Treasa Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 LOLOLOL! Come on, you are usually a lot more level headed than this. I can tell you have I have never wanted a "big wedding day." I didn't even want it for my Barbie dolls. They always eloped in the Barbie Ferrari. Hell, I've never even wanted to get married. I'm only considering it now because my boyfriend wants it and I love him. My Barbie was too busy tooling around in her Tonka truck. They fit perfectly together. Did anyone know that? She was too busy to have a boyfriend. However, when she DID have a boyfriend, it was GI Joe, which goes to disprove the theory that women don't like short men. He was a good inch or so shorter than she was... 2
PogoStick Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Marriage and monogamy are not the only acceptable outcomes of a successful relationship. The OP is wrong and bizarre for thinking in such black and white terms.
Author truth_seeker Posted November 4, 2013 Author Posted November 4, 2013 Marriage and monogamy are not the only acceptable outcomes of a successful relationship. The OP is wrong and bizarre for thinking in such black and white terms. Perhaps wrong but not bizarre. Your line about monogamy not being an acceptable outcome of a successful relationship is truly outrageous.
Sanman Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Reading this, I can agree that most (not all) people know after a year if they can see marrying the person they are with. However, I know almost no one that got engaged or married that quickly. The main issue, some have brought up is career and money. Most of my friends delayed getting engaged until their careers decisions were made and they were at least partially settled. You can't exactly take off across the country for grad school if your spouse is settled with a job. Personally, I am getting engaged after 2.5 years. Why? Because I wanted to finish my residency before I proposed and be able to start a real job with both of us in the same place. The other reason is that it took a while to save for her ring as she wanted a nice one and I only pay cash for such things. Not everything is about being unsure of the other person. 2
antonio1149 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I agree with the OP that if your goal is to get married and have a life partner, a year is enough time to get to know a person well enough to make that decision--depending on age. Up through mid-to-late 20's, you can afford to waste some time on something that doesn't work out. After that--certainly from 30+--you can no longer afford to waste years on something speculative. By that point, people should know who they are and what they want. If they don't, or seem wishy-washy, move on. Life is short. 3
man_in_the_box Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 I can keep the animal locked in his cage. I just find it hard to believe people are faithful when DATING for years and years and years... The problem with that assumption is that it's more black and white than a chessboard. Relationships can be in a lot of forms between dating and marriage - depending on the circumstances some of them might actually even better for avoiding infidelity. I totally disagree with drawing a parallel between not getting married quickly and infidelity. There are too many variables playing a role there and not enough evidence to confirm it at all.
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