FitChick Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 A man on a dating website suggested we exchange photos so he wouldn't have to keep logging on to look at mine. This was after we had had a long phone conversation. He sent me one he had used as his main profile pic, so I did the same. I would have preferred seeing one that wasn't on the profile but mimicked his actions. He immediately took down his profile and I never heard from him again. A few weeks later he was back up on the site and made me a 'favorite' and I did the same but no other contact. He has my personal email and if he were interested he knows where to find me. What concerns me is what he did with my photo. Jerking off with it? Not entirely unexpected. Part of a 'trophy' collection? Again, not unusual. Is there anything nefarious he could do with my photo? I wasn't posed provocatively nor wearing anything revealing. During our phone call he did seem a bit agitated talking about women who didn't look like their photos when he met them, but I told similar stories. Odd.
Divasu Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Eh, people are weird. YEARS ago (before online dating), something similar happened. Except, it was an actual picture from one of those wind up kodak cameras. He saw the photo in my apartment and asked if he could have it. Wouldn't/never gave the photo back. Odd.
antonio1149 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 What concerns me is what he did with my photo. Jerking off with it? Not entirely unexpected. Really?? I'm always surprised when women says things like this. Are they not aware that a quick visit to Google can supply an endless stream of sexy photos and videos of some of the hottest women on the planet? I haven't seen you, but I have a hard time believing you provide some sort of unique masturbatory experience that can't easily be found through other means. Part of a 'trophy' collection? Again, not unusual. No, that actually would be very unusual unless the guy was in the .001% of the population who had some sort of mental illness. Is there anything nefarious he could do with my photo? I wasn't posed provocatively nor wearing anything revealing. Odd.I've been doing OLD for a while and I think I can speak for the vast majority of men. Here's what I do with the photos: absolute nothing. If they don't catch my interest (usually the case), they are instantly forgotten and are eventually deleted when I do some digital housecleaning.
gaius Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I think I can speak for the vast majority of men. You speak for yourself. A lot of guys get off more on women they've actually interacted with. As crazy as that sounds. I would be surprised if he threw out the picture since it's a souvenir and he asked for it. I doubt he's masturbating to it since he's the one that stopped calling. Though I'm pretty sure someone out there is masturbating to FitChick, if that makes you feel any better. 3
Imported Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Really?? I'm always surprised when women says things like this. Are they not aware that a quick visit to Google can supply an endless stream of sexy photos and videos of some of the hottest women on the planet? I haven't seen you, but I have a hard time believing you provide some sort of unique masturbatory experience that can't easily be found through other means. Me personally, I like real life better than Google. 2
antonio1149 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 You speak for yourself. A lot of guys get off more on women they've actually interacted with. As crazy as that sounds. If they had met, and he thought she was incredibly sexy, you might have a point. But they didn't--they had a phone conversation and he has her G-rated photo. He apparently didn't find her appealing enough to want to meet her. There's not a whole lot of potential fantasy material there, especially vs. what's available on the Internet. I would be surprised if he threw out the picture since it's a souvenir What is your evidence for this? Guys are not doing OLD to get "souvenirs," they're doing it to meet women. (Women, on the other hand, often do OLD to boost their egos and therefore are more likely to just "collect photos" and not meet anyone.) and he asked for it. I doubt he's masturbating to it since he's the one that stopped calling. Though I'm pretty sure someone out there is masturbating to FitChick, if that makes you feel any better.The odds are much better that if you're the source of anyone's fantasies, it's people you *do* interact with on a regular basis--your coworkers, your fellow church members, your massage therapist. I assume you don't go through life worrying a lot about this, so I wouldn't worry too much about some stranger who has your G-rated photo. Let's not scare the nice ladies here with theories that there are lots of creepy guys out there who will do perverted things with their photos when logic and evidence suggest otherwise.
mammasita Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 (edited) I guess he didn't know how to take a screen shot LOL. Edited November 4, 2013 by mammasita
Author FitChick Posted November 5, 2013 Author Posted November 5, 2013 (edited) If they had met, and he thought she was incredibly sexy, you might have a point. But they didn't--they had a phone conversation and he has her G-rated photo. He apparently didn't find her appealing enough to want to meet her. He lives in another country. More to do with expense. There are plenty of men who would rather have the fantasy woman than the real woman over fears of rejection or inability to perform sexually. As for more attractive women to beat off to, why do you think amateur porn is more popular than professional porn? They are "real people" and not actors being paid. Edited November 5, 2013 by FitChick
gaius Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 If they had met, and he thought she was incredibly sexy, you might have a point. But they didn't--they had a phone conversation and he has her G-rated photo. He apparently didn't find her appealing enough to want to meet her. There's not a whole lot of potential fantasy material there, especially vs. what's available on the Internet. What is your evidence for this? Guys are not doing OLD to get "souvenirs," they're doing it to meet women. (Women, on the other hand, often do OLD to boost their egos and therefore are more likely to just "collect photos" and not meet anyone.) I actually met one of my girlfriends on here and used to jerk off to her headshot even before we met in person. Because I was attracted to her looks as well as her personality and the dynamic we had. You really don't always need the breasts and behind to get off. Unless you're a slave to porn of course. But as I said before he probably isn't jerking off since he didn't do everything in his power to meet her in person. He asked her for something he could have just gotten himself with a screenshot as mamasita said. Fit validated him by sending him a pic, and stuff that represents validation like that guys usually don't throw out. I don't and none of the guys I know do. At least not right away. The older guys I know still have pics and phone numbers women sent them from 20 years ago.
crederer Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 I've done similar things. It isn't anything devious. If I've gone a while without seeing a person, and was thiking of the person, I like to look at a photo of them while thinking of them. People are visual creatures. Images help the memory.
RedRobin Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 Maybe he was hoping you'd up the ante and send him something more provocative rather than just a profile type pic like he sent you. Lots of women do that, I bet. I never would... but lots do, no doubt. 1
phineas Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 So you sent him a pic that anyone on the site can just right click & save? I don't understand why you are worried about sending something that is already in the public domain to someone.
Author FitChick Posted November 5, 2013 Author Posted November 5, 2013 Maybe he was hoping you'd up the ante and send him something more provocative rather than just a profile type pic like he sent you. Lots of women do that, I bet. I never would... but lots do, no doubt. That was my thought. He was very eager to Skype, too. I just got kind of an "off" vibe. I'm not looking for phone sex or cyber sex. I feel better now! Thanks!
todreaminblue Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 A man on a dating website suggested we exchange photos so he wouldn't have to keep logging on to look at mine. This was after we had had a long phone conversation. He sent me one he had used as his main profile pic, so I did the same. I would have preferred seeing one that wasn't on the profile but mimicked his actions. He immediately took down his profile and I never heard from him again. A few weeks later he was back up on the site and made me a 'favorite' and I did the same but no other contact. He has my personal email and if he were interested he knows where to find me. What concerns me is what he did with my photo. Jerking off with it? Not entirely unexpected. Part of a 'trophy' collection? Again, not unusual. Is there anything nefarious he could do with my photo? I wasn't posed provocatively nor wearing anything revealing. During our phone call he did seem a bit agitated talking about women who didn't look like their photos when he met them, but I told similar stories. Odd. yeah have a problem with photos for this reason ....a guy took a photo of me once and i foudn it on hsi bathroom door on teh back of th edoor...blown up...wasn timpressed...yuk foul ......nearly killed him......kidding ....dropped him though and ripped the photo into tiny little pieces...as i do every photo of me eventually...by putting my photo up on th eitnernet i am exceedign my comfort zoen for a specific reason dont really understand it but i ti sne4cessary apparently....ijus tnow understand why i used to rip up phtoos though so thankyou for psoting this........deborah 2
heartshaped Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 During our phone call he did seem a bit agitated talking about women who didn't look like their photos when he met them, but I told similar stories. Odd. This plus he seemed eager to Skype might indicate he just wanted to make sure you looked like your photos. I think a good deal of men and women online use older photos of themselves or "better" looking photos or even sometimes photos that aren't even them.
antonio1149 Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 He lives in another country. More to do with expense. There are plenty of men who would rather have the fantasy woman than the real woman over fears of rejection or inability to perform sexually. There are many more men who would rather meet a real woman so they can have a relationship, or sex, or love, or just a nice conversation over coffee. But that's a different issue than whether the guy wanted your photo so he could jerk off to it. I don't want to impugn your OLD strategies, but I'm a little puzzled as to why you thought a guy in another country was a good prospect. As for more attractive women to beat off to, why do you think amateur porn is more popular than professional porn? They are "real people" and not actors being paid.I don't think that's true. Can you cite some credible research to back that up? But anyway ... men can go to a search engine and find any sort of visual stimulation that happens to tickle their fancy. Whether it's "amateur" or "pro" is really irrelevant. Even if something is "amateur," though, I think it's fair to say that a man will like it because it contains an attractive (to him) woman who is naked and performing sexual acts. That's a whole 'nother level of stimulation than a G-rated photo.
antonio1149 Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 I actually met one of my girlfriends on here and used to jerk off to her headshot even before we met in person. Because I was attracted to her looks as well as her personality and the dynamic we had. You really don't always need the breasts and behind to get off. Unless you're a slave to porn of course. Of course, the very reason we have Playboy, Penthouse and whole porn industry is because it offered something that wasn't available before--i.e., breasts, behinds, etc. I think you're an exception. I haven't done research on this, but I believe most men don't get off sexually on pictures of a woman's face, especially a relative stranger. If this was commonplace, there never would've been Playboy et al. to begin with. Men in the 50's would've just been content to buy "Better Homes and Gardens" and get off to pictures of smiling homemakers showing off their new Frigidaires. He asked her for something he could have just gotten himself with a screenshot as mamasita said. Fit validated him by sending him a pic, and stuff that represents validation like that guys usually don't throw out. I don't and none of the guys I know do. At least not right away. The older guys I know still have pics and phone numbers women sent them from 20 years ago.I still have pictures of old girlfriends as well as hundreds of other pictures from my past. I keep them all for historical and sentimental reasons. I do not jerk off to them. But that's different from the original topic here. As stated earlier, when women send me pictures through OLD, if I'm not interested, they're instantly forgotten and eventually if not immediately deleted. Being the subject of interest to a woman who doesn't appeal to you is not "validating." Just as an added point: I recognize that any woman who sends me a picture is doing it for my eyes only, and out of respect and consideration for another person, even one I don't know, I would never pass her picture on or use it for anything other than its intended purpose.
Author FitChick Posted November 5, 2013 Author Posted November 5, 2013 Another possible reason might be that you can see the date and time on somephotos, can't you? I am not talking about the visible date on the photo but an imbedded one or something. I am not a techie so I wouldn't know. I have some photos with a date of 2007 that were taken a year or two ago. My battery went dead and the date reset itself to date of manufacture I guess. I need to check all of my photos now! Perhaps if I save them again on my hard drive the date will be current. Antonio, it isn't unusual for men to fly to my city to meet me or to send me a plane ticket to meet them.
Author FitChick Posted November 5, 2013 Author Posted November 5, 2013 I still have pictures of old girlfriends as well as hundreds of other pictures from my past. I keep them all for historical and sentimental reasons. I do not jerk off to them. You may be the odd one.
Phantom888 Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 If you are on FB, someone has your picture. As long as they the pictures do not show you in a negative light, you should be fine. People take pictures of strangers all the time.
todreaminblue Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 This plus he seemed eager to Skype might indicate he just wanted to make sure you looked like your photos. I think a good deal of men and women online use older photos of themselves or "better" looking photos or even sometimes photos that aren't even them. yeah soem women have multiple personalities and if you look hard enough you can see it in their eyes...i ahev a theroy that how you feel is reflected in the camerta lens......i have this photo o fme only a couple of months old posted ti fro cerri to see me.......i wanted her to see me ...i look nothign liek the photo now i have had a ahir cut or two maybe three not sure......and i feel differen tth emajority fo th etime soemtimes ill look at the photo of em from two moths ago and ill come back to that palce......i am nto fodn pf photos mayeb fro this reason as well as the oen i gavce above....i have a rpoblem with viewing photos of me where i may have had trauma...i am body dymosrphic as well...sooo.....thats that..most fo the time i see th einner fat girl even though peopel say stop debbie dont lose anymore...i will never be fit enough for me when people say that its liek i get this militant in me saying no go smaller mor ecompact......be stronger and really i liek my cuves they are part fo me that is soft ......the dancer in me has curves surprisingly so does the child a very very soft open face............deborah
antonio1149 Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 Most people I know put that stuff in a box which sits in the attic. All my buddies who ever had old photos of GFs threw those out long before they ever got married. From my experience, most women I know do not like BFs / Husbands who keep that sort of stuff lying around. For many, it would cause MAJOR problems. A couple of years ago, my (now ex) girlfriend and I went through my box of photos. She not only wasn't the slightest bit bothered that I had pictures of my exes, she was amused and curious to see other women I had dated before her. BTW, she was in her early 20's and not exactly what I'd call fully mature. Anyone who would have a problem with this kind of thing is extremely insecure, among other issues.
Imported Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 What do they do with the photos? Put it in the sock draw. :lmao:
crederer Posted November 7, 2013 Posted November 7, 2013 No, that actually would be very unusual unless the guy was in the .001% of the population who had some sort of mental illness. You think that few people have a mental illness? I can guarentee you it is significantly more than that. OP, I don't really know what he's doing with the photo's, OLD is weird in general and this dude also sounds weird.
antonio1149 Posted November 8, 2013 Posted November 8, 2013 Originally Posted by antonio1149 I still have pictures of old girlfriends as well as hundreds of other pictures from my past. I keep them all for historical and sentimental reasons. I do not jerk off to them. You may be the odd one. Odd because I keep photos of old girlfriends, or because I don't jerk off to them?
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