BrunetteBabe1005 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Please read, cause I am so confused. It all started when this guy Ryan started working for my dad's construction company and he would stare at me like deep stares. Then he got my number called and texted me incessantly for awhile. He also asked me out a lot, but because he works for my dad and my cousin was convincing me he was a bad guy and telling me stories about him, and I believed her, so I rejected. I felt such a connection though with him that I figured I will figure it out for myself if he is a bad guy. So I kept talking to him and we went out with friends, never one on one, but everytime I went out with him I had so much fun with him! Even our friends said "you two are a duo" cause of our humor and the pranks we did. I loved hanging out with him. But I knew the reality that I couldn't be with him, cause of him working for my dad and such. Well we were just friends. He then called me up and told him his deepest issues, and I helped him through his tough times. I felt even more connected to him. Everytime we went out with friends he always tried to kiss me. He also says "I love you" a lot to me. Like he was deeply staring at me and then he walked by me and said "I love you" But I was getting comfortable with him enough to go out with him one on one. When I was about to tell him I liked him and wanted to date him he told me he liked some other girl. So he texts me on my birthday and then I don't text him back and then he calls me and says "we should do something later, let's do something!" so I text him later do something and it ends up he is at a restaurant with friends and Natalie (the girl he likes) He blows me off, basically. So I went to a party and I found out that he has been with Natalie for 3 months! and he was trying to go out with me and kiss me and even offered to get a hotel with me well within the 3 months. So I was baffled but I knew that he was with Natalie. So just like 2 weeks ago my dad mentions this guy;s name I like and Ryan got all jelaous. He gets very very jealous of guys which is another thing but I don't want to get into that, but he does get possessive of other guys and questions the hell out of me. So anyways Ryan got all jealous and he said "What? Roxy is way too hot for him, she is also way too good for him!" "If those 2 date I will never speak to her again" Like why does he care if he has a girlfriend? And he never complimented me to my face so that was odd. Then like a week later my dad gives me a puzzled look and I say "What's wrong dad?" He says "Ryan said that you two have been dating for past 3 months is that true?" I laughed and said "Well all we've been doing is talking" I had to convince my dad it wasn;t true, and when I confronted Ryan he said he was just joking. So he is doing all of this in the mist of his relationship with this girl Natalie, whom I know as well. He admits to other people that they are dating, but he denies it to me. Like he'll bring her up to me, and then I will jokingly hint if they are having sex and he will deny it. Like I said "Are you guys friends with benefits?" He said "NO!" My dad also said innocently are you dating Natalie, and Ryan also denied that and it was just him and my dad. He brings her up though to me, but he denies being in a relationship with her. My friend said he is definitely lying cause he is very detailed about their sex life, and he said they have been together. Which I can tell anyways, but yet he denies it to me? He also has been distant, and barely calls or texts me anymore but yet he has been doing this stuff. Also I will add in another story, that I had to take Ryan home and he mad me stop at a store, and then when we got back in the car he said "So was this our first date? Does this mean we are dating?" I said "Haha our first date at Rite Aid? And buddy you have a girlfriend!" He got all quiet. Like why does he care who I date if he is in a relationship? He messes with my emotions, and I feel obsessed with him. Like I just saw him 3 days ago and it feels like years like I want to see him again! I miss him so much! I have been going out with other guys, but they just don't seem to cut it. They are not like him. I just think "I wish I was out with Ryan" I think about hi 24/7 I feel crazy! I never acted this way about any guy, and I don't know what he wants from me. I feel like I am so attached to him, but yet he has a girlfriend that he denies to me about, and he barely calls or texts me anymore. He is making me feel like I am not top priority and that I am nothing now, and I just am very sad and depressed cause I really do like him a lot. I just feel like he consumes my mind. Help me, cause I feel crazy and sorry for this long post, I just want to be very detailed and tell what you think his actions are? Please help! Am I crazy! Just would like to add too that my friend said not to mention my name to this one girl (stupid drama) and he said "You know I can't go one day without mentioning Roxy" like he always seems infatuated with me when he sees me, but like I said above there are other things that makes it confusing. And when we were in the store he said "Wanna makeout" but he said it almost like his brain was thinking it but it wasn't suppose to come out, lol! He also keeps bringing up this guy that I went out with, and he keeps insulting him. I am just so confused! ANd I feel obsessed!
ScreamingTrees Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Got you by the balls, he does. Tsk, tsk..
Whyareyoumyfox Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Lol he sure knows how to f*ck with you. I find it SO FRUSTRATING when I hear the rap about women and how they're manipulative. MEN ARE THE EXACT SAME. 1
Janesays Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 This guy is a player. He feels nothing for you. You would be smart to walk away. However, you probably won't and will have to learn he is trash the hard way. 2
StanMusial Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 You were warned. By someone who knows the guy. Go talk to your cousin about it. 1
Meadowgreen Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 ...Did I just read an outline from a REALLY bad Degrassi episode? This guy can't be for real, right?? You're feeling obsessed with him because he's an expert player and knows what buttons to push with you. I've been in your exact position and it sucks. They get you so hooked on their empty words, so drawn in with their schemes, when all they are are shallow, bored and probably narcissistic *******s (go to this blog and read up on them, you might find out some stuff that reads all too familiar...) You've been warned that he's trouble, but the problem with bad guys is that they're so seductive, so intense, so....full of it. This dude is SO infatuated with himself, he literally thinks he can get any chick he wants. I appreciate the tough position you're in with him working at your Dad's place, but it really would be in your best interest to put as much distance between you as possible. If he TRULY wants a shot at dating you, he needs to grow the **** up and stop messing with people's feelings. Honestly, he sounds like a douche to the max, not to mention that he's massively disrespecting this Natalie girl too. Again, I completely understand why he's got you in a lather, but every time you feel that rush just keep thinking of how you'd feel if your very best friend was being messed with like this. You wouldn't like it, and you CERTAINLY would'nt like him. 1
tlegend Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 This is just wrong in so many ways.... Wake up and smell the coffee. This is a destructive relationship at best, and an abusive one at that. Leave. Now. 1
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