henderson14 Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 Assuming you met off a dating site. Is it good if you just have good conversations and no awkward silences? Do you ever experience that spark right away?
scrubsarelikepajamas Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 I would say good conversation is important. A little awkwardness is normal on a first date, but I would say if the two of you can laugh it off and have a genuinely good time together then that's a successful date 1
Lokie Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 I agree with scrubs. Conversation is really all we have on a first meet from OLD. Of course, there's also the 3-D visuals of the person with whom you've been corresponding - and if that is your tell, then, there you go. But conversation wise, I would say good signs are laughter, lots of eye contact, shared viewpoints, a little non-sexual teasing and each side holding up their end of the conversation. I can't think of a first meet in OLD that wasn't enjoyable, but I am naturally curious about people. Second dates to me are where you see if the spark is possible. But meh, what do I know? I'm still single! :-)
Author henderson14 Posted November 2, 2013 Author Posted November 2, 2013 I agree with scrubs. Conversation is really all we have on a first meet from OLD. Of course, there's also the 3-D visuals of the person with whom you've been corresponding - and if that is your tell, then, there you go. But conversation wise, I would say good signs are laughter, lots of eye contact, shared viewpoints, a little non-sexual teasing and each side holding up their end of the conversation. I can't think of a first meet in OLD that wasn't enjoyable, but I am naturally curious about people. Second dates to me are where you see if the spark is possible. But meh, what do I know? I'm still single! :-) Laughter seems rare on a first meet. It always seems more like an interview.
brunetteB Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 I agree, a good conversation is must in any relationship, especially if its from an online dating site. If your struggling for topics or you have to constantly prompt...maybe a second date is not necessary.
countryrider13 Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 I second the good conversation. There will be some awkwardness there sometimes especially on a first date meeting someone online, but you should be able to roll with it. On my first date from meeting someone online, we had great conversation before we met, and it carried over to when we did meet. No awkward moments
Shosh Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 For me a first meet is successful if I feel comfortable and relaxed around the guy, there are a few smiles or even laughs on both sides, conversation is flowing relatively smoothly and evenly (not just one party talking most of the time) and there is some kind of attraction.
bumpyroad Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 (edited) Attraction/chemistry needs to be there from the off for me, or I just feel like I'm wasting my time. You need to be at least roughly on the same page RE intelligence/education and have some common interests. The conversation needs to flow fairly easy, without too much awkwardness, or them blethering on about themselves without asking you any questions. If it's generally pleasant and there are a few laughs I would consider it successful, whether or not I would want to see them again is a separate issue. Edited November 2, 2013 by bumpyroad typo 1
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