SadAndLonely Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 How do you prove something to someone? My boyfriend had a horrible day today. I didn't see him, but during the course of the day he spilled soda all over his keyboard and desk, got a migraine, and discovered that someone erased his ex-girlfriend's number from his phone. Now, he and his ex are still sort of friends, and she sent him a postcard the other day saying how they should get together soon (she's married, and I know he's not interested in her anymore....she broke up with him seven years ago), so over the weekend I expressed that it made me feel uncomfortable but that I wouldn't ask him not to, so when he told me about the phone thing, I couldn't help but feel like he thought I did it. I told him I didn't, and I would never do anything like that, because I respect other people's privacy and personal property. I'd never read his emails, either. But although he said, "I'm not saying you did," he said it in a tone that sounded unhappy. How do I get him to believe me? Even if I didn't like him getting together with her (more my own insecurity than any problem with him), I'd never erase her number from his phone. *sigh*
zara Posted December 14, 2004 Posted December 14, 2004 My advice would be to not harp on about it too much - offer him solutions like suggesting he look through old text messages for any from her or his old phone bills or search for an old letter with her address so that he can write to her. If he sees you are willing to help then he will see that you are indeed the kind, thoughtful and generous person you are. It would sadden me to think that he could think you were so cruel and underhand.
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