Jord11 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I'm just curious I'm a couple months nc, haven't got one word,do they ever wonder what you're up too and how you're doing ? or do they not care
keepontruckin Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 They typically don't care. My wife left seven months ago, and I do not exist to her. However, when I dug out an old laptop, I did find that the browsing history contained searches of all of her exes about a week before our wedding day! 1
Fufu Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Some do contact, some don't. It's really depending on the individuals. 1
ponchsox Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Pretty sure after what I told her yesterday she won't be contacting me, ever.
melell Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Some do, some don't. Most are better off never being contacted again.
HorseLuck Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 It's dependent on the how the relationship was, the problems, the individual person. If they loved that person they surely think of them at one point or another.
aloneinaz Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 The part you need to get to is when you don't think, care or wonder if they will ever contact you again. It's natural after a relationship to wonder if the ex will reach out again. As time passes and you move on to a new relationship, you're likely to not care or put much if any thought to your ex. To your question, in most cases, if you were dumped, you likely won't hear from them again. Why? Because they were done with the relationship far before they ended it and were emotionally ready to move on. 5
xUnknown Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 The part you need to get to is when you don't think, care or wonder if they will ever contact you again. It's natural after a relationship to wonder if the ex will reach out again. As time passes and you move on to a new relationship, you're likely to not care or put much if any thought to your ex. To your question, in most cases, if you were dumped, you likely won't hear from them again. Why? Because they were done with the relationship far before they ended it and were emotionally ready to move on. In reference to your first paragraph, this is where I'm at. I keep wondering if/when she'll contact me again. I know she will based off how we ended things. A text from her to my good friend the other day mentioned "she would want to try in the future". I know we aren't right for eachother (maybe just not right now, I don't know), but that little bit that keeps remembering the good wants her back. It sucks.
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Some do and some do not. My ex has not contacted me and it has been two years. You'd be surprised at how very little one can care in this world. Best not to worry if they contact you or not. It only keeps the pain alive. 4
aloneinaz Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 In reference to your first paragraph, this is where I'm at. I keep wondering if/when she'll contact me again. I know she will based off how we ended things. A text from her to my good friend the other day mentioned "she would want to try in the future". I know we aren't right for eachother (maybe just not right now, I don't know), but that little bit that keeps remembering the good wants her back. It sucks. The other thing to keep in mind is this; when a relationship ends, it means it was broken. Most if not all reconciliations don't work. I know several couple that have been married 20+ years. They NEVER broke up once and the thought of that was not even something they could envision. I have been in several long term relationship that were off/on. They never worked cause once we got back together and the new honeymoon phase ended, all the same problems that broke us up were there. People don't change. If there are core issues w/compatibility with your partners behavior, personality or views on life, RUN, cause it's not going to work.
Inviv_girl Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 Dont sit around and wondering why they dont reach out, cuz normally they dont care. They probably done with us far before even the relationship ended. The relationship is death so no point of wondering about them anymore! harsh truth really, but actually depends on the person, maybe if they have heart they will somehow try to reach out to us the dumpee.. just to know if we are death or alive! sucks really!!
reddragon588 Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 Does an ex ever contact you again? If you're lucky, then no. 1
theonlyjuan Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 Depends, if you were violent and a bad partner then probably not. I have always had my ex's contact me after some time of me ignoring them. Best way to be is not asking this question, you shouldn't care or worry about them contacting you. You need to move on with your life. In my experience as soon as I have moved on and doing well then they contact me, by then I have no interest in them.
yorkie Posted November 6, 2013 Posted November 6, 2013 (edited) no i wasnt violent we lived together for 12 and a half years two kids and a great and i mean great family. i personally feel we settled down to young and she feels she has missed out maybe on doing things ie running a marathon etc so she says but she has started smoking again which she blames me for she blames me for everything i really think she is messed up and i guess im scared. im scared that if i do move on and she asks me back if you know what i mean. i cant help loving her. and all i can do is hope my ex will come back, but come back on my terms and proove that is was gigs. i hope your ex does contact you and i hope either way you heal to Edited November 6, 2013 by yorkie
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