NiCoLe20 Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 ok guys i try to give ppl on here some good advice but...when it comes to my own problems i like hearing advice from others...in a way you can relate me to EC... i worry about things alot even if its not a big problem...so here's my issue: for the past 2 weeks and thru the Xmas season, i have picked up 2 jobs for gifts and bills...basically to have some extra $... i have been working every weekend (fri-sat-sun) till midnite and lately havent been seeing much of my b/f... yea ill see him like every other day for maybe 2 hours... im happy at the fact i see him...but i wish it was longer. we havent had sex in like a week n a half!!!!! (and i get mad when we dont lol) im going to be very busy the next coming weeks and would like to see him as much as i can. i get pissed when i dont see him. i dont know why but i do and he knows it too -if im around him ill be quiet..he knows whats wrong but doesnt do anything about it. see, i go out of my way to call him up and see what he's up to. im the one calling to hang out, im the one calling to make plans and im getting tired of it... why cant he call me and say hey babe come over when you get a chance? he doesnt do any of that..and its like i need attention and basically to know he's thinking about me.. yes it may seem like picky little things...but to me its the little things that make me happy n feel good. and yesterday i text messaged him saying ''babe please set aside some time 4 me later'' b/c its like i have to plan to hang out w/ him (and i shouldnt have to text that right?).. and what happens? he told me he'd call around 7... winds up not doing it...im mad so i call him- he's still at home and running errands for his friends...and i hang up...and he calls me at 9:30... he knew it was my day off and he never puts effort into wanting to see me.. i just dont understand. this is just happening more frequently and its bothering me. everytime I plan to hang out it doesnt happen. its not something to end a relationship over but i feel that if this continues to happen i will end it. i feel like i deserve more b/c i put soo much effort into the communication part... so i dont know what to do... my only solution is this...let him handle things...im gonna stop the calling to hang out and thats that. let him do the effort...but i doubt that will happen.. we will probably not call each other until the point where a week goes by w/o neither one of us calling to see each other...thats sad...things shouldnt be like this you know...if u guys have any suggestions to this stupid little problem lol please offer them... i talk to him about this but it just makes him angry and i dont want him to feel like if i dont get my way then thats it-but if u have a b/f or g/f shouldnt u want to seethem more?!!! pheew...i needed to vent on that! sorry!!!
tattoomytoe Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 abscence makes the heart grow fonder.....so quit talking to him.
Author NiCoLe20 Posted December 14, 2004 Author Posted December 14, 2004 very true...lol and thats one of my common sayings... good stuff!!!
Author NiCoLe20 Posted December 15, 2004 Author Posted December 15, 2004 well nothings changed lol... yesterday i had work...he told me he might stop and see me but nope...that didnt happen...i didnt even get a phone call last night either... he said he was tired and going to sleep but im still a little suspicious... he's gonna call me at lunch and ill get to the point of things. i just dont understand...im so good to him and he's doing nothing for me... all he does is say i love you like 20 times a day but i just see right thru that...i dont see a meaning behind it anymore...yea he says it but doesnt show it... IF we actually do see each other today, and longer for an hour, im gonna have a serious talk w/ him b/c little things like this are bothering me. grrr....i really hope things change soon...he needs to start showing me more affection or im out the door...i dont think its a bad thing to feel wanted right? well thats all for now...no one replied to this post so i guess no one cares lol...
EC Posted December 15, 2004 Posted December 15, 2004 Girl your going through exactly what I was going through a week ago. I felt as if he was slipping through my fingers ..and nothing I could do could stop him. I felt like I was doing all the work and he said I love you all day but I just felt like he didnt mean it or something and everything just felt really weird and like the end was coming. But then I talked to him and now everything is fine and he brought me flowers and took me to dinner. You have to put your foot down and tell him like it is and you can't be scared. I would have never done it but thanks to LS I did and I basically told him that I am young, I am pretty and I need attention and love from him. I told him it's the little things that count and that I am not with him because I need him but because I choose to be and if he's not making me happy then I can leave. He got the point...you need to tell your bf how you feel and not be scared of losing him by saying what you want to say. Say it str8 up girl. And be tough about it. If he really cares he will show you.
Author NiCoLe20 Posted December 16, 2004 Author Posted December 16, 2004 so yesterday during lunch my b/f calls me saying he's ''demanding'' that we chill b/c its my only night off for the rest of the week ... so im excited i finally get to spend time with him ... or so i think... i rush home from work, rush to go tanning, rush home to eat & shower... i told him ''you better be up, and no one better be around b/c i want to spend time alone with you'' so he said fine ipromise blah blah blah.... im on my way there and he's not picking up his phone...anger starts to set in bc i know hes sleeping...im thinking to myself why??? why cant he just try to make it seem like he wants to see me... this is all agrivating b/c xmas is next week and i dont want things to get sour right b4 the holidays u know... so i go to his house open the door and him and his cousing are asleep on the couch.. im pissed!! i tried waking him up and i flicked his arm and he says .. ow, why did u do that? im like ok fine im out of here so i leave n slam the door. i called him when i got in my car and i started crying and i left him a message saying how i rush and make time for him but he doestn for me. i said it seems like he doestn care aboutmy feelings and how i wish things would change..i say im a good g/f for him and i dont deserve this you know. im tired too but i rush to go see him. i told him i need a few days to think about things b/c its just all going downhill... i could be with someone who showers me w/ affection... he just doesnt care and thats how he deals with things... i was real upset on the message and its now the next morning and still no call. so im at my wits end... i told him i dont mean for the little things like this to get to me but it does...and like how i said before its the little things that count... so what should i do from here? just ignore him ? i dont know ughh this is so agrivating and im soo stressed out...and its starting to show it in my dreams...ive been bottling up things for so long and im about to explode! im normally so carefree but hes bothering me and doesnt try to make me feel happy... im about to just give him his gift on xmas and leave..u guys agree??
EC Posted December 16, 2004 Posted December 16, 2004 Well the dinner I talked about last night...ha! he broke up with me the next day. Said we need to take a break...but thats another story. I think you did right, you left and you left him a message saying everything you have been holding back. Now don't call him, and wait for him to contact you with an explanation or with however he feels about it. I know you care but he probably didnt know how bad it was affecting you until you bursted on him yesterday. If he is willing I say let him prove to you he will change and at the first sign of him doing it again leave his ass and don't look back.
Author NiCoLe20 Posted December 16, 2004 Author Posted December 16, 2004 yea ill prboably do that...lunch is 15 minutes away and im gonna see if he calls to talk...if he does i might not answer it the 1st time...im not sure yet..im still pretty pissed...when im upset i talk to ppl about my problems and everyone ive been talking to agrees that i have a right to be upset... but anyways aww....he broke up with you? didnt he come and give u flowers?? aww what happend? u said u guys were perfect...now he wants space? lol i really dont get guys..im gonna be a lesbian! nah j/k im working at the mall this wholleee weekend so im hoping i bump into a cutie!!!
tattoomytoe Posted December 16, 2004 Posted December 16, 2004 lesbians are worse than guys!!! could you imagine dealing with another female! no thanks!
Author NiCoLe20 Posted December 16, 2004 Author Posted December 16, 2004 lol..thats true!! well no call at lunch..why is he ignoring me?? makes no sense he's the one that fked up not me...damn im so mad
tattoomytoe Posted December 16, 2004 Posted December 16, 2004 Originally posted by NiCoLe20 well no call at lunch..why is he ignoring me?? makes no sense he's the one that fked up not me...damn im so mad are you shocked? probably not....i would just stop expecting anything from him. You need to break it off, or realize he is not up to your Par and let it go.....you are onlty banging your head into a wall with this guy.
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