ellisjp Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Ok so I like this girl in one of my college classes. I started talking to her and asked her out. We went to a cool downtown restaurant. We had a really good time and she even said she did. We went on september 25th. Well for various reasons, progress never really got made. I asked her to the movies, she was busy, then I asked again - she said some other time. Stopped asking. She asked me, both of us had random stuff come up - didn't go. Don't get me wrong we still talk a lot in and after class. We enjoy talking to each other, she always comes right up to me after class and starts talking to me.. We ate lunch together last Friday. At the end of our lunch I told her I got tickets to a Washington Capitals game (she likes hockey and has never been to a game). Well she said yes and the game is on Nov 5th. Well then I really didn't hear from her for about a week, and I started to really second guess going to this game with her. Its sort of a 'big' thing, and we aren't anything at all. then we saw each other in class yesterday. We really only talked about Halloween haha, but I texted her a little while later asking if she still wanted to go (kinda have to confirm this well in advance). I got a super enthusiastic yes almost immediately. So that put to bed the notion of not going or cancelling. But I still don't know if its a 'date'. Is it? Do you guys think she likes me? Maybe just going for tickets? How should I act on the date (like physical/not physical)? Its been a slow roll so far, is that a bad thing? Thanks in advance!
d0nnivain Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 I think it's a date. You can try to hold her hand walking into & out of the arena. In a big crowd you the perfect excuse -- not getting seperated. Give her high-fives or whatever when your team scores. You can even try to sneak in a kiss; you might end up on the jumbo tron.
Valen Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 From my experience, if you're interesting in someone it's important to establish your interest early on. On your first or second date, try to hold her hand and definitely give her a peck on the cheek when the dates end. This will send a clear message to her that you want to date her not be her friend. If you just treat her like a friend on the date and there is no physical contact, then yea.. that can sometimes lead to being friendzoned. Never ask a girl whether they like you if you have only been on a few dates. Just go with the flow and treat her like a date and go for the kiss. If she is interested in you too, she'll kiss you back. If not, she'll let you know right away so you don't' get the wrong impression. In this case, you don't have to wonder. Remember you are the guy, you have to take the lead, girls like that.
Author ellisjp Posted November 1, 2013 Author Posted November 1, 2013 From my experience, if you're interesting in someone it's important to establish your interest early on. On your first or second date, try to hold her hand and definitely give her a peck on the cheek when the dates end. This will send a clear message to her that you want to date her not be her friend. If you just treat her like a friend on the date and there is no physical contact, then yea.. that can sometimes lead to being friendzoned. Never ask a girl whether they like you if you have only been on a few dates. Just go with the flow and treat her like a date and go for the kiss. If she is interested in you too, she'll kiss you back. If not, she'll let you know right away so you don't' get the wrong impression. In this case, you don't have to wonder. Remember you are the guy, you have to take the lead, girls like that. That's the thing. Is this going to slow to be a date? Is it a date? I never really 'made a move' on her. but the only time that was really appropriate was when we went out to dinner awhile back. I just kept talking to her and getting to know her after that. What's really making me nervous, like what if I hold her hand/put my arm around her in the seat/etc like the above comment said, and she ISN'T feeling that. Well that's awkward right? Even worse considering the next 2 hours (PLUS an 1.5 hour trip back) would be terrible. She has to realize this right? See where I'm getting nervous/second-guessy about this?? I'd feel incredibly stupid if I take a girl I like to a game such as this, only for her to think that I'm just her buddy.
LovesickAlberta Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Get her an Ovechkin t-shirt while you're at it Seriously though, I would recommend making your move after the game. Hockey is a very intense game, and is part of our culture. Hopefully the Caps win, since that will increase your chances of having her be more receptive to any move you make. It's been scientifically proven that both men and women get a rise in testosterone, when their team wins. PS...make sure to bring a hat, and throw it on the ice, in case Ovi get's a hat trick (3 goals). That will impress her.
Valen Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 That's the thing. Is this going to slow to be a date? Is it a date? I never really 'made a move' on her. but the only time that was really appropriate was when we went out to dinner awhile back. I just kept talking to her and getting to know her after that. What's really making me nervous, like what if I hold her hand/put my arm around her in the seat/etc like the above comment said, and she ISN'T feeling that. Well that's awkward right? Even worse considering the next 2 hours (PLUS an 1.5 hour trip back) would be terrible. She has to realize this right? See where I'm getting nervous/second-guessy about this?? I'd feel incredibly stupid if I take a girl I like to a game such as this, only for her to think that I'm just her buddy. I think you are going too slow. It's like the third date and yet you haven't held her hand. It's giving her the idea you want to be friends or that you're not confident with yourself, either case, it's a turn off. Gotta be bold. Yes if you try to hold her hand and she isn't having it. It can be awkward but it's better to get rejected early then to spend tons of money and time on a girl later to find out "oh I only see you as a friend." Remember dating is about finding someone who likes you too, so if a girl isn't into you. Just move on and find another. But you won't know for sure unless you make a move. Learning to handle rejection is part of growing up and become a stronger person. It's no big deal if things don't work out. It happens to everyone. Again I repeat, it happens to EVERYONE. Dating is kinda like playing football. You are bound to get hurt, but it's can still be fun. You don't want to sit in the sidelines all your life. So treat the game as a date. Try to show her a good time. Be playful. And at the end of the game, as you are getting out of your seat to leave, grab her hand and lead her out of the stadium. Keep holding hands. Then let go when you reach your car. After you take her home, give her a good night kiss. Got it?
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