hkh8871 Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Hey guys. I've posted here quite often with the issues I've been having in my LDR (which is now back on track I hope). We have been together for 10 months- he lives in America and I in Europe- we are together for about 6 months of the year plus 2 week long periods when he comes to visit me when I'm not home. My biggest fear is that I am convincing myself of the worst in a way to protect myself. In my past relationships I have been hurt and cheated on and just treated horribly and I was so invested in these relationships and I put these men on such a pedastool that I feel as though my entire relationship with my SO now has been me constantly trying to convince myself that the bad is just around the corner, to not hold on too tightly or be too invested or to put him on a pedastool. That all these problems that I come up with are just in my head and in reality he is a good boyfriend- not the best type of movie boyfriend but a stable, committed nice guy. My friend had told me that was the case because he does do everything for me- he sacrifices other trips to take the trip to see me, he takes me out, he kisses me and holds my hand and talks of the future together. But it’s the things like the communication (yes he is incredibly busy at work and there is a 6 hour time difference and he is very stressed out- he has a severe case of ADD and takes a lot of adderall for it), and that he hasn’t said he loves me yet that make me second guess everything. Maybe I'm the problem?
emi Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 I think he is the kind of man by his action, not words. You will see alot of man who say all kind of things but cant never really make one. And i got a friend, her bf is rarely said he loves her, but literally he did everything : take care of her when shes sick, buy her breakfast etc. My point is : not all man is good with his word, and to be honest, if you mean nothing to him, why would he come and see you? I wouldnt waste time/money to go see someone who live so far away without any interest And yes, past relationship affect us. Its make us build our guard up, for fear we gonna get hurt again. But can u just feel in your heart that is he worth it? Just give him some time to get through his hard time then i suggest you have a serious talk about your relationship with him, how he really feel about you and how you guys both want your relationship to work.
Author hkh8871 Posted November 5, 2013 Author Posted November 5, 2013 I guess i need to just work on my self confidence and my own self worth. He has been very sweet and talkative since he left-given i am also being very sweet and more talkative since i am letting go of the anger and resentment i held on to for the past few weeks. I guess you get from it what you put in
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