TealQueen Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Do you like it when every once in awhile your girlfriend will be mushy? As in just completely spill her guts to you. Tell you how you make her feel. Why you make her feel that way, etc. If she just randomly says one night, "Babe, I love being with you, I love how you make me feel. I love how you appreciate the little things and everything is ok when I'm with you. You make me happy and I want to make you as happy as you make me." Or something like that, I just made that up. Would a guy like that? (If the 2 had been dating for awhile, like over a year) Or would that kind of freak him out a bit?
Keenly Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 I would love that yes. It would make me feel desired, appreciated, and on top of the world. I'm not really like most guys though.
soccerrprp Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 do you like it when every once in awhile your girlfriend will be mushy? As in just completely spill her guts to you. Tell you how you make her feel. Why you make her feel that way, etc. If she just randomly says one night, "babe, i love being with you, i love how you make me feel. I love how you appreciate the little things and everything is ok when i'm with you. You make me happy and i want to make you as happy as you make me." or something like that, i just made that up. Would a guy like that? (if the 2 had been dating for awhile, like over a year) or would that kind of freak him out a bit? love it! Love it!
Grumpybutfun Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Yes, we like stuff like that but only if it has been an appropriate amount of time and we are in a committed relationship. Cold women have never turned me on, I like a warm woman who is confident in her feelings. Yes, Yes, Yes, Grumps
Ninjainpajamas Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Depends.. If he's really into you and wants to be with you..then yes If he's not that into you and he's just stringing you along, then no....might be a ticket to catch the next train out of town Dating a guy for over a year and haven't said anything "mushy" to each other yet? sounds very suspicious to me...and the fact that you're asking about "mushy stuff" seems more like you're asking if "it's ok to tell this guy completely how I feel, will he like it?"....if you have to ask/wonder, it makes me wonder why you haven't shared any real expressive moments with each other already...but then again I realize many relationships out there in general are....less than expressive/communicative. Hopefully you guys are on the same page. 1
melell Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 I am a girl, hope you don't mind me answering! In my experience guys really do like that, and any kind of praise or compliment is great. I think it goes for both genders- everyone wants to feel appreciated at times. For me nothing feels as good as knowing I have made someone feel good about themselves, so if you tell someone they make you feel good I'm pretty sure they would like it.
Author TealQueen Posted November 3, 2013 Author Posted November 3, 2013 We have been "mushy" before. We have told each other why we love the other, how the other makes us feel. We've had those moments, but not really any where it's me emptying my soul to him pretty much. The kind of mushy conversation that will take like 10 minutes of me just going on and on about him.
bumpyroad Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 I'm not a guy, but I can't see why anyone wouldn't really like that (provided it's not said on the first date!). Men and women aren't all that different, we all have a basic human need to be seen, to be received for who we are, to feel appreciated and desired. And we need to hear it sometimes as well as being shown. There's enough misery in the world as it is, we should all spread some more love. / 1
Shepp Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Err that's a tough one.. my girlfriend isn't mushy at all, she'd tell you she doesn't buy into romance e.t.c I'm not overly that way either - I think maybe because we started out as friends... we have a lot of banter and I love that, and she has no problem being flirty just not mushy as such. She'll always call me out on being a 'soppy git' but....there's a song lyric that goes "So I went out and bought her roses she complained about the thorns, I caught her smiling and that's' what I do it for" and that's me and her definitely. I guess the thing is when she all totally seriously looks at me and says like "You have no idea how much I love you" coming from her, that means a lot. Probably more than a whole paragraph of mushiness from another girl. I guess, I feel like words are just that, words. I'm an actions man. I think I would find it a little awkward if I was with a girl who poured out a lot of mushiness......maybe because I'm just not used to it, most people take the he-loves-himself-enough-already-stance 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 We have been "mushy" before. We have told each other why we love the other, how the other makes us feel. We've had those moments, but not really any where it's me emptying my soul to him pretty much. The kind of mushy conversation that will take like 10 minutes of me just going on and on about him. I mean, do you have something in particular in mind? How has he reacted to "mushy" moments in the past? does he seem into it or just kind of pulls away or is shy about it?
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 I get super mushy and had many different reactions, depends on the guy really. Although I can't imagine dating a guy that doesn't like my mushy side.
crederer Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Ya for sure. Just don't do it all the time cause it takes the meaning out of it. I mean I like roast beef but I don't want it everyday. One time my ex said to me "you're my best friend" and the way she said it, with so much sincerity and love, it was probably the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me. Even though it sounds corny, just reading what I typed makes me want to roll my eyes, but in the situation and how it was presented was just so genuine. 1
thefooloftheyear Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Nah.... Give me a strong woman every day...Im not skeered......No nutjobs, though...There is a difference... OK...I misunderstood the original intent of the thread..I wouldnt have any problem with the stuff mentioned...I just dont like weak crybabies.. TFY
Eclypse Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 I would love that. Unfortunately it doesn't happen often, as my girlfriend can be quite withdrawn about her feelings and emotions Usually I'm the one telling her why I love her so much.
Author TealQueen Posted November 3, 2013 Author Posted November 3, 2013 I mean, do you have something in particular in mind? How has he reacted to "mushy" moments in the past? does he seem into it or just kind of pulls away or is shy about it? Last time I said something was after I went to his house for the weekend. He had to work all weekend and got home somewhat late. I told him "I had to sit around your house all day the past 2 days, doing nothing and only get to see you for a few hours. But I'd do it again and again in a heartbeat, because I love being with you for no matter how long." After I said that, he grabbed me and passionately kissed me for awhile and held me and said that meant a lot to him. I do have some stuff in mind I want to tell him. Just tell him how he makes me feel mainly. How happy he makes me, how I love him a lot, etc.
stillafool Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 After I said that, he grabbed me and passionately kissed me for awhile and held me and said that meant a lot to him. If he did that then apparently he has no problem with your mushiness. Why the thread? Did you think you were doing something wrong?
Author TealQueen Posted November 3, 2013 Author Posted November 3, 2013 If he did that then apparently he has no problem with your mushiness. Why the thread? Did you think you were doing something wrong? No. That was me saying one thing. I'm talking now about telling him everything. Literally every feeling and emotion I have (in regards to him).
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