orchids Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Does the 3-day rule hold in this case? I was out with my ex-colleague on Friday evening when her friend passed by and joined our table for a few drinks. We really hit it off, so he asked me along to continue the evening with his guy friends. I was quite hesitant (had other plans for the night) but agreed to delay them after some persuasion. So off we went and it was a great evening, lots of flirting and contact. He's a good-looking guy and he really was going out of his way to make me feel special, which..... worked. To say the least. But I had to leave eventually to see my friends, and although he tried inviting himself along I really had to say no. I gave him my number at the end of the night, when his friend was pushing me to give it to him. He'd asked for it much earlier but I'd said no... I was really a little shy about him being so forward in front of my ex-colleague. He was still enthusiastic about getting my number though At the end of the night he walked me to get a taxi, and I was about to get in when he suddenly offered me his cheek for a kiss. I was a little taken aback but kissed his cheek very lightly and quickly anyhow, and he kissed mine back. Awkward. But he still got me in and specifically asked the driver to take me to my destination (I was a little tipsy at that point.) So it's now Sunday, and he hasn't contacted me at all. Did I rebuff him too much? Should I give it another day, especially if I'd rather he initiate?
Lansing Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Yeah, give it a few more days.... You MAY have come across as not interested but based on what you said it sounds like he would still give it shot and will probably contact you. It is always weird with guys when you get a number. Sometimes if it is the weekend you just get busy.. or, worried that the girl is busy/etc. 1
Author orchids Posted November 3, 2013 Author Posted November 3, 2013 You MAY have come across as not interested but based on what you said it sounds like he would still give it shot and will probably contact you. Yeah, he did comment about our "connection" but I'd laughed it off He was also making a couple of sexual comments and I haven't had much experience with such aggressive guys... I asked him laughingly to cut it out and he seemed a little hurt. I guess he might have further expected me to kiss him voluntarily but it wasn't in me to do that with someone I'd only just met, so that didn't occur to me. My friend suggested that as someone good-looking, he might have expected my reciprocation from how much I was flirting. But surely I can flirt outrageously, but not accept sexual comments or kiss on the first meeting ...? I'll wait though. I really haven't given out my number so much that I know what to expect, so your input is great
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