copperlily Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 I've been dating this guy for around a year. We have the most in common of anyone I've ever dated, our relationship is great, and I'm very in love with him. He has his quirks, but it was nothing that was ever a red flag for me. The other day he told me he has been applying for jobs in other states. He hasn't talked to me about what will happen between us if he accepts one of them, but my gut feeling is that he will end our relationship and move without me. The way he talks about it gives me that impression. I really don't understand why. I can't put the pieces together. Maybe I'm just not as important to him as he is to me, but if that's the case, why lead me on like this and act so in love with me? Just for the convenience of having someone around? That's so cruel...
ConstantVoyager Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Ask him what his plans are before you begin (perhaps) unnecessarily mentally torturing yourself. 1
d0nnivain Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 You can't really fault somebody for trying to improve their economic situation. It is unfortunate that he's doing this but applying for out of state jobs doesn't mean he's going to take one or that he won't want an LDR with you until you can be together again. Don't fret until there is actually something to be upset about. Right now you are projecting a worst case scenario. 1
Author copperlily Posted November 1, 2013 Author Posted November 1, 2013 That's kind of the way I feel too...
nescafe1982 Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Sounds to me like you two need to talk about this more. I will +1 Voyager's advice: ask him what he sees happening between you two if he moves away. Listen to his answer, completely (and there's no way he hasn't thought of this)... and go from there.
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