What's you're greatest internal accomplishment and why?

[mea_M]

If this does not belong here mods feel free to move. I posted it it here do the well being part of this area.

 

My greatest internal accomplishment is letting go of FEAR. Fear kept me a victim to myself. By learning how to let go by facing fear head on I was able to find peace internally. Extremely thankful for this. You're turn!

 

 

Mea :-)

[JamesM]

It is along similar lines. I too overcame a phobia that would cause me panic attacks on an occasion.

 

How? Not totally sure except by recognizing what it was, I learned how to go through it when it came. And by doing that, I seem to have caused it to pretty much disappear.

 

But I think what helped me is learning to take control over problems instead of letting the problems take control over me.

 

If I have a problem (whether it be financial, personal, marital) I now research ways to solve it, or live with it, or confront it. This has made many problems manageable and many no longer a problem.

 

Good question.

[mea_M]

 

But I think what helped me is learning to take control over problems instead of letting the problems take control over me.

 

 

That's a bingo in my book. Agree. Good job.

 

 

Mea :-)

[Copelandsanity]

I am not in a relationship. I haven't dated in months. And yet, I am happy. I would say that my greatest internal accomplishment is attaining peace and contentment, even if I am alone.

 

In my 20s, I used to constantly feel like there was a hole in my heart, that there was something missing in my life that needed to be completed. And I always tried to fill that hole with girls, whether it be flings, relationships, and even marriage. After my D-Day, I honestly felt my life was over and I had stretches where I wanted to end it altogether. But I persevered. There were certainly bumps in the road - rebound relationships, smashing objects in temper tantrums, throwing myself into distractions that I had no passion for, months of severe depression - but I survived. And I came to the realization that no woman could ever complete me. The hole wasn't for another person, it was meant for myself to fill with self-worth. I am an attractive, sexy, self-sufficient, intelligent, funny, and talented person. If I ever do have a relationship again, she won't complete my life, but she'll complement and add to an already great one.

[mea_M]

Cope that is all awesome. You learned to love yourself.:bunny:

 

 

Mea:)

[brokenblade]

My greatest accomplishment is actually learning to reach out to others, getting over myself as well.

[Valen]

I think my greatest internal accomplishment is able to let go of things, whether they be breakups, anger, or a bad day. I can move on and face tomorrow with open mind and fresh attitude. I see too many people dragging the past along with them weighing them down and making them depressed. I used to do that when I was young, it took long time for me to understand the wisdom of letting go and the peace that it brings.

Edited November 1, 2013 by Valen

[whichwayisup]

I still have anxiety and always will but I get my 'fears' now and the one big one that would freak me out - Future worrying. Worrying about stuff that hasn't happened yet or will never happen. Propelling too far into the future (later in life, what if something happens to my H and I'm alone, old and sitting in a diaper in an old age home by myself..)stupid stuff like that. ALL pointless and causes anxiety! All for what? Takes away the NOW so I've learned to stay in the now and enjoy my life as it is today.

[theothersully]

There are so many....

 

Overcoming shyness.

Overcoming social awkwardness.

Curing my own panic/anxiety attacks (if anyone needs advice, let me know)

Realizing what you do for a living is *not* who you are and has nothing to do with self worth.

Rebuilding after divorce and feeling happy again.

 

Life if a constant journey.

[Blastoplast]

Learning to appreciate everybody for who they are and opening up myself to them.

[MrCastle]

Becoming self aware was a huge one. I truly believe in seeing yourself as others see you. I assume my ability to get on good with most people stems from the fact I am always putting myself in their shoes when we interact. Always asking myself how I would see myself if I was them.

 

Finding my strengths early on in life was great too. I believe we're all blessed with gifts but some of us either never find out what they are or use them for the wrong reasons.

 

I knew as a late teen that my strengths were in creative/artistic ventures, namely writing. That's been my ace in the hole for as far back as I can remember.

 

My life would be dramatically different if I didn't have that outlet.

[SpiralOut]

Acknowledging my flaws without hating myself for it: negative thinking patterns, behaviours that annoy others, mistakes that I've made.

 

Identifying my internal dialogue and figuring out where it all came from. For example, why do I tell myself I can't do things? Learning to question and fight against that critical voice.

[Shepp]

For sure learning how to switch off my claustrophobia enough to serve in the fire service.

[mea_M]

There are so many....

 

Overcoming shyness.

Overcoming social awkwardness.

Curing my own panic/anxiety attacks (if anyone needs advice, let me know)

Realizing what you do for a living is *not* who you are and has nothing to do with self worth.

Rebuilding after divorce and feeling happy again.

 

Life if a constant journey.

 

A constant journey for sure. But a journey worth traveling at our best. :-)

 

 

Mea :-)

[whichwayisup]

For sure learning how to switch off my claustrophobia enough to serve in the fire service.

 

Firefighters are special breeds of humans! Same goes for Cops, EMS, paramedics and anybody else who wears a uniform for their Country.

[Grumpybutfun]

Great thread, Mea, thanks.

 

My greatest internal accomplishment is learning how to become a spiritual person without religion.

 

Grumps

[reflex]

Accepting the very possibility of achievement on my part.