mikejensen3355 Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 Do you love this girl? If so, as bad as it is that she didn't tell you, you shouldn't walk away at this point. Sometimes things like this happen in life when you're not ready and you have to man up. That child is your gift, not your burden. You've gotta know that if you're walking away from her you're either walking away from the kid completely or that you'll only be around in it's life half the time at best case scenario. If you don't love the girl though, it is the healthiest thing for the kid also that you don't force yourself into a marriage that isn't built on real love. It's a tough situation for sure. But really think through all parts of it, like I think you are. You can't control that she wants to have the kid, so think about the parts you can control. You've gotta figure out if this is the girl you believe you want to spend your life with and raise that child together with and build a family or that you don't and be a good father and make the best of the time you do get with it.
Mariposa10 Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 This is such a horrible situation... My ex and I talked about what we would do if something like this happened, an accident. I told him I'd have an abortion, there's no way in hell I'd have a baby right now. Even telling him that, he was always sooooo careful, so careful that it was annoying . Anyway, I even told him if anybody is gonna really suffer the consequences of a undesired pregnancy that's gonna be me (which is true!), to see if he would relax and stop being so paranoid, but still he was always TOO careful But, yeah, just because she's pregnant, it doesn't mean you two have to stay together. You two do have to share responsibility of the baby though. Good luck!!
Speakingofwhich Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 This happened to a close relative (male) of mine many years ago after having dated a woman for just two or three months. I mentioned to him that he didn't have to marry her. But he chose to. To become a father and husband, he had to change some of the plans he had been making for his life. It was a chaotic time for this couple as they planned a wedding quickly and then tried to figure out how to provide for the new baby. The child that was born has turned out to be one of the most beautiful people you'll ever see. From birth she was and continues to be stunning, brilliant (top 1 %) and full of personality! She is the female version of her father! Right after her delivery (her father was in the room) she was screaming her head off and her dad looked down at her and spoke her name. She immediately quieted down, turned her little head upward toward him and looked right into his eyes! She's been her daddy's girl ever since. I doubt he would trade her for the world. The father, who was making a medium income when all this happened, sky rocketed in his career and began to make quite a bit of $$. I truly believe he has been blessed to have stepped up and taken the responsibility to provide a home, a mom and a dad for the life he helped create.
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