecall or email from him, of course I just kept getting more and more frustrated wondering how someone who cared about me so much could go 4 months without seeing me, when he couldn't do without me for A WEEKEND during the 4 months we were seeing each other. After about 1 month of not seeing me, we had made plans to meet up...but then he ditched me and said we could meet up some other time. I was absolutely crushed at this point...I thought he would jump at the chance to see me again. But then I started to get the feeling that maybe he did this on purpose to hurt me, and play games with me. After the 2nd month, he sent me an email about how much he missed me. I had replied and told him to call me since his phone was disconnected, but he never did...instead he emailed me back and said that he would call me soon after he got his own **** figured out. After the 3rd month, he sent another email saying that he never wanted us to fall off and that he thought I needed my space. I think this is complete bull**** because I never said I needed space. Everything was fine...anyhow, now he's emailing me again sending me the top 5 reasons why he misses me and why he desperately needs me to email him back and tell him whether or not I've figured things out yet. I don't know what he wants me to figure out! I already had everything figured out when we were dating...I didn't want to sleep with him because I don't want him to be my first, but I knew that I wanted to be with him, and he knew all of this too, and was fine with it. And now he's trying to turn this whole 'space' thing around on me. Not that I'm certain of any of this, but I feel like the only reason he's even bothering with me now is because he was seeing someone, got dumped, and wants to com running back to me. I would have went back to him 3 or even 2 months ago...but now I just get angry at the mere thought of him...and his sappy emails. I feel like he's just trying to use me now, didn't give a **** that I needed him before, and to top it all off he's too cowardly to even CALL me as I asked. So basically, I'm just not responding to emails now, but I'm wondering if this is the right approach to this kind of situation. I don't want to talk to him at all at this point, he hasn't really bothered with me for 4 months, so why should I give him the time of day now? I dont even wanna think about him or email him, or give him the satisfaction of knowing that I actually still care...but at the same time, is it really alright for me to just blatantely ignore him?
Anais Posted December 17, 2004 Posted December 17, 2004 I don't know what he wants me to figure out! I already had everything figured out when we were dating...I didn't want to sleep with him because I don't want him to be my first, but I knew that I wanted to be with him, and he knew all of this too, and was fine with it. What you mean you don’t want him to be the first? You want him to be the second? I am confused. So basically, I'm just not responding to emails now, but I'm wondering if this is the right approach to this kind of situation. I don't want to talk to him at all at this point, he hasn't really bothered with me for 4 months, so why should I give him the time of day now? I dont even wanna think about him or email him, or give him the satisfaction of knowing that I actually still care...but at the same time, is it really alright for me to just blatantely ignore him? I think it is alright to ignore him. 4 months is a long time. So far I understood he wants you to have sex with him ; otherwise he doesn’t want to have anything to do with you?
Miss Perfection Posted December 17, 2004 Posted December 17, 2004 Why do you need to come on here and ask us for advice? You know damn right what you have to do.... I think your are confused because your feelings are pulling you one way and your logic is pulling you the other. What more does this moron have to do to make you realize that he is nothing but trouble. I know your feelings are going to take over and you will end up hooking up with him. You know why I know this? Because you had to come on here for advice about something you KNOW is not right. THINK WOMAN THINK!!! NEXT.....
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