Is this fair? (Guys AND Girls!)

[jgibbs]

I used to date this girl a few months ago. We broke up when she moved away from town and school, and didn't want to try long distance.

 

While we were dating for a few months, we had a wonderful relationship and were extremely compatible. The only piece we differed on was sex. We had the same faith basis which is very important to me, but she wasn't a virgin, and I was. This might be unusual in today's society, but virginity is of the utmost importance to me. She claimed she had loved him, and that she doesn't regret her actions due to her love with this other guy. This was the only person she has had sex with, but it still really bothered me. When I found this out, I was seriously considering breaking up with her, strictly based on that. Is this something that could be considered, "too prude," or something like that? I just hold sex in.such high regard, that if a girl isn't a virgin, sorry, you're not really right for me.

 

Please let me know what you think of this.

 

Also, if you're waiting for marriage, what are your thoughts on love and this sort of celibacy conversation. Thanks!

[EasyHeart]

I think if you're going to require a woman to be a virgin before you date her, you are either going to be lonely or prowling the middle schools.

[soccerrprp]

...on a note that I find very important is that you may be going down the road of prejudging people based on their past. Your views are religious, I suspect. If so, Christian? If so, you should also be aware that divorced women are forbidden to remarry. So, there's another group of women you should stay away from, right? I mean, divorced AND not a virgin.

[d0nnivain]

If viginity is THAT important to you, I suggest you look for dates in circles where it's important to the community e.g. Church groups, possibly ChristianSingles.com etc.

 

You are free to date whomever you like & hold them to whatever ideals you set even if your persepctive is unpoular & hard to find.

 

Be true to yourself.