ccryder Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 (edited) I have been dating this woman for about 2 months. At first, everything seemed great (fireworks and all that good stuff). She asked me if I was sure I didn't want a bachelor lifestyle (I live by myself in my 40's). I told her no and I dont. Im a good looking and fit man that doesn't look his age. I have never cheated on a woman and never would. I have had it done to me though 2x. She was very hesitant about being labeled as my girlfriend about a month in which we talked about, but I could tell she really liked me (maybe more). After a while, I was ready to call it off because she didn't express any signs of affection/etc. So, I made sure she was not sleeping around (I hope) and continued to have feelings for her and got closer to her. All of a sudden she started being different (extra affectionate, calling me babe and honey, etc.) which she wasn't previously doing. I was very "clingy" with her throughout this. I was more of the female in the relationship. A few days ago, I told her I love her. I have only said that to my ex wife which I was with 14 yrs and one other woman. She told me she wanted to tell me that a couple times but was afraid of getting hurt and falling in love. Shes told me her dream is to have a stable family type life????? The other night I asked her to come over and she said she was just into relaxing etc. and not going out. I got upset cause we rarely see each other (maybe 2x a week and live an hour and a half apart). She didn't have her son which is usually the reason why shes busy or she goes to school. I have practically begged her to spend more time with me in the past. She is VERY independent. I figured she would ask me to come over instead which I have no problem with. She never did and we got into an argument . I was done and ready to call it quits but she texted me. There were other instances where I felt like I wasn't being paid attention to. She says I never gave her the chance to ask me which I don't believe. She called me yesterday and told me she is confused and doesn't know if she could give me what I want ( I told her I wanted someone who can be in love and not be afraid to get hurt). Not sure if that is what she is referring to. She said she needed a break from us for a few days and would call me in a couple days. I have done several things for her and made myself clear that I am into her and want a family life. All she does is constantly thank me for stuff that I do for/to her and tell me how great I am. WTF! I feel like I should take that energy and give it to someone else but I really want to give it to her. Comments, input is greatly appreciated. Thanks Edited November 4, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
Titania22 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Based on what he wrote, it sounded clingy to me, like she has a busy life, and you are coming across needy. Not everything with women means there is another man involved.
Author ccryder Posted November 4, 2013 Author Posted November 4, 2013 No , im not sure. Which part makes u say that?Are you sure she's not seeing other men? Because, based on what you wrote, it sounds like she might be.
Author ccryder Posted November 4, 2013 Author Posted November 4, 2013 Thanks to everybody for replying. I really appreciate it. If she has such a busy life and cant date why is she on a dating site (where we met)? Why is she asking me if im sure I don't want to live a bachelor life? Why is she talking about family, etc? I understand I may have moved too fast. But, were both 40+. Yes, I was clingy with her, but only cause I am very into her. Woman are so confusing....... Thanks again Based on what he wrote, it sounded clingy to me, like she has a busy life, and you are coming across needy. Not everything with women means there is another man involved.
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