Sososad Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Ok so we shouldnt waste time anslyzing this crap. But met up with the ex (3 year relationship) After 4 weeks very low contact 2/3 texts. Bumped into her yesterday and only today kinda hit me She went on about all these guys chasing her how shes on "dates" and life is perfect "great". Still alot of anger towards me although appearing ok alot of subtle personal jabs at me and people around me . Just found it a little strange to go into so much personal details but say she wants me to know nothing of her life on facebook ,whatsapp etc. I get its over but just a strange conversation is this bragging normal or bigging up life Thanks for reading.
Zahara Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Yes, you shouldn't waste time analyzing this. 1
xUnknown Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Trying to get you jealous. Wants to see how you're going to react. 1
Chi townD Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Rule of thumb. When someone has to go out of their way to brag on how great their life is, then it really isn't THAT great. 9
LoveTKO Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Rule of thumb. When someone has to go out of their way to brag on how great their life is, then it really isn't THAT great. LOL!! Ain't that the truth! This post applies especially to Facebook posters who incessantly pester all their "friends" with vacation photos, meals they've eaten at fancy restaurants, relationships status, posting and identifying with inspirational quotes that tacitly marginalize the rest of us. Too funny. 5
BottleofHope Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 She's just trying to reaffirm that the breakup was the best thing that has happened in her life, which COULD be true or it's just her trying to convince herself that life IS good. But like LoveTKO said, people only pick out the best part of their life to be seen, people wouldn't be posting about depressing things because they want people to see that they're having the time of their life. Seems to me you made a right choice of letting this one go, bragging is never a good characteristic, even for friends. Move on bro, you're heading for better things in life. 1
MoooOinkBaaa Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Hahahahaha sounds like my ex posting on Twitter how over me she is. If she was over me she wouldn't be posting that crap. 1
Author Sososad Posted November 1, 2013 Author Posted November 1, 2013 Ah maybe shes happy and thats fair enough im Honest enough to say maybe im reaching here. All in all told me life was great went a little overboard On details .. who knows.. I kinda believed when you move on . Anger and the jabs and games would stop . Who knows but her!
MoooOinkBaaa Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 This person will do anything to get one over on you in life. Do it better.
Sugarkane Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 I know how you feel. I've had a dumper do this to me aswell. But as usual dumpers are allowed to be Aholes. Needless to say I cut this person right off. But I've been tempted to do the same since they never regretted treating me like crap.
bubbaganoosh Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 She's probably sitting at home in torn sweats with a quart of ice cream and a huge spoon between her knees watching re runs. Old saying. Trying to make an impression is the impression that you make. 3
Riou Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 Like many said..life isn't great for her.Especially if she's active on facebook.Which awesome person has so much time for fakebook? Sounds like she wants you to feel sad so she can reassure herself she made the right choice.
Salvatore85 Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 It's pathetic and childish, be happy she's having an "amazing" life with some other fool lol.
Author Sososad Posted November 2, 2013 Author Posted November 2, 2013 Thanks for the advice. im big enough to admit i do hope she is happy i dont honestly want to know the inner details of her new romances and i really think anyone meeting a ex first time after breakup probably should avoid these parts of conversation. Some people are nasty though and want to inflict maximum pain!
Fufu Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 i think she just wanted to show you how she is living her life well without you, honestly doesn't matter how good or how bad her life now. It's all about you now. 1
LoveTKO Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 Ex's who feel the need to share with you how totally bitchin' their new life is, or how many "hot" dating prospects they have at their disposal are not trying to convince you but they're trying to convince themselves. It's not that much different from a religious freak or someone who just became a vegan. All they're setting out to accomplish is bullying you with their message. And do bullies really feel good about themselves? Of course not. You're ex just needs to grow up. 1
Author Sososad Posted November 2, 2013 Author Posted November 2, 2013 Its funny thinking back like she told Me your not in my life were not friends and i dont want you knowing anyting about my life like my facebook or even my last online on whatsapp yet decided to tell me all this other stuff?! 1
Author Sososad Posted November 2, 2013 Author Posted November 2, 2013 (edited) Sorry double posted Edited November 2, 2013 by Sososad double messaged
cavalier99 Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 Shes probably is just fine maybe even great!!. Most dumpers are since they got exactly what they wanted. Getting out of the RS. It is normal for them to still want to share some things or even gloat a little just to raffirm that they made the right choice and show their independence from you. The thing is you should be putting yourself in this.positon to get info on her. Assume she IS doing great ecetera and will soon be getting laid and/or in a new RS. Forget about her. It is all about you now. Cav
Sugarkane Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 It's weird, I'd expect this behavior from a dumpee. But a dumper?! Be glad that this Ahole is out of your life!
aybc123 Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Gonna second the people saying her life is not as good as she's saying it is. All the times i've broken up with people i've felt terrible about it but been pretty happy afterward myself, i went out of my way to be kind and considerate to them whenever i spoke to them or bumped into them because i didnt want to make them feel worse and i was genuinely doing well, and frankly i didn't care if they knew i was, why would it effect me. So either: a) your ex is doing well but is a total bitch b) your ex isn't doing so well, but she's still hung up about you enough for her to want you to think she is whichever it is it's nothing you need to feel bad about if you think about it.
Mz_sassy_77 Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 My ex is being a total arse. He BU with me and yet acts like I have done something horrible to him. He likes to play the victim. He is always on FB updating his status to show how much fun he is having and how great life is. Telling everyone life is awesome and for the first time in years he is soooo happy. The thing is I was with him for years and I know the reality. I know what his life is actually like. And I know when we were together it definately was not awesome for him. I think people lie. I think when they are hurt, and even the dumper can be hurt, they put on a front. I mean what are they going to say - I'm miserable without them. Isn't going to happen. They will never admit if they are hurting. The only people who know the truth are them - we will never know what it's really like for them.
Author Sososad Posted November 3, 2013 Author Posted November 3, 2013 Very good advice all round . It is possible shes happy. Sure if shes not shes only fooling herself im not in her life anymore so its not like she even gets to really see the hurt she has caused if that makes sense. Think to be honest sick of the childish games i thought i was fairly straight didnt brag or moan about my life tried to be upbeat .its her birthday today too my desire to be the bigger person is gone i wont be reaching out to say happy birthday!! Little pathetic but i tried the nice approach and got bit so once bitten twice shy haha
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