Anethen Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 "It is better to take many small steps in the right direction than to make a great leap forward, only to stumble backward." I came upon this quote on the internet and it really got me thinking how this could be applied to a break up. Most of us on here dealing with a recent break up are wondering, When does the pain go away? When will I move on and be over my ex? I just want to move on!!! Instead of us trying to move on so quickly we need to allow ourselves to heal, but in small steps. This is crucial. If we block away the pain or if we move on with another person too quickly, we will only be "stumbling backwards" because we are only temporarily moving on and one day the pain will come back to haunt us and be even worse. So, if you think it's taking a long time for you to get over your ex, just remember that small steps are good for your overall long-term healing. I don't know why, but this quote just spoke to me. 2
xUnknown Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 "It is better to take many small steps in the right direction than to make a great leap forward, only to stumble backward." I came upon this quote on the internet and it really got me thinking how this could be applied to a break up. Most of us on here dealing with a recent break up are wondering, When does the pain go away? When will I move on and be over my ex? I just want to move on!!! Instead of us trying to move on so quickly we need to allow ourselves to heal, but in small steps. This is crucial. If we block away the pain or if we move on with another person too quickly, we will only be "stumbling backwards" because we are only temporarily moving on and one day the pain will come back to haunt us and be even worse. So, if you think it's taking a long time for you to get over your ex, just remember that small steps are good for your overall long-term healing. I don't know why, but this quote just spoke to me. Thank you. I needed to hear this. It will be 1 month this upcoming Friday that we've been officially broken up (2 weeks before that we were on a break). I know I need to move on and I've been seeing a doc to help gather my thoughts and help me move in the correct direction myself. (I highly recommend this to everyone - it certainly does help). My hardest part is disassociating things that I see (movies/music, etc) that remind me of her. I feel this is where I manage to take steps backwards. I know she is not the best for me (at least right now in my life) and I need to move forward from the past 2 yr relationship...however, there is that small part of me that wants her back. Seeing and associating these things with "memories" and remembrances of her make that part that wants her back grow stronger, ultimately, makes me hurt more.
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