automaticstop Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 I'm sorry. This post is very long, but I wanted to make it detailed in hopes of getting help. After breaking up and getting back together quite a few times, he broke up with me again a week ago and then agreed to take a break. I've been with this guy for over two years and started dating a week right after our high school graduation. We've lost our virginity to each other, never had a a serious relationship before, became the best of friends while losing many of our old friends, and have been there for each other in the worst of times. The Cheating It all started when an ex started texting me after a year into our relationship. Let's call my current ex G (the one I care about) and the other R. I thought we were just talking as friends, but G told me he didn't like it so I stopped. A while later I found out G still spoke to two of his ex-girlfriends, so I made a childish move and decided to start texting R back again. When I confronted G about this, he told me he was doing nothing wrong and made up excuses like "Oh my brother made me since she kept asking him about me at church." I kept texting R until G found out in late 2012 and he broke up with me. I constantly kept calling G, but he wouldn't pick up. This frustrated me and I started putting blame on R and texted him how I ruined everything because of him. He replied saying he wanted to see me one last time, so I did. We sat in his car and got closure out of our past relationship and then he kissed me. I ended up having sex with him 3 times and even went to a concert while I was broken up with G. Breaking up and Getting Back Together G took me back after two weeks. We were very happy for 6 months. I wanted to tell him what had happened while we were broken up, but I was such a coward. Later an old "friend" randomly came to my house and told me how she wanted to sleep with R and I told her what happened. She promised not tell anyone and ended up telling R's girlfriend... who told G through both facebook and twitter direct message. G broke up with me again. After that, we got back together and broke up 3 times because of high school friends finding out from R's girlfriend and bringing it up to him often. Around the second breakup, he got drunk at a party and kissed another girl which I found while looking through his phone. He looks through my phone quite often, so I didn't know it was so bad I went through his when he saw me. Now We talked and decided to go on break, but neither of us have ever taken a break so I don't even know how to go about it. We've sent each other a few good morning and good night texts until two days ago I sent him a novel length text of how I regretted my decisions and wanted to work things out and he ignored it. I sent him another today on how I missed him and he called me, telling me to stop and it went ugly ending up with him hanging up on me. -- I really do regret my actions and am ready to change. I don't want our relationship to just be a lesson learned. I really care for this person and want to work things out. I've heard of the no contact method, but I'm afraid of him forgetting me. He's also enlisted for the Air Force, but I'm not sure when he's leaving since he still has medical records to send in. I don't know how much time I have to work it out before he leaves. I'm willing to wait for him if we get back together.
Mcscooter Posted November 2, 2013 Posted November 2, 2013 Well you seem pretty young. As in young I mean inexperience in life. I would heavily advise you to let this one go. The relationship is too damaged right now. Give it "awhile" for things to change. Like a year or two. You said he's also going to the Air Force. Speaking from personal experience. It's never good to be in a relationship with someone in the military. Especially when your young. He will be going to places exploring and experiencing different things. As for you. Just move along and learn from the mistakes you've done. Don't do it on your next relationship. Simply saying just let it go, because the damage is already done. The only way for you guys to most likely work it out. Is down the road when you two become completely different people and meet again. That's why I say give it awhile. You should be doing different things especially if your going to college. Well you see if you meet each other down the road and your both different, than a new relationship can be created and those memories are just who you used to be. Believe me people change. Most likely what will happen though is you two will go your different paths because once you move on you begin to understand life more. You or someone might find you. Your young and free or you could say reckless lol. Life's too short to be taken serious. 1
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