devastated777 Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 (edited) I am at a loss here because I just got thrown out a week ago. I met this wonderful man, I moved in and everything was perfect. He told me how I was just the most wonderful and beautiful woman he had ever been with. I felt the same, at least as far as him being the most wonderful. I didn't fall for his looks so I guess I thought I was doing everything right. a couple of weeks ago was when the trouble started. He started talking about how I never text him anymore and asked if I was falling out of love with him. I proclaimed that was certainly not the case. Then, my old boss texted me and he got really jealous about that. I assured him it was ok. absolutely nothing there. Then he wanted me to leave work early and said I was just blowing him off by saying this is ridiculous. So I left because he said he was there for me when I have been needy and he wanted to make love. so we did. Did all weekend and he was talking about how he couldn't hold out long and asked if that bothered me. just kept apologizing for it. then, when we were at the grocery store, I split up to go get cheese. this man comes up to me and tells me how he thinks Im beautiful and if I am married. Then, I see him and I tell him, yes and here is my husband now. so he tells him how he thought I was attractive blah blah. Then, he was bothered by that. After we got home, I tried to just blow it off and then he wants to see the text from my boss again, well I had deleted it, along with a ton of others, but I had already showed the whole convo to him before. I think I'm giving too much info. then, by Tuesday, he is still saying that I don't love him and how he gave up everyone for me and how I never act concerned about losing him anymore and I told him because he is always talking about losing me. When would I have a chance? So I said maybe I should move back to my house. Big mistake. He agreed and made sure I did. he went out of town last Friday and told me to be out by Sunday. I was out by Saturday afternoon. He sent someone over to get something which I know was just to see my progress. Then, he called Saturday after I had blown him up with multiple begging texts Friday. (wish I hadn't done that but I drank). he ignored everyone of those texts. Then, I realized he was cheating so I sent a text that said I have unpacked everything. I am staying to work on things. that was at 8:00 p.m. Finally, at 2:07, he texted and said u need to keep packing. So I did and I am out. He came by Sunday to say goodbye to me and my dogs and bring some items I left and I haven't heard from him since. He called my Dad and apologized for how things went and that he thought highly of him blah blah. I did the same to his parents and they are blown away. I mean this guy would embarrass me by how much he bragged on me. I would tell him to stop and he would say how proud he was of me. I feel like such an idiot. What did I do?? He told me has me figured out and has turned so mean on me. I sent him a final text 3 days ago about how I thought he was the best man I have known and that I don't understand this but I guess I don't have to and thanks for the wonderful times and I will always be here for him if he needs anything. does anyone think I will hear from him again? The person I knew would at least check on me but he hasn't Edited November 2, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
d0nnivain Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 For your sake I hope you don't hear from him again. That's nuts. 1
Balzac Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 That's a lotta drama. I'd be making sure he never contacted me again. 1
Author devastated777 Posted November 1, 2013 Author Posted November 1, 2013 I know that. He had such an active mind. Long story behind it all but I usually could help him. I guess what I'm saying is this, is it all BS because he's screwing around himself? I feel like he was searching for something. digging up whatever he could.
Author devastated777 Posted November 1, 2013 Author Posted November 1, 2013 He denies cheating. that was my mind thinking that when I sent the text.
mammasita Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 How long did you know him before you moved in?
Balzac Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 "Help him" indicates this is a"you" problem. Makes no sense that you'd give a single thought to what he's thinking.
Author devastated777 Posted November 1, 2013 Author Posted November 1, 2013 I knew him for 6 months before I moved in. But we were inseperable from the first time we met. Best conversation and had the most fun.
Author devastated777 Posted November 1, 2013 Author Posted November 1, 2013 "Help him" indicates this is a"you" problem. Makes no sense that you'd give a single thought to what he's thinking. Not sure I understand this? What I meant was sometimes he would think negative things about people and I would just try to help him see other sides. Its not always what you think. That's all I meant. like if he were complaining about someone.
Author devastated777 Posted November 1, 2013 Author Posted November 1, 2013 I guess in short: He created a problem, threw me out, went out of town to a bar while I moved (supposedly). Came over to say by "face to face" and exchange keys and I text him (like an idiot) saying how I thinks hes great and thanks for an awesome 2 years and nothing. Will I hear from him?
d0nnivain Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 I doubt you will hear from him. Other than he's nuts, the only other thing I can think is that after you moved in he freaked about the level of commitment that represented & he went through all this to get rid of you rather than having a mature conversation. Really. You are better off without him.
AlmostFrench Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 I really feel for you right now. It has only been a week so you are probably still in shock/panic mode. Given a bit of time you will probably realize you don't want him back. Do you really think even if he did come back, you could ever trust him again? After he threw you out so suddenly after a long relationship? You would be walking on egg shells everyday! There was nothing wrong with what you texted, he doesn't deserve you to say something so nice though! He probably hasn't texted back because he doesn't know what to say, or possibly knows he has been a tool. Don't contact him now, as much as you want to. There is a possibility you may hear something from him if you leave him alone, but I doubt he will come back. Men like that are not very good at admitting they did something wrong.
Author devastated777 Posted November 5, 2013 Author Posted November 5, 2013 Thanks for the comments. you all are right. Since my initial post, he came to my house on Friday night. Spent the night. Asked me how I had the money to get a dog lot put in because my dogs are in the house right now and they are miserable. when I moved in with him, he built a fence around a little cottage and we installed a doggie door so they could come in and out. I am trying to make the same situation at my house, only downstairs, as I don't have a cottage. anyway, he was surprised I had the funds to do this. My neighbor gave me the fence (thankfully), but I didn't tell him that. Then, he proceeds to pull out his wallet and count his money, which was packed with 100$ bills. Yeah. Jerk. Then, after leaving Saturday morning, he says he is going to go to the woods with a friend. Didn't hear from him all day. Saturday night, I go with a friend to a party that had a live band (some guy she knew played). I had a feeling it would be bad and I was right. After sitting there listening to the band and watching these folks, I got sad. So I texted him. He responded with a picture of his new woman. Now I knew , or actually had a feeling, that he was seeing this woman but during my confused stage, he would vehemently deny this. anyway. The first pic was her hand on a steering wheel with a Mercedes emblem. I remember him talking about some job he had to price and how the woman had a nice car. I knew then too. then, he sent her profile while they were riding down the interstate. followed with a text that said "It don't rain on me!!! that was a Bruno mars song I said is how I would feel if we ever lost each other. needless to say, it was on. I was such an idiot. I fired back with all these texts on how he sucked at oral blah blah. then, I went up to the bass player and texted a pic of me kissing him. yeah, I know. :(:( shame on me. So, I am worried he will get a 50 B on me now. Waiting at work to see if the cops show up. I didn't threaten his life. In fact, when she chimed in on the texting, I told her I was sad because he was with me the night before and felt like a fool and I hope they are happy together (not really). No contact since. but his sister said he told her I was going to get one on him and I was like wth?? Looking back, this is how he plants seeds. Now his family will support his decision to do this to me. That way, he doesn't lose his guns because he likes to hunt. she also said he had someone watch his house. Really?? How was I so fooled and what in the heck did I do to him to make him so vile??
Zahara Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 I'm not sure why you think the cops will show up. They're not going to waste time over some texts by a lover scorned. I think you should block him and move on with your life. Don't ever entertain any communication from him. He sounds like a nutjob. And a douchebag for coming over and I am sure you guys had sex and then flaunt another woman the next day. Makes me want to puke.
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