Locust Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 Thinking of my friend who is currently married and going through some problems and even once mention about divorce. Then I read about the financial lost of men and burdens put on him once married. I read that if a woman has debt and she gets married, it will then be the husband responsibility to pay off her debt. Basically he would need to financially support her. Then if kids are in the picture it even worst. Then if divorce happens she can collect alimony. After reading all about this now I can see why quite of few men say don't every get married it is not worth it, its a trick to rob everything from you. Don't Marry | Why Modern, Western Marriage Has Become A Bad Business Decision For Men The link above explains of this has me turning my head like oh no way. After reading this, I would say no ring on anyone finger it is way too much power on one side.
SJC2008 Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 I think to be scared of something like this before even having engaged in a successful relationship with a woman, is a sure-fire way of beginning the journey towards a self-fulfiling prophecy. What's your definition of a successful relationship? Technically, any R that doesn't end in marriage is a failure is it not? Why is being "scared" of that a self fulfiling prophecy? Are you going to invest in a stock in which the company has lost money the last three quarters and very well may be in a "nose dive"? Probably not. Your answer is typical of most women IMO. Mabye when I start hearing answers like "If you meet the right woman you won't have to worry about that" I'll start changing my views on why I should get married. Marriage isn't a joke as it's treated in western culture. It's a life long commitment to your partner and it takes work, sacrifice, self awareness, compromise and a strong moral compass and very good impulse control. Hell most people would rather be dead than wrong so good like finding the aformentioned.
Author Locust Posted November 2, 2013 Author Posted November 2, 2013 I think if marriage were completely different where the guy won't be the person to clean up someone else mess. I read in other countries it is not like this which I see more and more American guys overseas to marry someone and heard the marriage in US has decline. It has been said about 85% of the time women wants the divorce. I know my mother did when she divorced my father. She never got any alimony from him because he never had a good job. He just work as a cook in a restaurant.
d0nnivain Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 To fully understand the financial ramifications of marriage & divorce, you need to talk to a lawyer about the laws where you are. There are ways to protect assets & make sure that debt remains with the person who incurred it. However, since money is the biggest cause of divorce, it's a good idea to know & understand the other person's views on money. If they have poor credit & high debt now, is it because they made stupid decisions? Have they seen the error of their ways? You have to talk about all this stuff & sometimes it's not easy.
joystickd Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 If you think about it anybody that is a follower of Islam has it hard too. Wives can work and spend the money on whatever they want. Men are obligated to take care of the family and don't be a country under Sharia law then it tough penalties. You wonder why women have it hard over there not to be controlling but because men don't want women taking job they need to prevent punishment under the law and religious damnation.
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