tre101 Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 I heard from my most recent ex who broke up with me 3 months ago this weekend. In her first text she asked how I was doing and hoped I was okay but made it clear that she didn't want to get back together (that would be stupid she said) But as we texted more she started getting more emotional and said she still loved me and wished she could press a button to forget about me. What is going on here? She dumped me because I was too friendly with other girls and wasn't willing to change for her. I had strong feelings for my ex and still do but I wasn't going to let her control me. I haven't replied to her text yet and don't know if I should or what to say if I did to be honest. What is her motive?
zen2475 Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 I think the more important question is what do you want? It sounds like she broke up with you because you weren't willing to change some behaviors for the sake of the relationship. That being sad, I can understand why she left the relationship. A solid, happy relationship is built on mutual trust and respect, and when you were not willing to cease your behavior in talking to other girls, I would have done the same thing. She's disappointed that the relationship didn't work out, and frankly, now she is disrespecting herself by contacting someone who obviously didn't value her. Are you willing to give the relationship another shot and work on building something where you are more respectful of her needs? If not, don't worry about her motivations, move on, and stay in NC.
Author tre101 Posted November 3, 2013 Author Posted November 3, 2013 UPDATE: I never replied but she texted me again this afternoon saying she feels at fault for the relationship ending too and wants me to come round to hers so she can cook me dinner... What do you guys make of this? She never cooked for me when we were together. She actually wasn't much of a cook at all so this is quite the surprise... It's quite bold of her really as it's been 3 months... I could be seeing something else for all she knows. As for her, I've heard from mutual friends she has been a bit of a hermit since the break up and I know she hasn't been seeing anyone else.
emi Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 you got dumped for the same way as i am. He didnt like i keeping friends with my male bestfriend whom i was befriended with long before i met him. I was devastated and blamed it all over myself. Then i realize that, if i didnt cheat, what should i be shamed on myself? If she cant understand you, just let it go. Because without understanding, you cant go anywhere furthur, even if you marry her, misunderstanding will just tear you apart later
Woggle Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 You won't let her control you and that is why she still has feelings. You have the answer.
Author tre101 Posted November 3, 2013 Author Posted November 3, 2013 Hi emi, thanks for the advice. That's exactly what I was thinking too and why I decided not to fight for her. However, there's been an update. Please read my post above yours. She has invited me around hers and wants to cook me dinner. She has also apologised and said she feels she is at fault too for our break up. Does this mean she has realised she was wrong and wants to try and get back together?
Woggle Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Hi emi, thanks for the advice. That's exactly what I was thinking too and why I decided not to fight for her. However, there's been an update. Please read my post above yours. She has invited me around hers and wants to cook me dinner. She has also apologised and said she feels she is at fault too for our break up. Does this mean she has realised she was wrong and wants to try and get back together? Read my first post. Men who can't be controlled are high attractive to a lot of women.
2fargone Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 I'm sorry, but wich ex is this ? Because it seems you have been posting here since february, where you started with a girl you dated for 9 months. Then in august there was an ex whom you hadn't seen for 9 months... And now this one, 3 months. I'm confused....
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