Harri74 Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Hi guys, Im new here and i am looking for some advice / insight. Ok, i will keep it brief.. I have been dating a girl on and off for almost a year until this week when she told me she couldnt do it. Her reasons are that she cannot give me what she thinks i want (living together, kids etc). She is trying to divorce her husband (they have been seperated 2 years) and she says she doesnt really want to go from a 28 year relationship into another long term commitment. I understand this and so reluctantly let her go and agreed to her demands of absolutely no contact. She even deleted me on Facebook. What made it even harder was the last time we spoke on the phone she was crying her eyes out telling me she loved me and that she cared for me so much but that she wasnt relationship material etc. Lo and behold, 2 days later she has re-added me on Facebook and although tentative we are at least in communication. I would marry this girl, i would sacrifice my wish to have kids to be with this girl and i would look after this girl for the rest of my life and she knows all this. So how do i play it? I havent sent her any messages, apart from an inital enquiry after she readded me. All following messages were just conversational. Im using a policy of no-chasing/no contact which is as much for my sanity than for trying to win her back. Please advise what i should do. Thanks, Mark.
Haydn Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Hello, when a past past ex told me she was not relationship material it means shes letting you go and trying not to hurt you more. (Ive said this as well in past relationships) FB with ex`s is just a game. Block her. Or maybe she really does need time after such a long relationship? That makes sense. But i would have nothing to do with her at the moment. Its really hard and many people here will tell you that. But keep going. Take care. Haydn QUOTE=Harri74;5314425]Hi guys, Im new here and i am looking for some advice / insight. Ok, i will keep it brief.. I have been dating a girl on and off for almost a year until this week when she told me she couldnt do it. Her reasons are that she cannot give me what she thinks i want (living together, kids etc). She is trying to divorce her husband (they have been seperated 2 years) and she says she doesnt really want to go from a 28 year relationship into another long term commitment. I understand this and so reluctantly let her go and agreed to her demands of absolutely no contact. She even deleted me on Facebook. What made it even harder was the last time we spoke on the phone she was crying her eyes out telling me she loved me and that she cared for me so much but that she wasnt relationship material etc. Lo and behold, 2 days later she has re-added me on Facebook and although tentative we are at least in communication. I would marry this girl, i would sacrifice my wish to have kids to be with this girl and i would look after this girl for the rest of my life and she knows all this. So how do i play it? I havent sent her any messages, apart from an inital enquiry after she readded me. All following messages were just conversational. Im using a policy of no-chasing/no contact which is as much for my sanity than for trying to win her back. Please advise what i should do. Thanks, Mark.
Fufu Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Hi guys, Im new here and i am looking for some advice / insight. Ok, i will keep it brief.. I have been dating a girl on and off for almost a year until this week when she told me she couldnt do it. Her reasons are that she cannot give me what she thinks i want (living together, kids etc). She is trying to divorce her husband (they have been seperated 2 years) and she says she doesnt really want to go from a 28 year relationship into another long term commitment. I understand this and so reluctantly let her go and agreed to her demands of absolutely no contact. She even deleted me on Facebook. What made it even harder was the last time we spoke on the phone she was crying her eyes out telling me she loved me and that she cared for me so much but that she wasnt relationship material etc. Lo and behold, 2 days later she has re-added me on Facebook and although tentative we are at least in communication. I would marry this girl, i would sacrifice my wish to have kids to be with this girl and i would look after this girl for the rest of my life and she knows all this. So how do i play it? I havent sent her any messages, apart from an inital enquiry after she readded me. All following messages were just conversational. Im using a policy of no-chasing/no contact which is as much for my sanity than for trying to win her back. Please advise what i should do. Thanks, Mark. I wouldn't date someone who shows hesitation in a relationship. First she broke up with you saying it's her issues and not yours and deleted you in facebook. Then next she added you back in facebook and cried her hearts out saying she loved you. I'm confused by her actions. Until you know what exactly she wants, I think it's best for you to back off until she resolves her own issues.
Author Harri74 Posted November 3, 2013 Author Posted November 3, 2013 Thanks for the advice guys. That is pretty much how i am going to 'play' it. I am responding to her messages but that is all. Time will tell. I wont put myself through another week like this week. Mark.
Scoot Scoot Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 http://ezinearticles.com/?Ways-to-Get-Your-Girlfriend-Back---Letting-Her-Go-to-Get-Her-Back&id=3624972 this might help. 1
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