A positive twist??

[brokenhearted91]

Also, I did the stupid thing and went snooping the other day, for the first time since we broke up. Curiosity got the better of me. I looked at the FB page of the girl he was texting within days of finishing with me, and it says they are in a relationship. What surprised me the most was how I felt... I didn't feel upset, I kind of felt relieved in a strange way. Relieved that I knew what was going on and could stop speculating and then all the bad things about how popped into my head and I actually thought "rather you than me love". Don't get me wrong, I miss the old him (from the beginning) and ill always treasure the memories and experiences (first love and all that) but he wasn't the same at the end of the relationship as he was at the beginning and I think that's what I was 'mourning' over so to speak. I feel like it was some kind of break through, like I'd turned a page if that makes sense!

[Toddbt12y1]

Well..what's done is done. So as long as it has opened your eyes and freed your mind from him. This all assuming that you will not be negatively affect you after aometime. Like getting into a car wreck and having whip lash days after.

 

Sometimes we must see with our own two eyes.

[BottleofHope]

Great to hear a successful moving on story! I'm still grieving over my ex-gf who dumped me for another guy but I guess she has changed completely, getting wasted every night, meeting new people, etc. But I guess I miss the old her and all the old memories. She has changed and I have to accept that.

[brokenhearted91]

That was my worry too, but a few days later and I'm feeling even more ok about it. I really do think I've come off better in this situation. I'm glad I've not rushed into a new relationship and have had some "me" time to reflect and get used to being on my own. I think a lot of the hurt came from the fact I wasn't used to being alone and I wanted someone and I missed having a boyfriend.. I've come to realise that the arguments we had and the way he treated and spoke to me and vice versa wasn't a normal healthy relationship. Like I said, that doesn't mean I valued or treasure the relationship we had and memories we shared together any less, it must means the two are easier to separate now.

 

I would like to move on and meet someone new, and maybe eventually get into a relationship with them. At first I thought I'd never want anyone else, but it's like a little weight has been lifted off my shoulders in a way.

[Toddbt12y1]

Good. And if you do try earnestly, you will meet someone else, someone better. I am happy for you

[brokenhearted91]

Thanks I hope so, I'd say I'm at the point where I'm ready!

[Toddbt12y1]

Thanks I hope so, I'd say I'm at the point where I'm ready!

 

then go out and get your pretty lil self a man girl! Someone who will love you

[MoooOinkBaaa]

Oh look yet another story of someone getting dumped because their partner felt they needed an upgrade. It makes me sick. I snoop too and I'm glad I do. It's woken me the **** up. She made out like our relationship wasn't right but her Twitter is all about how happy she is and how she has a crush on someone. How desperately she needs to get laid.

 

Do you really miss the old him? I don't miss the old her. She put on a damn good show but I realize now how insecure she is and selfish. She dumped me to get what she couldn't have and I hope she gets rejected. If she ever contacts me I'll tear her apart.

[brokenhearted91]

You come across as quite bitter and that's not how I want to be. I hope that doesn't offend you, but I do miss the old him yes, and I know towards the end of our relationship he missed the old me too. People do change and I believe that at the time, we were right together but things change and that's no longer the case, but life does need to move on.

[geegee81]

Good for you Broken heart. Move on with your life. Stay positive and faithful....Good will come to you.

[MoooOinkBaaa]

lol only a bit bitter?