Resilient_Shy83 Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Long story short. I had been in a 6 year relationship with future plans to marry. I have an 11 yr. old, but we had 2 daughters together. I just had our baby in June 2013. We moved to Baltimore together where he started his own business, things got shaky money wise, he asked me to stay with my mom(in Philly) until the business got more stabilized. At this time, he said he was looking into buying a home for us as well. So, upon staying with my mom I noticed his communication began to be less frequent and he was going out all the time with friends. I feel like I had no choice but to end because of his behavior because he became neglectful to me during my pregnancy when I needed him most. He missed the baby's birth and came hrs later, talk about pissed! And come to find out he got an apt for himself and began living a double life with a new female friend. Unbelievable. I cut all ties at that point, but he came back crying saying he wanted his family back and begging me to come home. WOW. So....I fed into because I have a new baby and I really wanted my own family unit as I had grew up in a single parent household. Then BOOM...I find out he went to Puerto Rico with this girl and I lost it. I did my detective work and found out who she was and sent her a msg on fb. She was shocked saying she knew he had kids but he told her we broke up a long time ago and the baby might not be his......yadda yadda yadda and she was hurt when I told her the Truth. He then calls me all irate like he has a reason to be upset and drove all the way up here and tried to bribe me with $2000 to call the girl and tell her what I told her was a lie! I didn't take the money because my dignity and pride wouldn't let me, like WTF. he put lies on top of my lies and the girl believes him now and she tells me Im bitter. Talk about pissed! So as of right now, I filed for custody and child support. I am trying to move forward, but he just left our relationship because he met someone new, not because we had problems or something I did, because I was damn good to him. Also, I don't know how to tell my 11 yr old whats going on. turns out, he had this female over his place (one weekend when he came to get the kids) and they went is his room together (she slept over) and he told my son not to tell me that he had female company. The effin nerve,like, I really need advice on how to deal with his immaturity because right now, I don't even want my kids around him!
Mr Scorpio Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Unfortunately, it will likely be up-to a judge as to whether or not your kids will be around him. If I were in your situation, I would deal with his immaturity by exposing yourself to it as little as possible. You won't be able to avoid him entirely, since you have children together. Beyond that though, the guy is a waste of carbon, and he isn't worth your time.
D-Lish Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 You should have made some fake promises, taken the $2000 and bolted- because it sounds like that is all the money you are ever going to get from this guy. I understand why people put up with crap in the name of love and family- but this guy is a loser with a capital L. Expecting any compassion or support sounds futile.
Author Resilient_Shy83 Posted November 1, 2013 Author Posted November 1, 2013 Thanks guys! he was def a waste of years out of my life.
D-Lish Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Thanks guys! he was def a waste of years out of my life. Not a waste of years, just a learning experience. If you apply that as you go forward, you're all good.
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