leftfordead2 Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 My sister's boyfriend just broke up with her after being together for 7 years. She is crying really hard right now and I feel so bad for her. Is there anything I can do to make her feel better? The boyfriend told her that he wanted to concentrate on his career and did not want any distractions. My sister pleaded with him, saying that she would not disturb him, but he insisted on the break up. :(
Mario79 Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 Be there for her if she needs to talk be an attentive listener, and let her let it all out, and over all be patient and by that I mean dont get frustrated if she keeps bringing it up over and over and over again. There are no magic words to give you.
Mariposa10 Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 Reminds me of when my sister found out her husband had cheated on her... She pretty much wanted to die because she knew she would never be able to forgive him. She suffered so much, I remember thinking how I wish I could take some of the pain she was feeling. I wanted her to stop suffering SO much so badly... Sadly, there's no easy fix. She'll have to go through this, just like my sister did. What I told my sister is to just focus on one day at the time... To not really think about the future or the past too much because it'll only hurt. To really try to live in the NOW. My best advice is to try to be as close to her as possible. Be there because she's gonna need you. Btw, my sister is now happily engaged to a guy she's madly in love with.
StyleOnEm Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 Just to piggyback on what Mariposa said, God has a plan for all of us. And in the moment Mariposa's sister was focused on the cheating and the breakup that she never thought it was possible to ever love again -- and boom, now she's engaged to someone she's head over heels for. We might not see where life takes us, but in the future when you're with the new love of your life, everything will make sense. The struggle will be worth it.
Valen Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 My sister's boyfriend just broke up with her after being together for 7 years. She is crying really hard right now and I feel so bad for her. Is there anything I can do to make her feel better? Yes, hug her. If she likes, she can even come on here and share her pain with us. Hopefully she can see the light at the end of the tunnel that it will work out for the better.
Fufu Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 My sister's boyfriend just broke up with her after being together for 7 years. She is crying really hard right now and I feel so bad for her. Is there anything I can do to make her feel better? The boyfriend told her that he wanted to concentrate on his career and did not want any distractions. My sister pleaded with him, saying that she would not disturb him, but he insisted on the break up. :( I feel for your sister as this was a really long-term relationship. My advice for your sister is to be strong and respect his decision. I know it's tough but respecting the break up is also a sign that she could live without him. Don't become the woman that man will eventually take her for granted.
Ansem Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 You're the best brother ever. You'll know what to do.
Janni Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 My sister never was there for me, as she is mad at me about some stupid little argument. My mother and dad are here for me though. What helped/helps me a lot, is when my mother just listens and accepts that I am sad. As soon as she started telling me to move on, stop crying, get out and so on, I felt worse. I stopped talking with her. So please don't say that. Encourage her. Hold her. And just be there for her. Let her now it's okay to be sad. It's okay to stay in bed. It is okay. She is mourning a loss.
skydiveaddict Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 My sister's boyfriend just broke up with her after being together for 7 years. She is crying really hard right now and I feel so bad for her. Is there anything I can do to make her feel better? Yea. Just be there for her like you're doing right now. She'll be alright. Don't let your heart be troubled. Your sister will be fine. It's a real blessing and lifesaver that you are there for her.... carry on
devilish innocent Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 The important thing is just to be there for her. Listen to what she has to say and offer a sympathetic ear in response. If her self-esteem seems to be suffering, remind her of all her wonderful qualities and what a great person she is. If she's nervous she won't meet anybody else, reassure her that she will. Let your heart guide you through the conversation. If you live close enough to her that you can visit in person, you can also see if she wants to go out and do stuff to take her mind off things. See if she's interested in going shopping, out to a restaurant or movie, etc. Don't push her into it if she's not, but make time to do those things with her if she is interested.
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