melell Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 I am doing much, much better. Things are going great. However.. I have become really uncomfortable leaving my house, afraid of the off chance of running into my ex. I mean, the grocery store, anywhere. Driving to work I am worried about driving past him somewhere. My heart races with a knock at the door. I am almost at the point where I want to move cities just so I can walk around as usual without that fear. It is almost as though I have taken nc to an extreme, where I think that any kind of contact will completely mess me up.
Jack Dingo Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 No, not crazy. I don't have any advice to offer, but I am going through the same thing. I don't think it's a NC thing, it's probably whyyou went NC in the first place. I know it's best why I'm NC, because hearing from her simply makes me want to die. Haha, and I can't say I enjoy that feeling at all
Lost_Dragon Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 I won't bump into my ex where I live. The only way would be if she made it a point to see me. I hope that never happens. I don't want to have any kind of contact. I never went out of my way to bother her. She made it a point to hurt me as much as possible this time. There is nothing else for her to take from me. The thought of her having the nerve to contact me about anything is offensive. What respect I had for any part of her is gone. If I was unfortunate enough to bump into her, I would probably laugh uncontrollably and walk away. My advice.. STOP WORRYING! The more you worry about your ex, the more you are thinking about them. Stop thinking of them as much as humanly possible. That is the trick. I know it seems difficult. If it's that bad, get a restraining order, mace and/or a stun gun. lol Don't let your mind become a prison. Evict.
strive Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 I'm in the same situation as I live only 10 mins from my ex. I don't even want to answer my house phone even though I know he will never ever ever call me. :/ What I try to do is that whenever I step out of the house I make sure that I look not just great, but absolutely fantastic no matter what I'm doing/where I'm going. And I try to imagine myself acting calm and aloof if/when we do small talk. It's only been two weeks (feels like forever though) so I don't know if this will work. I don't even know if I'll ever see him again, but it's better to be prepared. 3
Author melell Posted November 3, 2013 Author Posted November 3, 2013 Thanks everyone. It has been 5 months since the bu. And my ex does try to contact me, and has been to my home a few times, so it has just made the anxiety of it intensify. I have been feeling so good, and don't want anything to take that away from me. I feel like it is irrational though, like severe avoidance. I am not even thinking about my ex when doing it either. It is like my mind has already made the conclusions. Good point about the looking good part- I do my best when I go out. But I am quite shy and self conscious by nature, I wonder if that is playing into it as well. Sigh 1
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