Author Merin Posted December 21, 2004 Author Posted December 21, 2004 Originally posted by babybear Oh, I KNOW!!!! Isn't it amazing how you think that things with your guy are okay...and then when you meet someone mindblowing you're just like, wtf!!! HOW DID I STAY IN THAT RELATIONSHIP FOR SOOO LONG AND THINK IT WAS WORTH IT!!! I've totally been there. And then I'm so annoyed with myself that I spent all that time crying and feeling upset over losing the guy. I should have just been celebrating!!! Oh well, what are ya gonna do? Bb LOL it is amazing isn't it?! When I think of all the time I spent trying to MAKE the relationship good.. now I'm sitting there thinking.. when you've got to try that damn hard to MAKE things okay.. they probably AREN'T okay and will NEVER be okay.. so yeah time to move on. So J came over last night LOL I'm able to just relax with him.. be myself. We can talk about anything.. he's been awesome with my little people, my baby flirts with him shamelessly (she's got good taste! ) Sooooo he is going to come to my Dads house on Christmas for awhile to "meet the parents" LMAO now i'm thinking about that movie! So Merin is all kinds of mushy about this guy... All we can do now BB is celebrate discovering when bad relationships end.. in the bigger picture it's a blessing and we've learned what we don't want in the next one;)
Barby Posted December 21, 2004 Posted December 21, 2004 Sooooo he is going to come to my Dads house on Christmas for awhile to "meet the parents" LMAO now i'm thinking about that movie! ****doing the "no assclown dance" clapping my hands saying**** "YEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!!!!" I'm sooo happy for you Merin! I think he about has to be a "keeper" coming over on Christmas to meet the family! Too cool!
zilverenvlinder Posted December 21, 2004 Posted December 21, 2004 hey, i haven't met many of you yet, but hi, i'm Adria, and its super nice to meet you all. anyway, on the subject. i was at a party at my girl friend's (who I hadn't seen in months) and she had moved in with two guys. my girl friend was going to hook me up with one of her non-roommate guy friends but me and her roommate Jay hit it off super well instead ^_~ we met that night at the party, i spent the night with him, and every night since for the last three months. we just couldn't leave each other's side. its an awfully sweet story don'tcha think so really. my longest first date was like, a few months long. haha. luv adria
Author Merin Posted December 22, 2004 Author Posted December 22, 2004 Originally posted by Barby ****doing the "no assclown dance" clapping my hands saying**** "YEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!!!!" I'm sooo happy for you Merin! I think he about has to be a "keeper" coming over on Christmas to meet the family! Too cool! * Now picturing Barby doing the no assclown dance * Go barby go barby! LOL thanks sista!!!!!!! He is amazing girl.. and I'm scared! LOL I'm trying to keep things in perspective.. but man I liiiiikkkeeeee him! Hows it going with the new guy you've been talking with?
Author Merin Posted December 22, 2004 Author Posted December 22, 2004 Originally posted by zilverenvlinder hey, i haven't met many of you yet, but hi, i'm Adria, and its super nice to meet you all. anyway, on the subject. i was at a party at my girl friend's (who I hadn't seen in months) and she had moved in with two guys. my girl friend was going to hook me up with one of her non-roommate guy friends but me and her roommate Jay hit it off super well instead ^_~ we met that night at the party, i spent the night with him, and every night since for the last three months. we just couldn't leave each other's side. its an awfully sweet story don'tcha think so really. my longest first date was like, a few months long. haha. luv adria Hello Adria and welcome;) That is a sweet story.. Still going well with him I hope?
Author Merin Posted December 23, 2004 Author Posted December 23, 2004 I'm trying to keep a handle on this.. Yesterday my dads car battery died (whoo hooo for that uh?) LOL i'm having some bad luck with cars lately. So, J had text me and asked what was up.. I told him about the battery (I was at work) so he calls me and says he will be on his way from his job with jumper cables.. he drove all the way down to where I work, started my car for me and then had to go back to work.. This for real, blew me away! Then last night he came over to my house.. said he had a christmas gift for me.. I had told him about my car being stolen and my jacket being in the car.. he bought me a beautiful black leather coat unbelievable! Amazing, amazing, amazing.... sh*t I'm scared! Like him a lot.. and trying to keep myself in check..
Barby Posted December 23, 2004 Posted December 23, 2004 OMG That is too awesome and I'm glad that he's such a gentleman. I'm glad for you I really am! How cool was that, he bought you an (obviously not cheap) coat! You asked in another post on here how things were going with me and Marcos (the guy I was talking to). He calls me every single day, sometimes twice but honestly even though he's gorgeous, I just don't feel a "connection" I can't be shallow and date someone on looks alone, he's a great guy but not the guy for me.
Author Merin Posted December 23, 2004 Author Posted December 23, 2004 Originally posted by Barby OMG That is too awesome and I'm glad that he's such a gentleman. I'm glad for you I really am! How cool was that, he bought you an (obviously not cheap) coat! You asked in another post on here how things were going with me and Marcos (the guy I was talking to). He calls me every single day, sometimes twice but honestly even though he's gorgeous, I just don't feel a "connection" I can't be shallow and date someone on looks alone, he's a great guy but not the guy for me. Thank you sweetie:) You're right on the mark Barby.. DON'T date anyone you don't feel that connection with! Hold out for someone who makes your heart beat girl.. you deserve that!
Scott S Posted December 23, 2004 Posted December 23, 2004 Originally posted by Merin Then last night he came over to my house.. said he had a christmas gift for me.. I had told him about my car being stolen and my jacket being in the car.. he bought me a beautiful black leather coat unbelievable! Amazing, amazing, amazing.... sh*t I'm scared! Like him a lot.. and trying to keep myself in check.. Quite a turn of events. A man who is falling headfirst for you, and a gentleman on top of that! It appears Santa thinks you were a VERY good girl this year!
Author Merin Posted December 24, 2004 Author Posted December 24, 2004 Originally posted by Scott S Quite a turn of events. A man who is falling headfirst for you, and a gentleman on top of that! It appears Santa thinks you were a VERY good girl this year! I'm freaking out a little Scott... trying to keep it in perspective.. but yes he is amazing (so far) Santa thinks I've been good uh? LOL go me go me! LOL you're awesome Scott:)
Author Merin Posted December 25, 2004 Author Posted December 25, 2004 Almost finished packing my house... Last night was the first Christmas Eve I've ever spent without my wee peeps in the house.. it's thier Dads weekend with them.. so it was quiet I spend a good part of the day packing things in the house (God I hate moving!) but J called around 1 in the afternoon to come over and chill with me for awhile before going to his Moms house with his kids.. (I haven't met his little people yet) So he got over to my house and LOL we went to starbucks to hang out.. thing is J isn't all about Starbucks and me.. I need stock in the company BUT he took me there because he knows I like it. So we chilled there for awhile.. then he took me home and left to go to his Moms. I didn't feel like going to my families house for Christmas Eve.. just to much to do before I move.. and my wee peeps wouldn't be there.. so I packed all night (and it still looks like blow out crap!) Anyway.. my EX had been text messaging me for quite some time since we broke up.. but last night.. yeah it was ugly. I spoke with him for the first time since we broke up on the phone.. he was telling me he loves me.. wants to make things work.. blah blah.. I told him there wasn't any chance it was going to happen. He cried.. and I just felt kind of bad even though the break up was all caused by what he has done.. I just couldn't take anymore and had to get out. BUT I also felt strong.. there wasn't any way I was going to be sucked back in and loose what I have with J.. he has treated me better in the last 2 weeks than my Ex did the entire time we were together. So J called me when he was at his moms house to check on me.. asked me if I would come by his house later if I wasn't to sleepy.. so when he got home he called me after he put his kids to bed and I went over.. I helped him wrap the gifts he got for his kids and watched him playing with his sons train LMAO I knew that gift was more for him than his son! After we were done wrapping things.. we just sat and talked for the longest.. We agreed me staying over wouldn't be a good thing.. I don't want to meet his kids under those circumstances like "Hey look what Santa brought Dad kids! whoo hoo he must have been reaaalllyyy good this year!" So I left about 2 a.m. He called me to make sure I got home okay and we said goodnight. 730 this Morning.. he called me to say Merry Christmas.. and ya know, I didn't even mind that he woke me up.. LOL although that was his intention! He is taking his kids to thier Moms this morning and dropping them off.. then coming over to my house to go with me to meet my family this afternoon... I feel sorry in some ways for my Ex... but I know I'm doing the right thing.. AND I feel like someone is going to wake me up pretty soon and tell me that J isn't real.. he is so amazing.. Hmmmm.... Merry Christmas my friends.. I wish for us all a very good new year;) Barby.. I am hoping for someone amazing to come into your life girl.. you're such a sweetheart and you deserve that. Scott... I hope you and Gina are having an amazing time today.
Angelus666 Posted December 26, 2004 Posted December 26, 2004 Seeing as I am only 17 and gone on only 3 first dates, it would have to be in the range on 4 hours. Haha, that seems so pathetic compared to some of these that I've read. Whoa, a date that lasted a whole day? Man, that must be fun.
Barby Posted December 26, 2004 Posted December 26, 2004 Hey girl! How did him meeting your family go? I'm so excited for ya and so sorry to hear that you had to endure the (seems like ever so popular) ex calling on Christmas Eve to tell how he missed ya, screwed up, blah, blah, blah...I had the SAME thing! Gawd why do these ass clowns rain on our parades? I'm glad you realized what a good thing you have with J and even if you didn't have him your ex didn't deserve you and I'm glad you didn't let him win you over again. Oscar (my ex) called late Christmas eve also, crying and telling me how he missed me, I was his life, he needed me, never loved anyone like me, (you know the usual) but I politely told him I didn't appreciate him calling me and ruining my holiday, I'm sorry he missed me, that I was no longer in love, I'm moving on and he should do the same....I tried to be nice but firm and requested (once again) that he no longer bother me...I pray he gets the point and stops trying to win me back cuz it is NOT gonna happen. Barby.. I am hoping for someone amazing to come into your life girl.. you're such a sweetheart and you deserve that. Thanks! I think the single life is better for me right now but if it's meant to be for me to meet someone I hope he's a great guy. I really hope you two had a great time, I can't wait to hear an update!
Author Merin Posted December 27, 2004 Author Posted December 27, 2004 Thanks Barby:) So you got the I'm sorry I screwed up, but I can change call too uh? Bah! Well mine told me he would respect my wishes and not contact me again.. we'll see. On to better news.. LOL J came over yesterday about 11 a.m and we went for coffee' before going to my Dads house.. once we got there he was kind of nervous.. LOL HOWEVER.. he did great! My parents really liked him a lot and he had a good time yay! We stayed there from about 1230 till 6 last night then went to go see "Meet the ****ers" LOL good times! After the movie we came back over to my house and talked.. this is something I really like about him.. we can talk and it comes easy... there was a moment where it was just us.. no other noise.. he said that he feels himself opening up to me more and more and that it comes easily.. I feel the same about him... which LOL scares us both! Sooooo things got kind of deep and he said.. lets see who won the football game (LOL funny thing is he ISN'T a football fan so much.. motorcross is his thing) so I was like why do you want to see who won? Things were getting kind of serious in our talk.. and yeah LOL I think he wanted the distraction. So he stayed over with me.. we hung out watched comedy central.. just good times.. relaxed. We went to breakfast this morning and he left about 1130 today. We are both head strong people and very competative.. so that was something we talked about as well... it was agreed that we both need to learn more compromise... be less competative (with one another LOL) AND he said in the end of things.. he would rather be wrong and be with me.. then be right and be alone... He's awesome! AAAgggggghhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL I keep waiting girl... but still hoping nothing bad is going to happen between us. We've agreed to be patient and learn.. so thats a good thing.
Barby Posted December 27, 2004 Posted December 27, 2004 Stop "waiting" for the bad to come...hahaha I'm sure in all human nature, issues will arise BUT I have a feeling he's NOT an ass-clown... I'm sooooooooo glad that you two are getting along so well and that your family liked him and that all went well there.. How cute that he wanted a "distraction" once things got too serious..maybe he was afraid he'd say something that would scare you and make you think he's "moving too fast" or something How was Meet the ****ers? Was it as funny as Meet the Parents? I loved that movie! I've been debating on going to see it but haven't decided yet... Back to J...I bet things will continue to get better and better with time...when do you little peeps come home?
Author Merin Posted December 27, 2004 Author Posted December 27, 2004 Originally posted by Barby Stop "waiting" for the bad to come...hahaha I'm sure in all human nature, issues will arise BUT I have a feeling he's NOT an ass-clown... I'm sooooooooo glad that you two are getting along so well and that your family liked him and that all went well there.. How cute that he wanted a "distraction" once things got too serious..maybe he was afraid he'd say something that would scare you and make you think he's "moving too fast" or something How was Meet the ****ers? Was it as funny as Meet the Parents? I loved that movie! I've been debating on going to see it but haven't decided yet... Back to J...I bet things will continue to get better and better with time...when do you little peeps come home? LOL I know I REALLY do need to stop stressing over him maybe becoming an assclown! LOL he keeps telling me it isn't going to happen.. but at the same time... LOL he tends to worry that I'm going to turn into an assclownette.. sheeesssshh! LOL we are perfect uh!? Meet the ****ers.. it was okay.. some funny parts in it.. BUT Meet the Parents is one of my most favorite movies and I didn't think the follow up was as good.. so I was a little disappointed. I had my wee peeps yesterday for Christmas (this weekend was thier Dads weekend) but he brought them over so I could spend some of Christmas with them.. so that was nice. I went over and played with them for awhile today before I went home to finish up some packing.. thank God I move tomorrow! yay! LOL they are home now... chillin and watching toons! They had an awesome Christmas! Got lots of stuff;) Heres a good movie for ya though.. if you haven't seen "Dodge Ball" with Ben Stiller.. rent it! LOL it's a funny movie:) Ohhhh yeaaahhh.. LOL I think the "distraction" was exactly what you've said... he is afraid of what he's feeling maybe? I know how I'm feeling is scaring me! doh!
Stone Posted December 27, 2004 Posted December 27, 2004 I saw meet the ****ers last night to It was o.k. but not as good as expected..... anyways I told you he'd buy you a christmas present he soulds like a sweet heart.... I am happy for you. Have you slept with him yet?? Sorry ADHD I can't read this whole dammed thread
Barby Posted December 27, 2004 Posted December 27, 2004 Love DodgeBall..my sister burned the DVD for me...loved it! I watch comedy central a lot also, I must say I miss the "kids in the hall" but mad tv is a good replacement..hahaha! I'm glad that you're moving also, I bet you'll be so relieved once you're in your new place and unpacked and settled. Have you shown J your new place? Also I've always meant to ask but always forget...are you moving to a house or a bigger apt? (not important I was just curious)
Author Merin Posted December 27, 2004 Author Posted December 27, 2004 Originally posted by Stone I saw meet the ****ers last night to It was o.k. but not as good as expected..... anyways I told you he'd buy you a christmas present he soulds like a sweet heart.... I am happy for you. Have you slept with him yet?? Sorry ADHD I can't read this whole dammed thread Thank you Sweetie! You were right about the gift.. nice gift too! LOL I was disappointed with th ****ers too! LOL some funny parts.. but not as good as the first. Have I slept with him yet.. um.. So heres something funny.. I'm talking to my Mom the other day and she says to me.. "You guys are getting busy ain'tcha!?" OMG LOL how do Moms always know?
Author Merin Posted December 27, 2004 Author Posted December 27, 2004 Originally posted by Barby Love DodgeBall..my sister burned the DVD for me...loved it! I watch comedy central a lot also, I must say I miss the "kids in the hall" but mad tv is a good replacement..hahaha! I'm glad that you're moving also, I bet you'll be so relieved once you're in your new place and unpacked and settled. Have you shown J your new place? Also I've always meant to ask but always forget...are you moving to a house or a bigger apt? (not important I was just curious) Yay for Comedy Central! LOL Dodgeball.. J hadn't seen it before, so he rented it the other night and brought it over.. I keep thinking about that part when the guys is like Oh look.. L for Love! LOL I'm very relieved to finally be moving.. I hate the packing and all that crap.. BUT in the end it will be worth it. I pay so much in my apartment and I'm moving to a townhouse.. 3 levels plus a yard for my wee peeps.. so it will be good:)
Naive Posted December 27, 2004 Posted December 27, 2004 OMG how have I missed all of this??? You go girl!!!!!!!! At least someone is getting some!!!! I was close though........
Author Merin Posted December 27, 2004 Author Posted December 27, 2004 Originally posted by naive_2001 OMG how have I missed all of this??? You go girl!!!!!!!! At least someone is getting some!!!! I was close though........ A new year is on the way girl.. it's got to get better! Hang in there sweetie!
Scott S Posted December 28, 2004 Posted December 28, 2004 Originally posted by Merin We are both head strong people and very competative.. so that was something we talked about as well... it was agreed that we both need to learn more compromise... be less competative (with one another LOL) AND he said in the end of things.. he would rather be wrong and be with me.. then be right and be alone... He's awesome! AAAgggggghhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL I keep waiting girl... but still hoping nothing bad is going to happen between us. We've agreed to be patient and learn.. so thats a good thing. Hellooo Merin & All! Give me patience, & give it to me right now, dammit! You both have a lot to learn about each other, & that takes time. The end of Jaunary will mark 10 years that Gina & I have been in a relationship, & we're both STILL making discoveries about each other! Some good things. Other things, well... You have also had a lot, & I mean A LOT going on in your life recently. No wonder you feel overwhelmed! Your feelings are perfectly normal, so just try to relax & enjoy!
Author Merin Posted December 30, 2004 Author Posted December 30, 2004 Originally posted by Scott S Hellooo Merin & All! Give me patience, & give it to me right now, dammit! You both have a lot to learn about each other, & that takes time. The end of Jaunary will mark 10 years that Gina & I have been in a relationship, & we're both STILL making discoveries about each other! Some good things. Other things, well... You have also had a lot, & I mean A LOT going on in your life recently. No wonder you feel overwhelmed! Your feelings are perfectly normal, so just try to relax & enjoy! Give me Patience RIGHT NOW! So the move part is done.. I got a lot of my things unpacked and put away.. back to the old place today to clean up sucks! BUT.. J has helped me for 3 days to move! He brought one of his buddies over the other night and moved so much of my stuff for me.. not once did he complain. Moved the last of the heavy stuff out for me last night.. but took me to dinner before we did more moving.. Last night.. he brought over a toothbrush.. and his soap (lol he won't use my girly smelling soap) soooo hmmmm... seems like a good sign uh? We're going out for New Years tomorrow night with some of my friends... We are talking a lot.. and I'm having an amazing time with him even when we're not doing much.. or just moving stuff.. CRAPPPPP! Scary stuff for me!
indigo_moon Posted December 30, 2004 Posted December 30, 2004 Back in '98, having been divorced (abusive bad marriage) for 4 yrs..hadn't seriously been involved with anyone during that time as I was terrified of getting involved with another dingdong...but I met a guy online through a Personals Site. We hit it off immediately via chat/email......we ended up spending hours on the phone talking (he lived about 10 hrs away from me)........One conversation was 16 hrs long, if I do recall. He was so smitten with me (it was mutual), he decided to make the long drive out to see me, I was so flattered. He showed up at my doorstep, with a dozen roses in hand....both of us very shy and nervous but after an hour we felt like we'd known each other forever. He spent the weekend......(no, we didn't sleep together).....and it was so great I didn't want him to leave (but he had to be at work on Tuesday)....so I decided to drive back home with him.......he was ecstatic. I ended up staying for 2 weeks....met his children, his parents, his friends.....we were both on cloud 9. About 3 months later I sold my home and relocated to where he lived (shortly before this, he proposed and I'd accepted). It was very "whirlwind" - I got caught up in the newness and excitement of it all, him treating me so well in comparison to how awful my ex husband had treated me..........such that I overlooked a lot of the "red flags" and I ended up having to end things with him several months later............and I learned a great lesson from it all, but it was like a 2 week "first date" and it was awesome.
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