Amaury Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 So me and my ex of a relationship of a yr and 6 months broke up 2-4 month ago idk when exactly because it was on and off and things were confusing but the point is we are done. I honestly don't know who broke up with who the last time but it was kindve mutual so I don't think it matters anymore. About 2 weeks ago we caught up because I wanted to clear the air and get closure and that's it. I found out she has been sleeping around with a few guys. Long story short I have excepted the fact that we aren't getting back together because I don't want to get back together with her. I find her almost disgusting in a way because I never wouldve expected her to handle things the way she did. She has been hitting me up a lot this week on different days txting calling leaving voicemails and i have been NC. When I see her I don't see the same person I fell in love with and I want to move on, I'm trying but I always find myself going back to her instagram every now and again to see what she is doing and if she posted pics. Why do I still check everyday when I find her repulsive and I don't want to be with her? When does it get easier to let go and never look back?
aaron11892 Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Block her instagram, block absolutely everything you have on her. You need to. At first it is very difficult but you have to ride the tide sometimes and it eventually it does get easier!
KatZee Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 It gets better when you finally make the decision to make it better. Making it better doesn't mean stalking her on social media to get an insight into her life. Don't say you're NC either. You're not. Looking them up is still being very much involved in their life. NC means blocking her on EVERY. SINGLE. AVENUE. On Facebook, on your phone, on your e-mail, on your Twitter, on your Instagram. Everywhere. It means taking the focus off of them and putting it back on yourself. It won't get better until you make the choice to want to get better. 3
cavalier99 Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 What Katzee.said is spot on. You arnt NC until youll really block her out of everthing so you cant find out ANYTHING about her. This is the begining of truly healing. Cav
Author Amaury Posted November 3, 2013 Author Posted November 3, 2013 It gets better when you finally make the decision to make it better. Making it better doesn't mean stalking her on social media to get an insight into her life. Don't say you're NC either. You're not. Looking them up is still being very much involved in their life. NC means blocking her on EVERY. SINGLE. AVENUE. On Facebook, on your phone, on your e-mail, on your Twitter, on your Instagram. Everywhere. It means taking the focus off of them and putting it back on yourself. It won't get better until you make the choice to want to get better. Your right and the only reason I haven't blocked her (again) is because we work together (I know big mistake and now I'm paying the price) so I can't avoid bumping into her sooner or later, and the last time I blocked her almost 2 months ago she was all like "omg you blocked me seriously?? You had to block just to avoid me seriously? ? Woow" but now I think she was right.
flight E Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Block every single medium of communication or suffer the consequences. Just looked at my exes bbm. Was feeling down because I just lost a cousin. Sshe was talking about how one guy was making her world beautiful imagine how I feel. Hadn't checked it in a month was just feeling down today. Will never check it again or talk to her ever
aybc123 Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 (edited) I noticed the last few days that although i think about it a lot and get reminded of stuff almost constantly it just makes me feel sad now rather than 'i want the universe to implode level angst'. Has been 9 weeks. Also I havented talked to my ex in about 8 weeks but i havent been doing NC, i check facebook every now and again etc, did it with my last dumpee breakup which i felt much worse about too and never noticed it set me back. Sure it makes you feel sad but sadness isn't necessarily bad, i dont think it prevents healing at all. Time and making positive plans for your life does that on its own just find, eventually seeing them/ being reminded of them will just stop hurting. Edited November 3, 2013 by aybc123
ponchsox Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 I've been breaking NC and dwelling over my breakup for 5 weeks. Today, I finally said enough if this BS and stood up for myself. It helped that I we exchanged words and I put her in her place. I finally feel free and relieved! 1
xUnknown Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 (edited) I've been debating about blocking my ex on FB and instagram as well. Its been coming up on 6 weeks that we've been separated for (2wks break then almost 4 BU). I don't know if I need to though. I don't check instagram very often (once or twice every 2 weeks and only once I've come across a post but quickly scrolled past) nor do I post on it. I've not looked at her FB in 5 or 6 weeks, so I feel like I'm pretty good on that end. I think my self discipline is definitely there. I only use fb for gym motivation and lifting/fitness/nutrition articles etc and rarely post/comment on things. I don't know if I want HER checking up on ME...I have a feeling she does. Also, does Blocking on FB unfriend her, or just make her not able to contact me/see my page and vice versa? Thanks! Edited November 4, 2013 by xUnknown
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