CarrieT Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 From a person who is getting married in three days (and have had a few melt-downs in the preparatory process), I found this particularly insightful. Clickety. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.” 8
SerCay Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 loved it..wish more people would think like this in our individualistic society of today 1
Solcita2 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 LOVED IT... sharing to my F Thanx for sharing
Woggle Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Marriage is for both of us in my marriage. If it isn't making both our lives better what is the point? 3
dichotomy Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 That has been pretty much about my thoughts - and it really takes both partners to have this view. 1
Pretty.in.Pink Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Thanks for sharing this. There's so much truth in the posting. 1
nescafe1982 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Thanks for sharing! This post bumped me into reconsidering how my actions towards my BF of late have fallen a bit short of this ideal. We're moving in together, and I've been stressed and taking it out on him. I will have to print a part of this and take a look at it each morning or something, to remind me what is really important. 1
Nyla Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I just read this today in the paper. Congratulations! 1
CherryT Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Love it. My F and I have always gone by this concept... we both were in crap relationships before where we always gave more than the other person. We both still want to give more and it has made both of us very happy. We both kind of view our relationship as 60/40... we give 60 and expect 40. And when both of us have this view, no one is left feeling unappreciated or unvalued. Of course we all have our bad days but generally speaking, we both try to make each other happy and that effort goes a long way. 2
nescafe1982 Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 Oh, and I forgot to say it CarrieT. Congrats to you and yours! 1
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