melissaxo Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 My ex and I dated for about a year before he broke up with me. I was going through some personal issues, and I was just not ready to be in a relationship, which he realized. 3 months have passed, and I now am back to my usual self. I cannot even describe how much I missed him in those 3 months. I realized how much I truly love him. I hadn't spoken to him since we broke up, but we were not on bad terms. The other night I realized he was in a new relationship. I texted him telling him how much I missed him, and was honest about all the things I was going through when we were together (most of which he didn't know). He answered me 3 days later. He didn't address the "I miss you" fact, but we spoke for a little bit about some of the health issues I was having, and he was upset that I didn't tell him. Finally, the last text he sent me was "i'm glad to hear you're ok." I haven't answered him back yet. I can just say thank you, and I imagine that might be the last time I hear from him ever again. What else can I say? How can I get us talking again? I can't bear that this might really be it.
Fufu Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 My ex and I dated for about a year before he broke up with me. I was going through some personal issues, and I was just not ready to be in a relationship, which he realized. 3 months have passed, and I now am back to my usual self. I cannot even describe how much I missed him in those 3 months. I realized how much I truly love him. I hadn't spoken to him since we broke up, but we were not on bad terms. The other night I realized he was in a new relationship. I texted him telling him how much I missed him, and was honest about all the things I was going through when we were together (most of which he didn't know). He answered me 3 days later. He didn't address the "I miss you" fact, but we spoke for a little bit about some of the health issues I was having, and he was upset that I didn't tell him. Finally, the last text he sent me was "i'm glad to hear you're ok." I haven't answered him back yet. I can just say thank you, and I imagine that might be the last time I hear from him ever again. What else can I say? How can I get us talking again? I can't bear that this might really be it. He's in a new relationship now? Why do you still want to talk to him again? Do you want to get back with him by establishing the contact? He replies you was just a courtesy, it's nothing much.
Author melissaxo Posted October 31, 2013 Author Posted October 31, 2013 I know that's exactly what it seems like to me as well. I want him back, but at the very least I just want answers, I want to talk about what happened 3 months ago. We broke up and we were both really hurt, and literally never spoke again. I acknowledged that I was wrong, I guess I want him to do the same
Zoe Lilith Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 you shouldn't have contacted him in the first place, that was a wrong thing to do. Leave it at that, you exchanged few messages, and now it's time to move on...Let it go. I wish you all the best. :-)
Fufu Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 I know that's exactly what it seems like to me as well. I want him back, but at the very least I just want answers, I want to talk about what happened 3 months ago. We broke up and we were both really hurt, and literally never spoke again. I acknowledged that I was wrong, I guess I want him to do the same It's over and there's nothing much to talk about. He's already seeing someone new. Don't put yourself in this situation. You can't control his feelings and actions but you do can control yourself.
CaliBabe Posted October 31, 2013 Posted October 31, 2013 He is in a new relationship and out of respect I think you should leave that be. How would you feel if you were in a relationship with someone and their ex disrespected your relationship? You cannot force him to have contact or leave her. If he wanted to do that he would do it on his own, without you telling him. Would you be able to live with yourself knowing you broke them up in such a selfish and unfair way? 1
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