ponchsox Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Do men often end reltionships out of fear of being dumped and a loss of ego?
theothersully Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Nope. Like an idiot, I have complete faith/trust in my girl, then end up sad. ha ha ha 1
Woggle Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 If I ever got the sense that a woman was about to dump I would do it first.
faithfully Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Do men often end reltionships out of fear of being dumped and a loss of ego? I think yeahh some men do if they think the woman will finish them so they do it first so they get the upper hand and to brag and boast they ended it 1st. This is what my ex did. Some men also do it as a wayy of boosting their ego coz at the end of the day who likes rejection?? But like i said "some" not all guys mainly the selfish and self centered ones. 1
Haydn Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 No not at all. I could have dumped years ago. But i didn`t. I fought for the relationship. Ego? Now wheres that gone?
aybc123 Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 No, that's pointless, realising that the act of dumping someone just because you can't take the ego hit of being dumped is a far bigger ego hit than actually just getting dumped because it's pathetic. I'm sure some people do it, both men and women though. Generally i don't really have any shame when it comes to relationships, i take the approach that, well, if this goes badly im never gonna be with this person again, dont have to speak to them again if i dont want to and fighting for and failing to save a relationship isn't going to change my life in anyway, so i may as well fight for it and possibly save it. I also don't base myself worth on what people think of me. Am not a pushover though, if i get the feeling someone is not as in the relationship as i am or they tell me they have doubts etc then im not going to beg for them to stay, i'm not interested in being with anyone who doesn't want to be with me so they better figure out what they want or i wont be around for them to break up with. 3
Sugarkane Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I think some for sure. Like my ex who had never been a dumpee before. In hindsight I realize I should've been the dumper a couple of times. I think some guys enjoy being the dumper. 1
Riou Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Women does it too.It's a childish thing though.If things are not going well,communicate it.Dumpers who fail to communicate before breaking up are cowards. 2
Chi townD Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Guys are usually the LAST ones to know that they're getting dumped. You can see thread after thread where a guy writes, "I don't get it! Monday to told me she loves me and can't wait to start a family with me. Then, on Friday, she dumps me and then goes on to say that she never loved me, views me more as a friend, she hates my mother, she slept with my best friend three times in the last two weeks. She thinks my dog is ugly and that I have a small penis. Now, she's giving me a the cold shoulder and won't talk to me. WHAT THE HELL?!?!?!?" 2
Phoe Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I'm sure it happens. All 3 of my exes dumped me. I hadn't done anything but it was either a matter of him cheating and leaving for another girl, or just freaking out in general. I had never been on the verge of dumping any of them. 1
faithfully Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I think some for sure. Like my ex who had never been a dumpee before. In hindsight I realize I should've been the dumper a couple of times. I think some guys enjoy being the dumper. You r soo right do have to agree with you there. Yeahh some men take pride in it and also as a way to show off to their friends. Sad sad sad some people are, pathetic!!! 1
Author ponchsox Posted November 4, 2013 Author Posted November 4, 2013 I was both a dumper and dumpee in my last relationship. Broke up with her 6 months in, reconciled, and she blindsided me a year later. Our issues never got resolved yet for some reason I stuck around. I guess it was an enjoy it while it lasts thing (sex).
Sugarkane Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 yeah, if they are cocky. I agree. I've defiantly had a couple of dumpers shove their new life in my face. Which is weird because you would expect that from a dumpee.
Frank13 Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 Guys are usually the LAST ones to know that they're getting dumped. You can see thread after thread where a guy writes, "I don't get it! Monday to told me she loves me and can't wait to start a family with me. Then, on Friday, she dumps me and then goes on to say that she never loved me, views me more as a friend, she hates my mother, she slept with my best friend three times in the last two weeks. She thinks my dog is ugly and that I have a small penis. Now, she's giving me a the cold shoulder and won't talk to me. WHAT THE HELL?!?!?!?" You are so right! I have read ast least two of these today.
BottleofHope Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 I think it's not about ego when you love someone, so the answer is no. People with big ego issues shouldn't be in a serious relationship.
Mz_sassy_77 Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 I think you shouldn't generalize. I'm sure for some women it's an ego thing. I think for my EX it is. He BU with me but feels the need to tell everyone that when he tells someone we BU - "we broke up but I was the one who BU with her, its all cool cos I was the one who broke up with her...etc". To me the fact that he can't just say you know it didn't work out or whatever and HAS to make sure everyone knows tells me it's an ego thing for him otherwise why would he care.
Mz_sassy_77 Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 Oh and I'd like to add that his life is so awesome without me. For the first time in a long time he is really free and happy and doing everything he loves...blah, blah, blah....Definately ego...
Mz_sassy_77 Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 Guys are usually the LAST ones to know that they're getting dumped. You can see thread after thread where a guy writes, "I don't get it! Monday to told me she loves me and can't wait to start a family with me. Then, on Friday, she dumps me and then goes on to say that she never loved me, views me more as a friend, she hates my mother, she slept with my best friend three times in the last two weeks. She thinks my dog is ugly and that I have a small penis. Now, she's giving me a the cold shoulder and won't talk to me. WHAT THE HELL?!?!?!?" She's a switch flicker I can relate to this. One day everything is fine, nothing happens, there's no argument, there's no discussion, the next it's just over....These people are really scary. Hope I can spot one next time.
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