Author cottom Posted November 1, 2013 Author Posted November 1, 2013 I dont know what to do anymore, my head and heart are in two different places. My head says leave it behind because it wont be worth it and then this drama will start all over again. I am moving to another city which is 2 hours away. We have been together over 5 months only. A lot of people hate her and spread rumors about her and she has an easy past. Not sexually but just passing round guy to guy in a club making out with everyone. My heart though says it might be worth it. It says in August but she says that she hasnt been out without me since about June time. She also told me to ask this other guy who was there in April that the Brett kid admitted to saying that he took advantage of.
Zahara Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 This girl is a hot mess. She's a liar and needs therapy. She's grasping for straws now with this being drugged claim. She spiraling out of control because you didn't believe her initial lies. OP if you really want to know the truth, she just gave you the cards to play with. Tell her you're going to talk to her parents and tell them there is a photo of her getting violated in an alley. She will NOT want them to know. This is where you say to her: "Tell me the truth NOW or I'm doing the right thing and am going to your parents and tell them to go to the police." I bet she will confess. I concur. If she really told her parents, I mean any parent wouldn't just check for bruises and call it a day. My god, she was drugged and sexually violated in an alleyway. Who ignores that? I have a feeling it was all made up. 2
Author cottom Posted November 1, 2013 Author Posted November 1, 2013 In the end ive had to text her mom and ask when this date was. She told me to ask this one kid called as he can back her up. He just said he knew nothing other than he seen the photo too
tlegend Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 In the end ive had to text her mom and ask when this date was. She told me to ask this one kid called as he can back her up. He just said he knew nothing other than he seen the photo too So she is lying about talking to her parents about being drugged and raped in an alleyway then? The picture itself is generally tagged with information on it. Run it through an EXIF data extractor to get longitude and lattitude coordinates if it was saved with the picture. THE DATE IN WHICH THE PICTURE WAS TAKEN is usually included with this information. In fact, if its a MOBILE PIC, chances are that if you plug it into the computer and view the properties of the picture, it will have a date that it was taken. It may still even be NAMED AFTER THE DATE THE PICTURE WAS TAKEN: ex. 20131031 (10/31/2013) or something similiar. This information should not be used maliciously, but in defense of your own privacy. (ie. TURN OFF EXIF DATA ON YOUR ****ING PICS!) Now, that being all said, only you know what this girl truely feels. I have NOT read your past posts, so I do not know of your history with her. Does it seem like there is constantly a bunch of bs coming out of her mouth? Does it seem like this is not the only time you feel you aren't being told the whole truth? Because if your gut is telling you that something is off, or something isn't right, you need to TRUST THAT. On the other hand, YOU KNEW what you were getting into apparently. You knew about this girls past, you knew how people felt about her, and it's becoming evident the lack of respect anyone has for her. Has this been rightfully assessed by people around her, or has this been unrightfully decided about her? You need to make the decision as to what's best for you and your heart. In the end, if you can't or won't trust her, then it doesn't matter if this happens or not. It seems like problems follow in the wake of this girl, and this is only the beginning. Can you handle her? 1
truth_seeker Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Because if your gut is telling you that something is off, or something isn't right, you need to TRUST THAT. I couldn't have written it better. +100.
Author cottom Posted November 1, 2013 Author Posted November 1, 2013 I spoke to her mom, her mom said that the drugging happened in April. She was made aware of the photo doing the rounds on facebook and she has asked me to keep hold of it i think for police (kind of shi**ing myself because i have a LOT of downloaded films on my laptop!). I now am in two minds to be there while my gf goes through the period of prosecution as the guy gets done for rape and spreading sexually explicit pornography without permission.
truth_seeker Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Man, you caught feelings for the town skank. Now you're wrapped up in this drama. You're going to have to be strong, go cold on this girl, delete her number, Facebook, everything and find a new girl. It will be tough for a bit, but in time you will get over her. 1
tlegend Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 I spoke to her mom, her mom said that the drugging happened in April. She was made aware of the photo doing the rounds on facebook and she has asked me to keep hold of it i think for police (kind of shi**ing myself because i have a LOT of downloaded films on my laptop!). I now am in two minds to be there while my gf goes through the period of prosecution as the guy gets done for rape and spreading sexually explicit pornography without permission. Honestly, how much do you believe in "date rape" blowjobs. Come on. Her mother doesn't know what the **** is going on, stop involving her. How much have you lied and manipulated your parents growing up? Everyone learns to do it, not that it is intentionally malicious. I'm sure even you have things you would never tell your parents... That being said, I have yet to hear of someone who was "drugged" but could manage a blowjob and in an alley nonetheless. Any "drugging" cases I've heard about from real life experiences a few women friends of mine had resulted in the woman having no recollection of the night, and being pacified by the drug. My 2 cents so far.
Zahara Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 A 5 month relationship and already so much drama. 1) kissed some guy at a club when she was dating you 3) got drugged and violated in an alleyway 4) got drugged again after a one night stand and woke up in someone else's bed 5) is known to sleep around town 6) pictures of her performing sex acts being circulated 7) still moaning about her deceased ex. Ugh. Aside from being drugged, she made out with some guy at a bar when she was in a relationship with you and then blamed him for forcing himself on her. Seems like a pattern. I'm not sure what you're doing to yourself but it isn't good. 3
truth_seeker Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 A 5 month relationship and already so much drama. 1) kissed some guy at a club when she was dating you 3) got drugged and violated in an alleyway 4) got drugged again after a one night stand and woke up in someone else's bed 5) is known to sleep around town 6) pictures of her performing sex acts being circulated 7) still moaning about her deceased ex. Ugh. Aside from being drugged, she made out with some guy at a bar when she was in a relationship with you and then blamed him for forcing himself on her. Seems like a pattern. I'm not sure what you're doing to yourself but it isn't good. What was 2) ??? Should I even ask?
Quiet Storm Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 I agree- she doesn't sound like relationship material. Are there any trees in the background of the photo? In April, the trees would have small budding leaves. In August the trees will be green & full. (at least in the N. Hemisphere). Also, can you tell if the guy was wearing shorts?
Author cottom Posted November 1, 2013 Author Posted November 1, 2013 Guys in jeans after a night in a club, trying to work out the background, and it appears to be taken from a third party
RedRobin Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 I haven't read the backstory on this... I'm thinking the guy(s) taking the videos and those passing them around are much more 'skanky' than a woman who would give him a BJ... voluntarily or unvoluntarily. ... and you call yourself 'friends' with guys who do that. Yuck. 1
veggirl Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Dude have some self respect. You are being pathetic. She ALREADY cheated on you once and has MOST LIKELY done it again. WTF is wrong with you? And, answer my question PLEASE! What would your buddy and the other guy gain by lying to you / making this up???? and f*cking REALLY, 2 police officers are told by their DAUGHTER that she was drugged & raped and they don't take her to the hospital? Gimme a freaking break. 2 cops don't think that oh I don't know, maybe she should get a rape kit done on her?! Maybe she should be tested to see what she was "drugged" with???? God use your brain dude. 2
Zahara Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Dude have some self respect. You are being pathetic. She ALREADY cheated on you once and has MOST LIKELY done it again. WTF is wrong with you? And, answer my question PLEASE! What would your buddy and the other guy gain by lying to you / making this up???? and f*cking REALLY, 2 police officers are told by their DAUGHTER that she was drugged & raped and they don't take her to the hospital? Gimme a freaking break. 2 cops don't think that oh I don't know, maybe she should get a rape kit done on her?! Maybe she should be tested to see what she was "drugged" with???? God use your brain dude. Yep, she already cheated once. Then blamed it on the guy and said he forced himself on her. Then she wakes up in some guys bed after a ONS and doesn't know how she got there. Then violated in an alleyway and her parents who are police don't even take her to the hospital to get her tested. It doesn't sound right.
Zahara Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 I suggest that you put your courageous self on and see the pictures. It is important that you know the important details too. Maybe that affair happened before she became your girlfriend. Don't make an early judgement. Only you can decide about this.. Err...he's already seen it and can't be sure of the timeline, as it's all hearsay, hence the dilemma.
RedRobin Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Err...he's already seen it and can't be sure of the timeline, as it's all hearsay, hence the dilemma. There is no dilemma. He's been sucked into a vortex of drama that he himself has helped create by hanging out with a) people who take pictures of sex with arguably questionable consent b) with people who can't take responsibility for their sexuality c) a pool of gossipers. I don't see any 'victims' here really. They seem to all feed off each other. Sounds like a blast. Not.
Zahara Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 There is no dilemma. In his head, there is, no matter what anyone says. Unfortunate.
runningfar Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 "I was asking those questions at gym earlier for a reason, but didnt say anything until i knew more but it wqs in august and his name was brett, you aint gna wanna see it but you have too as i have a picture of it, as i said ill talk to you tomorrow All i know is brett and he told someone, i aint saying namez, said he pulled her in august". look, so I don't know if your girlfriend is being honest or not. You'll have to decide that for yourself. However, your judge of character is suspect all around. I'm seriously disturbed you'd be friends with people who would pass around photos like that, talk about "pulling" girls, and just be so genuinely skeevy. I wouldn't be surprised if boys like that took advantage of someone. Your girlfriend does seem to have some mental issues to get over; that is likely why she sought solace through sexuality. If she never cheated, it wasn't bad like what these guys are doing though, harmful to someone who is not herself. If she did, it was a mistake harmful to another (you) and you should back as far away from her, as well as these friends or that circle. I would want nothing ot do with them if they didn't strongly condemn that behavior. 1
RedRobin Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 However, your judge of character is suspect all around. I'm seriously disturbed you'd be friends with people who would pass around photos like that, talk about "pulling" girls, and just be so genuinely skeevy. I wouldn't be surprised if boys like that took advantage of someone. ditto... not sure how we got to 4 pages on this thread before someone mentioned this.
joystickd Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 Time to dump the slut, whore, skeezer, skank or whatever name you want to call her. She is that because she carried the qualities I'd like to call DDP. They are drama, dishonesty, and promiscuity. I am a firm believer of keeping it real. If you are honest from the beginning it save a lot of drama.
hppr Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 Relationships are about trust and decent women will be honest with you most of the time, at least about important things. They're not going to leave you wondering, they won't try to pass off their mistakes as being someone or something else' fault etc. This girl sounds like a slut and a liar I wouldn't want someone like that in my life. As for your friend passing pics around that's pretty classy but at least he is trying to be somewhat honest with you. So I would give him a pass more or less.
hppr Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 I know a lot of people hate her, to most of my town shes one of those easy girls that everyone tried to get a bit of fun with and she went around after she left her last ex. The fact they have a photo and passing it around shows what little they think of her. She says she only had 2 drinks and cannot remember a thing after that except she woke up in an alleyway. Her mom and dad are both in the police, she told them she couldn't remember and woke up in an alleyway, they checked her for bruise as a sign of rape but there was none so left it. Bud that girl has issues she sounds like a textbook psycho. 1) lies and makes up excuses about everything, takes blame for nothing 2) everyone hates me because I'm pretty, nobody loves me, it's a conspiracy 3) sexually promiscuous, impulsive, very high one day low the next 4) attractive and very persuasive, knows how to push your buttons, very fun to be with at a party sort of thing 5) daddy issues - harder to judge without knowing what to look for If you're still reading this just chew on that for a bit I bet it rings true.
Author cottom Posted November 2, 2013 Author Posted November 2, 2013 Just to get a few things straight about everything plus stuff ive found out extra; 1) We had been dating for a month but made nothing official until the day after she had got on the guy in the club. She still swears to this day she pushed him straight off but 2 other people say that it was all over each other 2) The one night stand happened about a month before we started dating. She woke up in this boys bed and phoned her mom crying to fetch her as she had no memory of the previous night 3) This even is based on a picture that has been passed on from a person to a person to a person to a person to a person etc until it got to this girl that HATES my gf, with a passion. She then sent it to my mate and told him it was in August. 4) She doesnt look drugged at all in the picture but she is wearing eye shadow which i hate and told her to stop wearing it around June time because girls look better with more natural colour. Also her hair is as short as it was around April but i demanded she grow it longer cause i hate it short, it reminded me of her slaggy days. 5) Yes, i got with one of the easy girls in town, i live in the second biggest city in the UK and i see pictures of girls all the time getting fingered in clubs, ive seen a couple first hand having sex on a dance floor. 6) I feel it is just unfortunate that she got taken the picture of, by a third party as is evidence in the picture. But this kind of stuff gets passed round throughout the entire world daily.
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