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I have been going out with this girl for a few weeks now. She broke up with her husband 9 months ago. We used to work for the same company and I used to have a big crash on her. We connected after I left the company and have been on two dates and have already been intimate. We usually text a lot and she will go on deep into the night. Anyways two weeks ago, we set up a date for this past Saturday to hang out.

 

She had a Halloween party going on at her moms place but said it was okay to pick her up after the party and hang out.During the week, I asked her what she was doing on Friday and it happened that she didn't have anything planned
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I asked her if she wanted to hang out on Friday also and she said yes.Friday comes and I text her after work asking her what time I should pick her up. She replies with a message saying she wasn't sure whether I wanted to hang out and her sister had asked her to go to the movies to watch the Jackass movie. t kind of took me by surprise cause we had been texting and discussing this all week long I played it cool and told her to enjoy the movie.
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Saturday comes and I text her sometime midday asking her how her day was and what she was doing.

 

She doesn't respond until two hours later saying "hey I was getting ready" (for the Halloween party),she sends me a pic of what she was wearing for Halloween, I replied saying looking good, text me later and let me know what time I should pick u up. She doesn't reply. I wait 6 hours and text her again asking her how the party is going, she doesn't reply. I go to bed and text her mid day on Sunday asking her how the party went and what funny things happened. She didn't respond. This doesn't seem like her at all.

 

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i sent her a message on facebook asking her whether I had pissed her off. She replied after a few minutes saying "no, u didn't piss me off, a lot has been going on the last few days"

I talked to her a day or
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later and we texted back and forth until late but she has gone silent on me again.

 

I am wondering what the hell is going on...any suggestions on how I should handle this. I would usually let go if it was another girl but she is a perfect 10...lol. We have set up a date for this week but not sure whether she will cancel on me again...lol. Please advise...Thanks guys!!

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A. She did not break up with her husband and has been leading you along. Now he has found out and crap has hit the fan.

 

B. She has a new boy toy.

 

My guess is she either never left her husband or they are getting back together. And she has been caught with you on the side.

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underwater2010 Established Member

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What does your gut say lastking?

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A. She did not break up with her husband and has been leading you along. Now he has found out and crap has hit the fan.

 

B. She has a new boy toy.

 

My guess is she either never left her husband or they are getting back together. And she has been caught with you on the side.

 

This is so correct it needs a full quote, not just a like. For some reason her interest level has dropped and there is nothing you can do. Save yourself a lot more heartache and pull your own disappearing act. Trust me, any attempts at fixing things or going back to where things were have a 99% chance of failing at this point. Been where you are.......

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underwater2010 Established Member

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Just a little FYI for you. My FWH's MOW was a serial cheater that had at least 3 (known) men hanging on at the same time. That number includes my husband. 2 of which were chatting, pics and videos. 1 was a full on physical affair.

 

They exist and play with anyone that is willing. Please get away from her before she breaks your heart.

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Oh, and get her off that pedestal. I have yet to ever meet a true "10". There is no such thing, male or female.

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underwater2010 Established Member

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Oh, and get her off that pedestal. I have yet to ever meet a true "10". There is no such thing, male or female.

Totally agree....and remember that looks fade with time. That outer package is nothing without a great gift inside.

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RickFox Established Member

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sadly you're being phased out. she's hoping you'll get the message....

 

I see her telling you to leave her alone and never contact her again.

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sadly you're being phased out. she's hoping you'll get the message....

 

I see her telling you to leave her alone and never contact her again.

 

 

This. Been right where you are. I too believe I was with a serial cheater and she finally found a new toy to play with and dropped me like a hot potato. You've been replaced.

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This. Been right where you are. I too believe I was with a serial cheater and she finally found a new toy to play with and dropped me like a hot potato. You've been replaced.

 

Well I had moved on but she texted me out of the blue today and we talked for a few hours. She was very apologetic , we are meeting on sunday. Looks like am back on track...lol :D

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Been there and done that.

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Well good luck with that. Hope you get whatever it is from her that you are looking for.

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trailrunner1975 Established Member

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Been there and done that.

 

Same here. Hopefully this guy is the 1% that escapes what I posted earlier. Good luck!

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New boy toy dumped her and she wants back in for now.

 

I have found about the only thing that keeps a girl for not responding to numerous texts over days is another guy.

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It could be what everyone else says, or it could be she is rethinking her decision on her M, or having a difficult time with it.

 

I would say if you only went on two dates, and she has already put out, it more than likely spells out that its not her struggling with her decision regarding her M.

 

Whatever the reason is, you are being phased out like RickFox said. If you keep texting, she will get nasty or rude, and you will feel even worse.

 

So, I would suggest to just stop.

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I don't get relationships that start with such huge DISRESPECT. Doesn't that set the tempo for the rest of it? You do know, what you are signing up for...don't you?

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A. She did not break up with her husband and has been leading you along. Now he has found out and crap has hit the fan.

 

B. She has a new boy toy.

 

My guess is she either never left her husband or they are getting back together. And she has been caught with you on the side.

Yea...I think she never left the ex husband despite lying to me numerous times. We were friends on facebook and she unfriended me recently. The reason she gave was that her ex husband was going through her profile and verbally attacking people and she didn't want me to go through that. Anyways long story short, we barely text to each other nowadays although we are still friends. She said that she would never get back with the husband but am confused why she is worried about him or she may have a new boy toy that she doesn't want me to see on her facebook.

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It's the perfect 10 thing, you am on to strong, put her on a pedestal and were too attentive. If she's hot she needs you to indifferent and almost uninterested like you could take it or leave it. If you would have posted pics with you and another hottie on FB the next weekend she would have been all over you. Nobody wants to belong to a club that would have them as a memeber... Lesson learned bring on the next dime!

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I have been going out with this girl for a few weeks now. She broke up with her husband 9 months ago. We used to work for the same company and I used to have a big crash on her. We connected after I left the company and have been on two dates and have already been intimate. We usually text a lot and she will go on deep into the night. Anyways two weeks ago, we set up a date for this past Saturday to hang out.

 

She had a Halloween party going on at her moms place but said it was okay to pick her up after the party and hang out.During the week, I asked her what she was doing on Friday and it happened that she didn't have anything planned
so
I asked her if she wanted to hang out on Friday also and she said yes.Friday comes and I text her after work asking her what time I should pick her up. She replies with a message saying she wasn't sure whether I wanted to hang out and her sister had asked her to go to the movies to watch the Jackass movie. t kind of took me by surprise cause we had been texting and discussing this all week long I played it cool and told her to enjoy the movie.
So
Saturday comes and I text her sometime midday asking her how her day was and what she was doing.

 

She doesn't respond until two hours later saying "hey I was getting ready" (for the Halloween party),she sends me a pic of what she was wearing for Halloween, I replied saying looking good, text me later and let me know what time I should pick u up. She doesn't reply. I wait 6 hours and text her again asking her how the party is going, she doesn't reply. I go to bed and text her mid day on Sunday asking her how the party went and what funny things happened. She didn't respond. This doesn't seem like her at all.

 

So
i sent her a message on facebook asking her whether I had pissed her off. She replied after a few minutes saying "no, u didn't piss me off, a lot has been going on the last few days"

I talked to her a day or
so
later and we texted back and forth until late but she has gone silent on me again.

 

I am wondering what the hell is going on...any suggestions on how I should handle this. I would usually let go if it was another girl but she is a perfect 10...lol. We have set up a date for this week but not sure whether she will cancel on me again...lol. Please advise...Thanks guys!!

 

You can't do anything except allow it to play out.

 

You've reached out and it's up to her to reciprocate. Usually this going silent is a passive way of pulling back.

 

Less than a year of divorce can still be a volatile emotional time and a time when it is likely that someone will be rebounding and with rebounding sometimes you come to your senses or feel dissatisfied with it smack dab in the middle, while the other person is left confused.

 

It's most likely not anything you've done but her own thing. All you can do is allow her to respond to your initiations and step back if she isn't responding.

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road Established Member

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My guess is she either never left her husband or they are getting back together. And she has been caught with you on the side.

 

 

 

We have a winner!

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My guess is that since you have her on such a high pedestal, you are leaving yourself at her beck and call, and her interest is fading because of it. I don't see enough info that she may be getting back with the ex, but maybe she is having 2nd thoughts about getting into another relationship so quickly. Maybe she just wants to enjoy being single for while.

 

Either way, I would back off and give her some space. If you text, and she doesn't respond, don't keep sending follow up texts. She blows you off, just do the same and put her on the back burner. If she wants this to happen with you, let her make a move.

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