Stealth3 Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 So for the past couple of days Ive been feeling great. I even got a date setup for this weekend and I've been talking with another pretty attractive girl. I started my new job, felt great, everything has been good. For the first time I felt that I didn't want my ex anymore, I felt I was better off without her.....I didnt feel pain because of her not being with me anymore. And since I got to the point where she now at least responds I figured ill email her since why not. I figured that since im feeling so good and I dont really need her, I'll give her one last chance.... Well how wrong I was....I sent her a long email and told her maybe we can start from the beginning and things will be good only so she can respond with...."Stop emailing me, This is why I didnt want to talk to you. I've given you the chance to say goodbye, we are done now. Please. Move on" Dont know why but it brought me back to square 1.5....I guess I learned that no matter what you dont break NC or you literary go back to square 1 no matter how great you feel. And her rejecting me again made me want to chase her more...but I need to stop I will stop. I cant continue healing then throwing it all away.......
loveofhorses1970 Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 So sorry you are going through that. It's tough to move on when you still have feelings for someone. But when they make it clear they are done with the relationship, you have got to move on for both your sanity and to keep from being served with a restraining order (lol). Please focus on NC for your well being. Find anything you can to distract you. Even if it's a poem or something you repeat in your head to keep from thinking about her. Focus on anything but her. It will get better. It's almost as if you are detoxing from an addiction when you are going through this.
BC1980 Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 You have to regroup and move forward. Don't be too hard on yourself. Most of us have broken NC, and it has taken multiple stupid moves to get through to us. Look at it positively. Now, you know what will happen if you break NC again. Use this experience as a reason to stay silent. 2
BrightHope Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 I'm sorry! And don't be too hard on yourself. BC1980 is right....we've all done it. Learn from it and remember that NC is for you!
Shashasha Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Dont be too harsh in yourself - all if us make mistakes and we move on. We need to learn from the mistakes we make as well - please go nc - we want t gelp you get over this ASAP!
Salvatore85 Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 It happens stealth. I'm shocked how long and how well I've stuck to NC. She actually broke it to wish me a happy birthday but I stayed strong. You'll get there too buddy, it just takes time. Don't beat yourself up over it too much, it doesn't make you a bad person, just makes you human. Go out with this new girl you met and have a good time. You never know man, could be the start of something great...
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