ponchsox Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 (edited) What is your definition of both and have you ever gone from dating someone to being friends successfully? I have been dating a single mom for a year and a half. We are very compatible on all levels, great sex, always have fun together. Recently, things have changed in her life with her ex husband getting arrested which prevents him from seeing his son Saturday which used to be our day together. Now she has to watch her son and we have very little time right now to see each other. On top of that, her son is struggling in school and she feels like she's letting him down. We decided to end the dating, go no contact for a while, and remain as friends. We even commented to each other that we were like friends trying to make a relationship work anyway. So, when we talk about the extent of our friendship, can it still be enjoyable for us and perhaps less pressure? Edited November 1, 2013 by ponchsox
Phantom888 Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 This happens often, but not really what I prefer. I prefer to go no contact with people I dated in the past. Though I have a really close friend whom I dated for a few months last year. The sex was great, and we had lots of fun together. But because she works a really crazy schedule, we couldn't see each other much. She wanted to be FWB, but I thought it's not the way I want to go. I want to date someone to be in a relationship, not to be just friends with sex. So we ended it, but we are still friends...no sex... and we see each other occasionally to hang out. But the understanding must be absolutely clear. If you gonna be just friends, you can't have sex or even kiss on the lips!
d0nnivain Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 It's hard to maintain a true friendship with someone you used to have a more intimate relationship with. I ocassionally see my BF from grad school because we work in the same industry so every couple of years we'll bump into each other. We're cordial. We catch up on our families. Sometimes we grab a cup of coffee but we don't go out of our way to see each other. We only spend about 1/2 hour together if that & after how are your parents the conversation is usually about work related subjects. I wouldn't say we "hang out" because we never plan to get together.
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