fluffhead Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 (edited) Hi everyone, My girlfriend, of 1 year, broke up with me just about 4 weeks ago now. It was completely out of nowhere and shocked the hell out of me. She said she was confused, and needed to figure things out (aka feelings have changed). This weirded me out because we started off as friends, meeting at college. For 6 years would become friends with benefits on and off. Then last year I finally decided to take things to the next level and asked her out. We never looked back since..I just can't see feelings changing just like that on a whim. I spoke to her best friend and she told me that my ex didn't discuss this with them AT ALL and it was just as baffling to them when they heard about it. Anyhow, about 5 days after the breakup she texts me to just say hi and that she was thinking about me and us a lot. She then closed this deal that she was working on for months and months and was a huge deal, so I sent her a card to congratulate her. Nothing about our relationship, just to tell her I was proud of her. She sent me a quick text thanking me for the card and I did not respond. Then this past week (3 weeks since we broke up) I decided to reach out to her. I knew nothing about why she ended things and I really just wanted to hear her voice. The goal was to get her to agree to see me face to face. We spoke for 50 minutes and all she could say was how much she missed me, how much she wants to talk to me and see me, but she doesn't allow herself to. She said seeing me would be a bad idea currently, which I disagreed with her on. Long story short, I told her how I feel. I told her 3 weeks removed, I still miss her as much as I did Day 1 of our breakup. She told me she's sticking to this decision and that she wants to give this break a real "shot." I then told her the ball is officially in her court and that I will not be reaching out to her again. She asked if she can just call me to "talk," and I told her no, I'm not here to fill some void for her and that I know what I want, and I know how I feel and she needs to figure it out and then get back in touch with me. My question here is, although this is an obvious "we're not getting back together in the immediate future" phone conversation, does it not sound like she may be starting to come around at all? Who says that they miss you perfusely, want to talk and see you all the time - but aren't allowing themselves to do so? Am I being an idiot thinking that she may be regretting her decision and just now needs to make sure that she made the wrong choice? Any insight would be greatly appreciated. Edited November 3, 2013 by fluffhead
ponchsox Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Hi everyone, My girlfriend, of 1 year, broke up with me just about 4 weeks ago now. It was completely out of nowhere and shocked the hell out of me. She said she was confused, and needed to figure things out (aka feelings have changed). This weirded me out because we started off as friends, meeting at college. For 6 years would become friends with benefits on and off. Then last year I finally decided to take things to the next level and asked her out. We never looked back since..I just can't see feelings changing just like that on a whim. I spoke to her best friend and she told me that my ex didn't discuss this with them AT ALL and it was just as baffling to them when they heard about it. Anyhow, about 5 days after the breakup she texts me to just say hi and that she was thinking about me and us a lot. She then closed this deal that she was working on for months and months and was a huge deal, so I sent her a card to congratulate her. Nothing about our relationship, just to tell her I was proud of her. She sent me a quick text thanking me for the card and I did not respond. Then this past week (3 weeks since we broke up) I decided to reach out to her. I knew nothing about why she ended things and I really just wanted to hear her voice. The goal was to get her to agree to see me face to face. We spoke for 50 minutes and all she could say was how much she missed me, how much she wants to talk to me and see me, but she doesn't allow herself to. She said seeing me would be a bad idea currently, which I disagreed with her on. Long story short, I told her how I feel. I told her 3 weeks removed, I still miss her as much as I did Day 1 of our breakup. She told me she's sticking to this decision and that she wants to give this break a real "shot." I then told her the ball is officially in her court and that I will not be reaching out to her again. She asked if she can just call me to "talk," and I told her no, I'm not here to fill some void for her and that I know what I want, and I know how I feel and she needs to figure it out and then get back in touch with me. My question here is, although this is an obvious "we're not getting back together in the immediate future" phone conversation, does it not sound like she may be starting to come around at all? Who says that they miss you perfusely, want to talk and see you all the time - but aren't allowing themselves to do so? Am I being an idiot thinking that she may be regretting her decision and just now needs to make sure that she made the wrong choice? Any insight would be greatly appreciated. If she wanted you back, she would let it be known. She's going through the loss process just like you are. Best to go NC and move on.
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