Tarleton82 Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 some of you might have seen my one recent thread titled "after nearly four years". to make it short, my ex after a couple months of no contact contacted me out of the blue asking to meet me for a drink, which i got extremely excited about. and, of course, like an idiot i went, thinking, "what else could it be about?". She walked in dressed extremely provocative, even people in the bar were looking her sort of disgusted and like 'wtf'? so she had an extremely cold and aloof look on her face the entire time and the first thing she asks is "so...are you seeing anyone?" like in this cold bitchy voice. and i said, 'no not at all, are you"? And she says "oh, a couple people here and there" and then proceeds to flip her hair back all cocky like and tells me how she's seeing one of my former close friends who i suspected of her having a crush on during the end of the relationship. She leaves, after only fifteen minutes (literally) swills her beer down and doesn't say goodbye. I was doing ok last night, allowing my anger to override the confusion and anxiety but it just dawned on me - Christmas will be here soon. I can't help but break down. I know everyone says this, especially on here but this girl and I, we...were sooooo tight. We were the BEST of friends, always had each other's backs, so passionate, best sex life, etc. We were such a great team. Its just killing me. We used to visit this house in her parents' neighborhood that has a very, very elaborate Christmas light show outside their home and it became sort of an annual thing for us for the five years we were together. All I can think is that she's going to have that with someone else now and she behaves like she doesn't even care. There's no way to know but I want to believe I will hear something from her again, mostly so I can ignore it. I feel like I need it, that it will help me. I feel like she and him are just laughing behind my back and that all she's doing is talking about my flaws. This is all so wrenching and confusing. How? HOW?? I DO plan on ignoring her if she calls, unless she comes to me on my doorstep asking for another chance, but I don't believe that will happen. Still though, I was her first really long-term relationship. Five years, and she was my fiance. What the hell is going through her mind.
Stryker101 Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 There's no way to know but I want to believe I will hear something from her again, mostly so I can ignore it. I feel like I need it, that it will help me. No it will not. By the way you come off in your post this would be the worst possible thing to happen as you will keep bouncing around what-if's in your brain all day long. "Should I respond?", "If I respond, will he/she respond back?", "Is he/she only texting because they are lonely?", etc. Ultimately you'll be in a worst position than you are now. And when you inevitably give in, which you will by the way you come off, you'll be in a bigger state of worry when that other person ignores you again.
flight E Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 Which kind of luv will make you want such a creature back?
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