Author Merin Posted December 17, 2004 Author Posted December 17, 2004 Originally posted by bebop Well, I just got a keeper, and he's gorgeous, (inside and out) and I'm 47 years old, so, it actually can happen. Good luck with this, keep us posted. (And don't slip on those little Fisher-Price guys all over the place.) Congrats to you on the keeper;) I hope I'm as lucky... swoon.. LOL Omg! (could I be more pathetic?) I will keep you guys posted, and bebob.. thanks girl, I've appreciated all you've added here;) The Fisher Price peeps.. LOL all good in da hood!
MelodyJ Posted December 17, 2004 Posted December 17, 2004 Merin, I am happy for you. New love...ahh... I remember those feelings...long ago Enjoy this budding romance, and all those firsts you get to do together, and quit waiting for him to turn into an assclown (I know, it's hard). You are a very smart gal, I think your intuition would have kicked in by now. Take it one step at a time and see what happens next. I love this part, the best part, the pre-honeymoon stage...not there yet, but heading in the right direction. Looking forward to his calls, checking your hair and make-up 50 times before he gets there, and then feeling all butterfly-ish when knocks on the door. It is so romantic. The sexual tension and chemistry of a new relationship is so exciting... and we all get to go along for the ride!! All us lonely hearts here in the shack get to live vicariously thru you! . I personally await your next update! AND, If he does turn into a assclown sweetie, we'll help you bash him, it's not like there is not a lot of experience with those around here But, I don't think so. M
sweetpea01 Posted December 17, 2004 Posted December 17, 2004 Ahh...the butterflies in your stomach phase. It's the best, isn't it? I'm such a klutz...I went to dinner with my bf (it was our 1st date - 2 yrs ago) and got sooooo nervous, I knocked over my soup bowl across the restaurant with a sweep of my arm! I was just so nervous I couldnt control my limbs, I guess. What's funnier is that he pretended he didnt notice...haha...like that was even possible to not see. Anyway, he was (is) my first bf after a horrible heartbreak. My former bf went from amazing to assh*** just like that.... But, u know, after my crappy bf, I went outta my way not to date...but if you just have some faith and jump back in the game again, you might be pleasantly surprised. And plus, you won't make the same relationship mistakes twice...if you were naive with one guy, you're only gonna be smarter with the next. Have some faith, girl! And ENJOY!!! Sweetpea
Author Merin Posted December 17, 2004 Author Posted December 17, 2004 Originally posted by Ms. M Merin, I am happy for you. New love...ahh... I remember those feelings...long ago Enjoy this budding romance, and all those firsts you get to do together, and quit waiting for him to turn into an assclown (I know, it's hard). You are a very smart gal, I think your intuition would have kicked in by now. Take it one step at a time and see what happens next. I love this part, the best part, the pre-honeymoon stage...not there yet, but heading in the right direction. Looking forward to his calls, checking your hair and make-up 50 times before he gets there, and then feeling all butterfly-ish when knocks on the door. It is so romantic. The sexual tension and chemistry of a new relationship is so exciting... and we all get to go along for the ride!! All us lonely hearts here in the shack get to live vicariously thru you! . I personally await your next update! AND, If he does turn into a assclown sweetie, we'll help you bash him, it's not like there is not a lot of experience with those around here But, I don't think so. M Thank you sister;) I am trying really hard to give him the benefit of the doubt.. he is an amazing person and I like him.. but yeah it is hard to push away those fears that he will turn assclown.. LOL I know it's just because of my not so great experience(S) Crap! But I know what you're saying girl.. I've got to let that go, and IF he had signs of jackass I would have picked up on it.. Soooo he looks a lot like Josh Hartnett.. He's gorgeous.. but more importantly, he seems like a good person you know? I can talk to him about anything and feel okay about that.. it feels good. I talked to him tonite on the phone for about an hour or so.. he told me he had spoke with his daughter about me.. AND OMG.. Since his divorce from his little peoples Mom.. his kids have never met ANYONE he's dated.. BUT he told his kids about me tonite.. and asked how they felt about meeting me.. So uh.. LOL thats got to say something right? I just like him Ms. M so much and it's more than I wanted to.. out of fear. I'm taking your advice and just letting things go where they will.. trying to relax. Thanks and I will keep you posted;)
Author Merin Posted December 17, 2004 Author Posted December 17, 2004 Originally posted by sweetpea01 Ahh...the butterflies in your stomach phase. It's the best, isn't it? I'm such a klutz...I went to dinner with my bf (it was our 1st date - 2 yrs ago) and got sooooo nervous, I knocked over my soup bowl across the restaurant with a sweep of my arm! I was just so nervous I couldnt control my limbs, I guess. What's funnier is that he pretended he didnt notice...haha...like that was even possible to not see. Anyway, he was (is) my first bf after a horrible heartbreak. My former bf went from amazing to assh*** just like that.... But, u know, after my crappy bf, I went outta my way not to date...but if you just have some faith and jump back in the game again, you might be pleasantly surprised. And plus, you won't make the same relationship mistakes twice...if you were naive with one guy, you're only gonna be smarter with the next. Have some faith, girl! And ENJOY!!! Sweetpea Butterflies.. seriously! LOL It's all good.. I know exactly what you're saying on going from an assclown to meeting someone great.. lol so yeah.. I guess I'm more careful right now.. but I'm also willing to give him an opportunity.. so that says something. I'm keeping my faith that this will be good.. and I think whats keeping it real for me.. is he is the kind of person I would totally want for a FRIEND.. so having him as more than that is icing;) Thanks girl
Scott S Posted December 17, 2004 Posted December 17, 2004 Originally posted by Merin but yeah it is hard to push away those fears that he will turn assclown.. LOL I know it's just because of my not so great experience(S) Crap! But I know what you're saying girl.. I've got to let that go, and IF he had signs of jackass I would have picked up on it.. When Gina & I first started dating, I had similar obstacles to overcome. She had come out of several consecutive bad relationships, the last one around the same time as my divorce. She was convinced the only good men were somewhere in the remote areas of Western Australia (she really likes Mel Gibson). So I even tried talking like Paul Hogan & Steve Irwin! Seriously, though, it was very difficult for her to let go of all that, & for me to get through the barriers. Fortunately, her family & friends liked me right away, & I believe they were encouraging.
Author Merin Posted December 17, 2004 Author Posted December 17, 2004 Originally posted by Scott S When Gina & I first started dating, I had similar obstacles to overcome. She had come out of several consecutive bad relationships, the last one around the same time as my divorce. She was convinced the only good men were somewhere in the remote areas of Western Australia (she really likes Mel Gibson). So I even tried talking like Paul Hogan & Steve Irwin! Seriously, though, it was very difficult for her to let go of all that, & for me to get through the barriers. Fortunately, her family & friends liked me right away, & I believe they were encouraging. Scott.. of course they all liked you right away.. You're an awesome person! I think it's sweet that you did all you could to help make her feel secure in what you were/are all about... and you know this guy.. is most definately trying to show me he can be trusted.. it feels pretty good. I'm not going to mess this up because of MY issues.. it isn't fair to make someone else carry all the baggage when it isn't thiers to begin with.. We have plans for Saturday night.. yay! LOL so.. Merin is now being *mushy* Thanks Scott for your amazing insights and friendship you've extended;)
bebop Posted December 17, 2004 Posted December 17, 2004 I'm not going to mess this up because of MY issues.. it isn't fair to make someone else carry all the baggage when it isn't thiers to begin with That's an excellent line and excellent observation. You've just added 50% to your potential success possibilites. Dingdingdingdingding! (The Price Is Right is on in my background here LOL.) Yay. And a date already, wow, that's great.
Author Merin Posted December 18, 2004 Author Posted December 18, 2004 Originally posted by bebop That's an excellent line and excellent observation. You've just added 50% to your potential success possibilites. Dingdingdingdingding! (The Price Is Right is on in my background here LOL.) Yay. And a date already, wow, that's great. Ohhhhh damn! Bob Barker! LMAO!!! Reminding you all to have your pets spay or neutered.. and um.. practice safe sex?! Thanks Bebop, I'm trying you know? We'll see how things go tomorrow nite.. he's called me every night since I've met him.. so yeah.. thats a good thing;)
bebop Posted December 19, 2004 Posted December 19, 2004 Originally posted by Merin Ohhhhh damn! Bob Barker! LMAO!!! Reminding you all to have your pets spayed or neutered.. and um.. practice safe sex? My pets always practice safe sex. Right now my cat is practicing it with the Christmas tree.
Author Merin Posted December 20, 2004 Author Posted December 20, 2004 Originally posted by bebop My pets always practice safe sex. Right now my cat is practicing it with the Christmas tree. He's just getting into the Holiday spirit.. it's all good Well It's not so late Sunday here.. soooooo uh.. yesterday.. Damn I like him! Crap! He had to work yesterday but called me when he got done with work.. made plans to go Christmas Shopping.. So he came over and we went to a few places looking for a damn Playstation2 or Xbox.. but of course every where is sold out right now (damn I shouldn't have been such a slackass!) Then we went to lunch and talked about hooking up later on in the night with a couple of my friends.. Sooo he wanted to hit up the mall for jeans.. MG he looks good in Lucky's LOL We were walking in the mall and he said "What should I get you for Christmas?" Okay.. so now what? Crap! LOL I'm not sure what to get him? Allllll okay.. so we went back to my house after shopping and I got ready to go out for the night.. in the mean time he is chillin in my living room and I can hear him laughing.. I'm like wtf is he doing? I peek around the corner and he is chillin on the sofa scanning my Cosmopolitain magazine.. LMAO I'm like what are you laughing about? Turns out he is reading an article in there about how you can tell a lot about how a guy feels about you by the way he kisses you.. LOL he's like "Damn, do you think any of this is true?" So I scan it.. find the kiss thats suppose to mean he wants to get it on.. and I'm like uh.. YEAH I so do think it's accurate So we go to his house (first time I've been to his house) he showed me his photos of his little people.. got the tour of the house (he's moving too.. me on the 27th him after the new year) but still I got a good idea of how he lives you know? He's getting ready to go out.. *he looks sooooo damn good and smells good* We head out to meet my friends.. get to this place and chill at the bar to wait for them.. a lady at the bar turns and looks at us.. then she says "You guys are an attractive couple" LOL sweet! God I'm now giving all the little details.. *Merins getting her mushyness on jeez!* My friends get there.. we had such a good time.. drinking (a lot) LOL now I don't feel so great today.. but LOL it seemed like a good idea at the time.. my friends left at about 1230 but we stayed and close the place.. we went back to my house and he decided he wants to have this serious talk.. He tells me that if another girl was hitting on him or wanted him to go out with her he would tell her NO.. so of course ya know I have to ask him.. why that is.. *wink wink* LOL he says because of me.. yay! He asked me IF I was seeing anyone else.. told him no.. he asked if I would date anyone else.. told him no, I am good with just dating him. BUT *always a but right?* I know he has some *issues* we all have them I know.. so we agreed to not make the other carry the baggage around.. told him I was down for carrying it on occasion when he needed me to but that I want him to just be cool, not trip and not turn assclown on me and to be a cool friend to me.. he says "I want more than friends with you" Up all night with him.. amazing conversation and chemistry.. he came over today and took me to Brunch.. I really like this guy! *trying so hard not to trip on my own issues with trusting him* Good weekend for me.. but yeah didn't get a lot of packing done and I've got less than a week now to get it alllllll done! Crap!
Barby Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 Sounds like you're having soooooo much fun putting off packing... We all have our issues about not trusting someone when we first meet them but sounds like he's making the first moves to get into a relationship with you.....again he still sounds like a nice guy....!! I'm so happy for you, you more than deserve to be treated well after all you've been through (in your last relationship) and w/ the car and all! I'm totally happy for ya!
Author Merin Posted December 20, 2004 Author Posted December 20, 2004 Originally posted by Barby Sounds like you're having soooooo much fun putting off packing... We all have our issues about not trusting someone when we first meet them but sounds like he's making the first moves to get into a relationship with you.....again he still sounds like a nice guy....!! I'm so happy for you, you more than deserve to be treated well after all you've been through (in your last relationship) and w/ the car and all! I'm totally happy for ya! Thank you sista;) LOL At least I have a *good* reason why I haven't finished packing right?! My last relationship sucked so much and it's wierd because spending time with this new guy.. damn it's made me realize even more all I wasn't getting in my last relationship with you-who.. they (my ex and this new guy) are so different from one another.. and thats a veeeerrrrryyyy good thing! Hows it going with you girl? Met that guy from your IM yet?
Barby Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 I'm not quite ready to meet him yet, we talk 2 times a day (for the past few days) he always calls me....I haven't called him yet cuz he always beats me to it. He's so smart and funny, but I'm taking it nice and slow. He knows it will be a little while before I'm ready to meet him and he says he's more than willing to wait. But I'm afraid of him turning into the typical "ass clown" as well so I guess that's what's holding me back... I figure I'll give it a bit and see if after talking awhile we still seem to "hit it off" and if so then I'll cast aside my "nervousness" and meet him...
Author Merin Posted December 20, 2004 Author Posted December 20, 2004 Originally posted by Barby I'm not quite ready to meet him yet, we talk 2 times a day (for the past few days) he always calls me....I haven't called him yet cuz he always beats me to it. He's so smart and funny, but I'm taking it nice and slow. He knows it will be a little while before I'm ready to meet him and he says he's more than willing to wait. But I'm afraid of him turning into the typical "ass clown" as well so I guess that's what's holding me back... I figure I'll give it a bit and see if after talking awhile we still seem to "hit it off" and if so then I'll cast aside my "nervousness" and meet him... Yay! He sounds very interested in you girl;) I know exactly what you're saying with the fears.. I feel the same way and man it's hard to suck that up and take a step forward even when I'm afraid.. but I'm trying.. You'll meet him face to face when you're ready.. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for ya Barby.. and doing the NO ASSCLOWN dance for good measure!
Barby Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 You're too cool! I'm pulling for you as well..... The "no ass-clown" dance will come in handy on both our ends I think...(even though I doubt you have much to worry about he seems to be a great sincere guy). So did you ever find that X-box or Playstation2?
Author Merin Posted December 20, 2004 Author Posted December 20, 2004 Originally posted by Barby You're too cool! I'm pulling for you as well..... The "no ass-clown" dance will come in handy on both our ends I think...(even though I doubt you have much to worry about he seems to be a great sincere guy). So did you ever find that X-box or Playstation2? I didn't find either one I'm such a damn slacker!!! Should've got on that much much sooner.. kind of like my packing too right?! Damn! BUT as I've told a few of my friends.. there's always 7-11 right? LOL they will be open on Christmas day.. so yeah.. I can get everyone a slurpee, some nacho's.. a calling card.. gum, lighters.. uuhhh.. LOL so sad! I'm going tomorrow before work to see IF any place got the playstation2 in.. and J ( the new non assclown guy ha!) said he was going to check down his way for me.. (good God Barby he told me if he found it he would get it for me and I could pay him later) hhhhoooolly crap he's incredible!
Barby Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 Yes he sounds like a real sweetheart! How thoughtful and unselfish of him! Good luck I hope at least one of you can find one...
LiveLoveLaugh Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 Seems things are progressing nicely...your getting a Christmas present and a kiss on New Years Eve!!! M
Author Merin Posted December 20, 2004 Author Posted December 20, 2004 Originally posted by LiveLoveLaugh Seems things are progressing nicely...your getting a Christmas present and a kiss on New Years Eve!!! M So far.. so good;)
bebop Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 Too cool. Amidst all the holiday breakups happening, this is nice news indeed.
Author Merin Posted December 20, 2004 Author Posted December 20, 2004 Originally posted by bebop Too cool. Amidst all the holiday breakups happening, this is nice news indeed. Thanks girl;) It is wierd how it seems like while everyone else is breaking up for the holidays I may have found a good guy *gasp* *choke* who knew? Maybe it was the trip to the mall when I sat on Santa's lap and whispered in his ear what I wanted for Christmas
Scott S Posted December 20, 2004 Posted December 20, 2004 Originally posted by Merin Maybe it was the trip to the mall when I sat on Santa's lap and whispered in his ear what I wanted for Christmas Now there is a "Kodak moment" if ever there was one!
Author Merin Posted December 20, 2004 Author Posted December 20, 2004 Originally posted by Scott S Now there is a "Kodak moment" if ever there was one!
babybear Posted December 21, 2004 Posted December 21, 2004 Originally posted by Merin My last relationship sucked so much and it's wierd because spending time with this new guy.. damn it's made me realize even more all I wasn't getting in my last relationship with you-who.. they (my ex and this new guy) are so different from one another.. and thats a veeeerrrrryyyy good thing! Oh, I KNOW!!!! Isn't it amazing how you think that things with your guy are okay...and then when you meet someone mindblowing you're just like, wtf!!! HOW DID I STAY IN THAT RELATIONSHIP FOR SOOO LONG AND THINK IT WAS WORTH IT!!! I've totally been there. And then I'm so annoyed with myself that I spent all that time crying and feeling upset over losing the guy. I should have just been celebrating!!! Oh well, what are ya gonna do? Bb
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