movingbackwards Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Met a cute girl, I'm out of a 5 year breakup that has been hell. We hit it off instantly and started kind of hooking up and cuddling a month ago. It's been probably 2 weeks since we have done anything. I told her off the bat that I'm coming out of a breakup and I want to keep it casual but I enjoy spending time with her. She happily obliged. We text or talk almost every day. Sometimes it's even constant all day long. Well, she's mentioned weird things (drunk) about being a 'perfect match' and for some reason my name is ALWAYS brought up to her friends. I some how make it to their conversations presumably by her initiation. I'm not sure what she says about me but I always tend to get brought up. So anyways, I'm not really invested in her per say but I do enjoy her company. She calls me a lot and flirts with me constantly. The problem is, anytime I ask her to hang out, I get rejected. Not always but during the day just asking her to get lunch or come watch movies I get rejected. She always has something going on lately. I've hung back and even just not really talked to her for a few days but didn't really seem to do anything for me. I'm not saying I want her to be my girlfriend and do everything with me, but I space out these invites by quite a bit of time! And they're always mostly friendly meetups. So basically, she's acting interested in me, we've hooked up, we stopped hooking up, and she rejects my invites but still flirts with me constantly and talks to her friends like we're "something". Should I just leave her be? Or is she wanting me to ask her out or something?
AlmostFrench Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I think you wanted casual, so she is trying to keep it casual. I once dated a guy for 6 months, who after 2 months said he didn't want a relationship, but he wanted to see me everyday and do all the things that people in relationships do, even talk about our feelings etc. It confused the hell out of me the whole time! If you want casual, it means she is not always there for you and you don't see each other very often. Or do you want something more now?
greenfairie Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Sounds like you both need to communicate your feelings to make sure you guys are both on the same page. One of you might get hurt. It sounds like you're having feelings for this person? You told her you wanted something casual, so she's respecting your wishes. I don't think she wants to come off as this needy, clingy girl that'd scare you away if she knew you knew how much she liked you. It sounds like she's definitely interested in you. I don't know if it's just your company she likes to be around or is she actually interested in you more than just a friend? You should definitely bring it up somehow to clear the air out so one of you don't end up getting more confused or hurt later on. If you like her, maybe best to tell her soon.. She might be dating someone else on the side while she's seeing you "casually". Grab her before she gets taken by some lucky guy if you want her.
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